"It's just one of those things..."

As soon as I laid on that bed and I saw the sonographer's face, I knew I'd lost the baby again.

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May 2016

by Danielle

I had a healthy natural pregnancy and gave birth to a daughter in March 2011. By mid 2012, I fell pregnant again. It was a shock, but we were excited to have another baby, and brother or sister for our daughter.

The 12 week scan was fine, we saw our baby for the first time and were so excited, we told all our family and friends immediately.

When I was 16 weeks pregnant, I had a dark discharge so I rang the midwife who told me it was normal even though I hadn't experienced it previously. I ended up in A & E after I started bleeding, but they couldn't confirm anything as it was a Saturday night.

In the early hours of Monday morning, a few hours before my scan at the EPU, I started bleeding heavily. I lost a lot of blood and had to be rushed to hospital by ambulance, my placenta had torn and I needed surgery for an emergency evacuation (such a lovely term).

At the time I couldn't think of what was happening as I was in so much pain. It wasn't until the following weeks when people were asking "how's the pregnancy" and "let's see the bump" only to have to re-live the fact that I wasn't carrying my baby anymore.

In time my husband and I came to terms with it, but then couldn't conceive again. We both went for tests, but nothing came back. Unexpectedly in June 2016, I did a test and could have shouted from the roof that I was pregnant! We kept it under wraps from most people though.

2 days after my 12 week scan, the same dark discharge happened again. I rang my husband and he met me from work and we went to A&E again, my husband demanded I have a scan as he was scared I'd lose so much blood again like the first time.

As soon as I laid on that bed and I saw the sonographer's face, I instantly knew I'd lost the baby again. However, this time she informed me it was twins! I lay on that bed and cried my eyes out and she looked at me and said "It's just one of those things. Don't worry you're only 27, you have plenty of opportunities to have more children".

I still cry over all 3 babies that lived inside me, but each day gets easier to cope with, especially after I discovered Tommy's and read all the courageous stories from women who have been in the same situations as me. Also, the fantastic work Tommy's do, which inspired me and my husband to support by running the Manchester 10k for Tommys in May as a special memory for our 3 angels.

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