Your stillbirth stories

Stories from Tommy's supporters who have suffered stillbirth.

  • Baby loss submission

    Story

    In that silence I could hear my heart breaking

    When I reached 9 weeks I started to have a feeling that something wasn't right, my symptoms had slowly started fading.

  • Lewis smiling while running the Royal Parks Half Marathon for Tommy's

    Story

    Lewis takes on 24hr run for Tommy's in memory of his son

    "After all, the pain of pushing your body through a run is nothing in comparison to losing a child but it is my personal outlet and way to honour my son’s memory."

  • Story of Miscourage

    Story

    Just us two and I miss you

    The midwife said: 'Maybe he is turned in a funny position', but we waited and still she couldn’t find the heartbeat.

  • Story

    Shane Finney's 12 in 12

    When it comes down to it, I would never have got anywhere near completing my challenge had it not been for Tommy's, the amazing cause and those they have touched.

  • Story

    Over a 6-year period I have lost 5 babies

    Looking back now I realise that my experiences have taught me some valuable lessons. That strength does not have to mean silence; being brave can involve tears and that these babies are chapters of my story.

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    Story

    I lay on my bed crying

    "There have been times where I've felt like the only person going through this horrible situation (even though I know I'm not) and felt that people just don't know what to say. The more we talk about it the more we can support each other."

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    Story

    Pardip's LLHM world record

    "When I crossed the finish line, I was the happiest man on earth. My finish time was 01:43:43; a New Guinness World Record for fastest half marathon in a straitjacket."

  • Story

    Tilly had a huge impact in the short time she was here

    I know this is going to be a journey full of emotions, but I also know this is something I need to do. Not only for myself but my partner, my son and to show Tilly that she had a huge impact on the world in the short time she was here.

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    Story

    Nikki and Glenn

    "Each month that went by provided another disappointment that we had not managed the one thing we hoped for most."

  • Georgia and Dom Bunning before the LLHM 2018

    Story

    Georgia's Reason for Running

    Although Bea’s time with us had been so cruelly cut short, we were determined that her legacy would be long-lasting. It was the only way we knew how to parent the child missing from our arms.

  • Story

    Sharon's Reason for Running

    My world had crashed. My baby could not have died. I was still pregnant, they must be wrong. Nobody is available to help me. What will I tell my Mum? What have I done wrong?

  • Story

    Jenni's Reason for Running

    To us, she was perfect and the love we felt for her stronger than I had ever understood possible. In spite of our grief, we would never change our experience of knowing and loving Aisling.

  • Story

    Richard's Reason for Riding

    What kept me going was the thought that I was doing this for my daughter Sophie, that I was doing this in her memory.

  • Story

    Katie's Reason for Running

    Losing your baby is one of the worst things you can experience in your life and the pain is unimaginable.

  • The Hologic Award

    The Hologic Courage Award

    The Hologic Award, celebrates a couple or individual who have faced adversity on their road to parenthood, but have shown great strength and resilience.

  • Nicole Addy

    Closer Star Fundraiser Award

    The Closer Star Fundraiser Award an extraordinary individual who has gone above and beyond to fundraise in their local community on behalf of Tommy’s.

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    Blog

    How I coped with anxiety in pregnancy after loss

    One mum has helped us compile some tips to help women pregnant again after a loss get through what can be a difficult nine months.

  • Motif that says When it rains look for rainbows when it's dark look for stars

    Story

    Pregnancy was tough but life outside it was tougher

    Charnjit lost baby Zara at 27 weeks due to intrauterine growth restriction. Her following pregnancy, which she writes about here, was a time of great anxiety for her and her family.

  • Story

    I felt I was expected to grieve in silence

    Shelley's baby Joseph was stillborn at 37 weeks. A post-mortem found that Joseph was suffering from intrauterine growth restriction

  • Flowers

    Story

    I remember begging them for a c-section

    Sarah's son Tristan was stillborn at 38 weeks after symptoms related to lupus anticoagulant disorder affected the placenta. In this account Sarah talks about Tristan's birth as well as the post-mortem, coping with grief and her following pregnancy

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