My partner is obsessed with getting pregnant. She gets more upset each month. Is this normal?
Yes! Most women want to conceive quickly once the decision has been made. The waiting is often the hardest part. Each month, they have to wait to find out whether or not they're pregnant. This means that when their period does come, they can be desperately disappointed.
Talk to your partner about when her next period is due so that you can be there, to commiserate or hopefully to celebrate with her. Also try to spend quality time together doing nice things other than having sex.
My partner insists on using ovulation kits. When she thinks it’s the ‘right time’ we’re supposed to get on with it, but I don’t perform to order.
This is a perfectly normal way to feel. Ovulation predictor kits can be helpful, but can also make it harder for both of you as the whole thing can get too clinical. Talk to your partner about how you are feeling.
Remember that it is preferable to have frequent sex throughout the menstrual cycle, not just on the few days when an ovulation test is positive. If a man does not ejaculate for longer than three or four days, the quality of the sperm stored in the man's tubes deteriorates.
We have been trying for nearly a year and we're still not pregnant. Is it my fault?
First of all, it is not a good idea to start feeling guilty. Stress can hinder conception. If you're worried about your fertility you should go and see your doctor together, or separately if you prefer. You can discuss your general health and get some advice.
In the meantime, try to cut down on alcohol, wear loose fitting underwear and, if you are in a job where you sit for long periods of time, aim to stand up regularly. All these simple measures can increase your sperm count, although they can take a few months to kick in.
Can working with pesticides affect my fertility?
Some types of work do carry health risks and can make a difference to a man's sperm. You will need to get the facts about the specific products that you are using. The best way is to contact the manufacturer directly, or if you are employed, ask your company’s health and safety officer.
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ℹLast reviewed on June 13th, 2017. Next review date June 13th, 2020.