A bruise on my heart forever

I lost two babies. Its a deeply hidden pain, we don't wear a badge saying 'I lost a baby'.

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#misCOURAGE story, 05/07/2017, by Claire

I lost two babies.

One at 4 months - we had to 'untell' everyone we had told - and one a 10 weeks.

I had been having fertility drug treatment to conceive so this was a double devastation each time. I had manage to get pregnant - but lost it. The pain was enormous.

Those who 'just get pregnant and have a baby' cannot possibly understand this. My step-grandmother (one miscarriage and one stillbirth) wrote me a beautiful letter, with the words 'Those of us who have lost a baby carry a bruise on our hearts forever' and I share these words with all of you who have lost a baby.

She was so right - I have a gorgeously healthy 16 year old daughter, my very precious 'baby', but the thought of those 2 other babies can still make me cry.

Its a deeply hidden pain, we don't wear a badge saying 'I lost a baby'.

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