How do you explain to an excited 3 year old that mummy doesn't have a baby in her tummy anymore?

To the nurse this was just another day at work to us this was the worst day of our lives.

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July 2016

Kirsty and her husband

by Kirsty East

My husband and I married in December and then found out after going to the doctors suspecting a water infection that I was in fact pregnant, we were over the moon to add another baby to our family we already had a little girl Miley whom was 3 at the time.

The weeks past everything was fine we had our honeymoon and then 2 weeks later the at 18 weeks pregnant I had a show. We headed to A&E and I had a scan and an internal scan and I was told that everything was fine and not to worry, just to slow down with things...

Three days later on the Saturday morning I had awful pains on and off throughout the day later that evening I went back to A&E and then the heartbreaking news was confirmed. My cervix were bulging and I was in early labour and it was too late to do anything to save my baby.

My world was numb all I could think about was what am I going to tell Miley. How do you explain to an excited 3 year old that mummy doesn't have a baby in her tummy anymore?

I spent the night in hospital and gave birth to our little girl Elsa at 12.15pm. I wasn't allowed to see her straight away they told me to go to the toilet with a bed pan and deliver the baby in this and put a lid on it... I was disgusted.

Three hours later I was asked if I wanted to see my baby but my husband had gone to check on Miley, so I said not on my own, I'll wait for Michael, to which the nurse replied "OK i'll send her to the mortuary" and walked out of the room.

My mind and body were numb I couldn't take any of this in. I left hospital that night with a leaflet and a bag of antibiotics like nothing had happened. To the nurse this was just another day at work to us this was the worst day of our lives. Six days later I finally got to see my baby and put her to rest. The pain never goes away. 

2 years later we now have a beautiful little girl Emie.

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