5 things to do when you find out you're pregnant

Just found out you're pregnant? Here are 5 things every mum-to-be should have on her to-do list for a safe and healthy pregnancy.

Congratulations! Whether you’re jumping for joy, still in a state of shock, or feeling a mixture of both - we’re here to support you every step of the way to help you have a healthy pregnancy.

Make sure you’re sitting comfortably, take a deep breath, and let us guide you through the early days. Here are five things to get your pregnancy off to the best start

1. Calculate your due date

Work out your baby's due date with our simple calculator, and sign up to our pregnancy email for free weekly updates on your baby's development.

📅 Calculate your due date

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If your cycle is shorter or longer than 28 days, please adjust the number above.

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2. Track your baby's development

You can sign up here to get weekly emails from our midwives that track your baby's development in the womb, tell you what to expect next and let you know what you need to do and when. 

3. Contact your GP

This will be the first appointment that kicks off your pregnancy care (antenatal care). Your GP will let the midwifery team know you are pregnant and they will give you a date for your booking appointment, which usually happens around week 8 to 10 of your pregnancy. You may also be able to self-refer or see a midwife straight away, but your GP can let you know how this works in your area.

4. Check how healthy you are

Work out your BMI and check your caffeine intake with our healthy pregnancy tools. Now that you’re pregnant you may need to make some simple lifestyle changes to help your growing baby.

Check how healthy you are with our healthy pregnancy tools.

5. Focus on these for a safer pregnancy

6. Manage your early pregnancy symptoms

The first few weeks of pregnancy can be the toughest when it comes to feeling iffy. Tiredness, sore boobs and morning sickness are all common in the first few weeks of pregnancy. Find out how to cope with them.

There are some symptoms that could be a sign that something is wrong. Be aware of these with our symptom checker and get in touch with a midwife promptly if you have them.

Find out what happens next with our pregnancy calendar.

Find out what happens next

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Sources

1. Hollis BW et al. (2011). “Vitamin D supplementation during pregnancy: Double-blind, randomized clinical trial of safety and effectiveness.” JBMR 2011;26:2341-2357

2. National Institute for Health and Care Excellence (2008) ‘Antenatal Care’, NICE Clinical Guidelines 62: http://publications.nice.org.uk/antenatal-care-cg62

3. Macdonald S, Magill-Cuerden J (2012) Mayes’ Midwifery, 14th edition, London, Ballière Tindall.

4. NHS Choices [accessed 23/03/2018]  Alcohol in pregnancy http://www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/pages/alcohol-medicines-drugs-pregnant.aspx 

5. ROCG (2015) Alcohol and pregnancy, Information for you, Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists https://www.rcog.org.uk/globalassets/documents/patients/patient-information-leaflets/pregnancy/pi-alcohol-and-pregnancy.pdf 

6. NHS choices [accessed 23/03/2018] Why should I avoid some foods during pregnancy?  http://www.nhs.uk/chq/Pages/917.aspx?CategoryID=54

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Last reviewed on April 10th, 2018. Next review date April 10th, 2021.

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  • By Ann lifted (not verified) on 7 Nov 2018 - 07:36

    Am pregnant wit my 1st babies my last period date was oct10 when is my due date

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 9 Nov 2018 - 15:48

    Hi Ann,
    You can use the calculator on this page to see when your estimated due date will be.
    Best wishes
    Tommy's midwife

  • By Patricia (not verified) on 31 Oct 2018 - 18:37

    Hi,,am pregnant and so disturbed I don't know how to tell my mom I conceived ,,and don't have anyone to confide in do you think an abortion is the best solution and if not please advise me because giving birth at the age of 20 will affect my education as well as my relationship with my parents.

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 5 Nov 2018 - 11:46

    Hi Patricia
    Both https://www.mariestopes.org.uk/ and https://www.bpas.org/ will be able to help you evaluate how you feel about this pregnancy and what you will decide to do.
    They offer counselling services to help you come to a decision that you are happy with- as well as explaining the procedure to you so that you can make a fully informed decision. All the best
    Tommy's Midwife



  • By Ogechukwu (not verified) on 30 Oct 2018 - 07:27

    I have just take pregnant test at home with salt and urine sample and it comes out positive,is it possible for me to be having sex with my husband,i just noticed that am pregnant this morning thanks.

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 2 Nov 2018 - 10:09

    Hi,
    Sex in pregnancy is safe unless you have been advised otherwise by a midwife or doctor. Please be aware that testing for a pregnancy using a home urine and salt method is not a proven effective way of testing for pregnancy, therefore I would suggest to use a pregnancy test from a pharmacy or shop to be sure.
    Best wishes
    Tommy's midwife

  • By Jaden (not verified) on 26 Oct 2018 - 09:54

    I am trying to conceve. I've had very light pink bleeding for the past 5 days, not enough to fill a pad or tampon, just as I wipe. Its not continuous either. My period was due to start 2 days ago and this bleeding is not getting heavier. I last had sex 16 days ago during my ovulation period. Could this be implantation? I'm too nervous to take a test.

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 26 Oct 2018 - 10:33

    Hi Jaden,
    It is very likely that this could be an implantation bleed, however taking a a pregnancy test is the only way of knowing if you are pregnant. If you are not already, then we would advise for you to be taking a folic acid supplement.
    Best wishes,
    Tommy's midwife

  • By Karlie (not verified) on 15 Oct 2018 - 00:43

    I have always been irregular when it comes to my menstrual cycle. I think I have them at the most 3 times a year... although I did go 1.5 years without one once. My last was April 2018. My husband and I are trying to convince I'm just wondering if it's even possible?

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 15 Oct 2018 - 16:48

    Yes it can happen but you could consider seeing your GP to discuss your options.

  • By Anastacia (not verified) on 22 Sep 2018 - 22:02

    Hi, me and my boyfriend have been trying since last month for a baby and recently I feel different. I crave foods I hardly eat. I’ve missed my period this month. I’ve been feeling sick (throwing up) but the tests I take still come up negative. I have all the signs of early pregnancy. But I’m afraid that I’m not. What do I do?

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 24 Sep 2018 - 12:21

    Hi Anastacia,
    There are several reasons why you may have a missed period yet the pregnancy test is negative. Mostly the situation will resolve in a few days when either you will get a positive test or your period will come.
    Firstly You could be pregnant, but the pregnancy hormones haven't built up enough yet.
    Secondly, You are not pregnant, but you have missed your period for an unrelated reason.
    Thirdly, You could be pregnant, but the test isn’t working.
    And lastly, You could be pregnant, but something is wrong.
    I won't go into any detail here but if in a few days this hasn't resolved, please see your doctor. Best wishes

  • By stuck (not verified) on 21 Sep 2018 - 23:26

    i just found out i was pregnant. ive had 2 bfp and they showed up dark on the test as soon as it touched the pee basically. so my cohsins thinks im about two months the last period i can remeber was ausgust 1 last day of period. but since i didnt know i was preg ive been smoking cigs and weed if i stop now is it going to affect the baby and if i go to the hospital for a blood test will thwy try to take the baby away

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 24 Sep 2018 - 12:30

    Hello. The most important thing for you to do is to stop smoking and arrange to see your GP as soon as possible. You will be referred to your local hospital who will arrange to see you to plan your care. It is always best to keep babies with their mothers if at all possible and it is rare to need to remove a baby from its own family. Please be reassured that we are here to support you and not to judge you. Take good care of yourself.

  • By katie ann (not verified) on 20 Sep 2018 - 03:41

    i am currently 13 and me and my best friend where playing around and we started doing more then playing around. im scared to tell my mother but i took 4 text all coming out positive, you can also see the baby bump starting to form. please help me. i dont understand how to tell my parents

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 21 Sep 2018 - 15:50

    Hello Katie.
    You have several options here. If you don't want to talk to your parents you can confide in your school nurse or one of your teachers. You can also arrange to go and see your doctor. This can be in confidence without telling your parents. You can discuss with them when you are ready to do so. If you want to call us anonymously we are here to support you on weekdays Monday to Friday 9-5pm. We can talk for as long as you like.
    Take good care of yourself. Tommy's midwives

  • By Letty (not verified) on 13 Sep 2018 - 21:29

    I have just found out that I am pregnant, I am terrified, I am a 19 year old. My last period was on the on the 4th of august 2018. What could possibly be my due date?

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 14 Sep 2018 - 11:33

    Hi Letty,
    According to your dates you will be due about 10th May 2019. If you are not already, then I would advise for you to be taking a folic acid supplement. Finding out you are pregnant can bring about a huge range of emotions and feelings. If you are worried or anxious then please do be in contact with us and we can support you, you can call us on 0800 0147 800 or email [email protected], we are here Monday to Friday 9-5pm.
    Best wishes
    Tommy's midwife

  • By Jo (not verified) on 8 Sep 2018 - 13:23

    Hi. I'm pregnant. Now it's 2-3 weeks since last ovulation. I wasn't taking any folic acid while trying to conceive. Can it affect pregnancy in a bad way? Thank you.

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 12 Sep 2018 - 10:04

    It's recommended to start taking Folic acid three months before conception but if it’s too late for that, don’t worry but start taking the recommended daily amount now and continue taking it until the end of the first trimester (week 12 of your pregnancy).

    The following link has more information about early pregnancy health-
    https://www.tommys.org/pregnancy-information/im-pregnant/early-pregnancy/dos-and-donts-safer-pregnancy

  • By Anonymous (not verified) on 30 Aug 2018 - 17:08

    I'm 8 days late which never happens. My period comes like clockwork. Ive tested negative on 3 hpt and negative on the blood work. What do I do?

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 31 Aug 2018 - 14:09

    Hi,
    It sounds like it is best to see your GP for a review. Some changes in a cycle is common but if this is ongoing then t is important to rule out anything medical.
    Best wishes
    Tommy's midwife

  • By Daisy (not verified) on 28 Aug 2018 - 18:51

    Hi I just found out I’m pregnant this is my first pregnancy my last period was on June 16 how far am I in my pregnancy ? & I also have a doctors appointment coming up should I let my doctor know my pregnancy test was positive before I go in to the appointment or should I just wait??

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 30 Aug 2018 - 15:36

    Hi Daisy, Thank you for your comment and congratulations on your pregnancy.
    If your last period was on the 16th June then your estimated due date should be around the 22nd March 2019. You don't have to tell the GP you are pregnant before your appointment just wait until the appointment where you can talk in private when in the consultation and then you should be referred to the midwife. Hope this helps, take care, Tommy's Midwives x

  • By Ayesha (not verified) on 25 May 2018 - 13:40

    Hi, I justo found out I al 5 weeks pregnant after trying forma years with muy husband, I al 42, and have 2 grown up children from before, muy concern is that I have B rhesus d negative blood, and muy husband has A +..I nearly lost muy oldest son because he had his dada positive blood, what should i do to prevent problema with this pregnancy, we have waited so long, and at muy age theres many risks, so I need all the help that can be offered, thank you.

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 25 May 2018 - 15:14

    Hi Ayesha,
    Congratulations on this pregnancy!
    I understand your concerns, and this really depends on whether you received the anti-d injection during and after your previous pregnancies? If you did then there should not be a concern and you will be offered the same in this pregnancy. If you did not receive anti - d injection then do discuss this with your midwife and they may refer to you the fetal medicine team and a consultant for close monitoring and a care plan.
    Best wishes
    Tommy's midwives

  • By lovechildparent (not verified) on 9 May 2018 - 10:04

    hi I just found out im preggies, married. can I ask my Gynae instead to see me instead of a GP? Im so nervous about all this as it is my first pregnancy.

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 9 May 2018 - 11:27

    Hi,
    Congratulations on your news! You can of course see your Gynae doctor if you want to but it is normal( in the UK) to see the GP briefly who will then refer you to the midwife for your first booking appointment before
    12 weeks.
    https://www.tommys.org/pregnancy-information/im-pregnant/antenatal-care/booking-appointment
    I understand that you are feeling nervous please do look at our early pregnancy pages and email [email protected] or call 0800 0147 800 if you have questions
    Warmest wishes for your pregnancy
    Anna-Tommy's Midwife

  • By Pauline (not verified) on 12 Apr 2018 - 08:24

    After an extremely traumatic teenage period/ early adulthood involving an unplanned pregnancy because of rape and him getting violent and beating me up so i lost the baby (don't worry he's in prison and can't hurt me any more), I recently found out I'm pregnant with my first child since then with a partner who loves me!

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 12 Apr 2018 - 10:00

    Hi Pauline,
    I am so sorry to hear about all that you have gone through, that must have been extremely difficult for you. But i am so so pleased to hear that you are expecting a baby now, with a lovely partner and a picture perfect future ahead! If you need to talk anything through with us on the midwifery team (pregnancy can be a time of both joy and sometimes anxiety) then please don't hesitate at all! You can reach us on 0800 0147800 or email us directly (and privately) on [email protected]
    All the best Pauline
    Sophie, Tommy's Midwife :)

  • By Mummyof5 x (not verified) on 19 Mar 2018 - 10:18

    Hi I have just found out am pregnant again with my ex’s baby he is in a new relationship and has told me he doesn’t want it we already have 5 kids together but I really don’t think I can go through with a termination plz can someone give me advice

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 21 Mar 2018 - 09:41

    Hi,
    We are here to support you and talk through what you are going through. You can contact us Monday to Friday 9-5pm either via phone on 0800 0147 800 or email [email protected]
    Best wishes, Tommy's midwife x

  • By Molly (not verified) on 17 Feb 2018 - 19:48

    I’ve just found out I’m having my fourth baby! Although my youngest is 17 month old, I still feel so new to this! Like what should I do? What should I be eating to help them grow? I’ve been out and got my folic acid today, I’m eleven days past ovulation so very very early. I’m so scared something will go wrong. Thanks x

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 19 Feb 2018 - 14:36

    Congratulations on your pregnancy. Our website is very comprehensive now and gives information on every stage of pregnancy. Why not look at our facebook page too as this will give you reminders and help with anxiety problems.

  • By Mummyof4 (not verified) on 8 Feb 2018 - 14:23

    I’ve just found out that I’m pregnant with my 5th child,I don’t know what to do I would love to keep the baby but don’t think my body could cope with any more stress,my partner wants me to have an abortion as he feels he wouldn’t be able to cope with another one,I’m not sure how fare gone I am at this point but I can feel slight movement already

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 9 Feb 2018 - 15:48

    Hi,
    I am so sorry to hear that you are experiencing such a difficult time at the moment. I think it would be good to speak with someone about how you are feeling and your concerns. Please do feel free to call us, we are here Monday to Friday 9-5pm on 0800 0147 800 or else you can email us [email protected] if that is more comfortable for you. Wishing you all the best, Tommy's midwives x

  • By chantel (not verified) on 5 Jan 2018 - 02:55

    Chantel Morgan Baby Son Boy

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 23 Oct 2017 - 14:42

    Hi, If you live in the UK the first thing to do is to visit your GP or midwife who will help you to arrange your care over the next few months. After that follow our pregnancy calendar for help and tips to maintain a healthy pregnancy. So glad you have already found our site. You can find us on facebook too. Best wishes, Tommy's midwives

  • By Anonymous (not verified) on 23 Oct 2017 - 14:33

    I’m pregnant and I’m not sure what to do ?!

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 3 Aug 2016 - 11:09

    We've heard it's the same as a Ferrari by the time they are 18!

  • By Anonymous (not verified) on 3 Aug 2016 - 05:27

    How much does this whole baby thing cost

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