It was a very sad time and I felt very isolated

Nearly every one I knew had either had a miscarriage or knew someone who had.

Heartbreaking stories. Devastating stories. The miscarriage story needs to change. That's why we've created Tommy's book of #misCOURAGE. Read this story now and help spread the word that miscarriage can no longer be ignored. Help us change the story to save babies' lives.


May 2016

I started trying for our first baby in Oct 2013, aged 37. We found out I was pregnant in Dec that year, so told our families (as I couldn't drink / eat usual favourites over Xmas). On 5th Jan 2014, I noticed bleeding and early scan on 10th Jan showed the baby's heart had stopped at 7 weeks, so I was pregnant very quickly.

I was off work for 3 weeks as it was a delayed / missed miscarriage and my commute was 4 hours a day. It was a very sad time and I felt very isolated. However, when I told friends and work colleagues a few weeks later; nearly every one had either had a miscarriage or knew someone who had. Suddenly I wasn't alone. I started using period tracker app, changed jobs to one with total 1 hour commute per day, stopped drinking caffeine and alcohol and got healthier.

In July 2014, when my husband was graduating university as a mature student, we discovered I was pregnant again. His parents knew a few days later, when I couldn't drink at his graduation ceremony. This time, the pregnancy went well and our son was born in April 2015! Now one year old, he is gorgeous, funny, bright, active and the light of our lives. He was born when I was nearly 39 and we had been married nearly 10 years. I'm sharing my story as it may give someone else the confidence to keep trying in similar circumstances. Fingers X for rainbow babies.

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