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4 weeks pregnant - all you need to know

Congratulations on your exciting news! Tommy’s midwives are here to guide you through every stage of your pregnancy and help you get to know your growing baby.

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Tommy’s midwives are here to support you by telling you everything you need to know about week 4 of pregnancy: advice on common pregnancy symptoms, practical actions, such as the ‘booking’ appointment and what’s happening with your baby.

Before week 4

Congratulations on your exciting news! If your periods are usually regular, conception is likely to happen in the middle of weeks one to four. You are very unlikely to know you're pregnant at this stage.

It may sound odd but pregnancies are measured from the first day of your last period rather than the day you actually conceived your baby. This is because it's not always easy to be sure of the exact date you became pregnant.

“I spent the entire week my period was due running to the loo, just to double check I didn’t have my period. My boobs felt tender - but that can be a sign of PMT too. I took an early test in the end and couldn’t believe it when it showed positive.” Ayida, mum of one

Although a fertilised egg may have implanted in your womb just two weeks ago, if the first day of your last period was four weeks ago, you are officially four weeks pregnant! This may seem odd if you think you can definitely date the pregnancy more recently.

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What does my baby look like?

The tiny person inside you is the size of a poppy seed. A little dot, measuring about 2mm.

The baby may be miniscule but big things are happening! The fertilised egg has snuggled into the side of your womb. It divides into layers of cells that will eventually become different parts of your baby’s body.

Your baby’s nervous system and heart are developing. Amazingly your tiny dot already has some of its own blood vessels and blood is starting to circulate. A string of these blood vessels connects you to your baby. This will eventually become the umbilical cord.

Right now, your poppy seed is known as an embryo. They get their energy and nourishment from a yolk sac (until the placenta takes over in a few weeks). Your baby is surrounded by amniotic fluid within the amniotic sac, providing a comfy cushion for them throughout your pregnancy.

Your symptoms - what happens in week 4

Early symptoms of pregnancy

Bleeding or spotting

You might notice some very light bleeding, or ‘spotting’, known as implantation bleeding. This can be caused by your little seed burrowing into the lining of your womb. It often happens around the time your period would have been due and is relatively common.

You may also have some period-like cramping in these early weeks.

If you notice any bleeding at any stage of your pregnancy, though, it's important to get it checked out by your doctor or midwife.

Sore boobs

This week, a surge in progesterone can start to make your boobs feel tender, heavy and sore - a bit like how they might feel before your period.

Remarkably, these are pregnancy hormones already preparing your body to produce milk. This tenderness usually eases off by the end of the first trimester.

Find out how to deal with first trimester pregnancy complaints or read more early pregnancy symptoms here.

Things to do in week 4

Smoking and alcohol in pregnancy

It’s time to quit cigarettes and alcohol. Both can be harmful to your growing baby because the toxins pass through the placenta.

Here’s our guide to avoiding alcohol during pregnancy.

Find out more about the effects of smoking in pregnancy.

And if you’re still struggling to stop smoking, these ten steps towards quitting could help.

If you use street or recreational drugs, stop or ask your doctor for advice on stopping safely.


Sexually transmitted infections (STIs) such as chlamydia, gonorrhoea, syphilis and genital herpes can affect your baby's health during pregnancy or birth.

If you think you or your partner might have an STI, go for a check-up as soon as you can. Your doctor or midwife can tell you where you can find your nearest sexual health clinic.

Don't worry, nobody will judge you and it's important to be checked as soon as possible.

Continue (or start) taking these supplements

There are two vitamins that are very important in pregnancy and that you can take as supplements: Folic acid and vitamin D.

Folic acid is naturally present in leafy vegetables, fruits and berries, beans and wholegrain products - but keep taking folic acid supplements too, until at least week 12 because you can't get enough through food alone to build up the level of folic acid that your baby needs.

Folic acid helps in the formation of your baby's nervous system and reduces the risk of spina bifida, which is where the baby's spine doesn't close up properly.

You should take:

  • 10 micrograms of vitamin D each day throughout your pregnancy and if you breastfeed
  • 400 micrograms of folic acid each day – you should take this from before you are pregnant until you are 12 weeks pregnant

Find out more about important supplements in pregnancy.

Tell the GP you are pregnant

Once you know you’re pregnant, make an appointment to see your doctor or a midwife to get any advice you need and to be booked in for your pregnancy care appointmentspregnancy care appointments. If you make a GP appointment, they will set you up for midwife appointments or you can call the maternity unit in the local hospital and refer yourself that way.

However you book it, your first appointment with the midwife will not take place until after week 8, the ‘booking’ appointment. This can make it an anxious time but reading through these dos and donts of pregnancy may help.

This is an important time to talk about any health issues you have to make sure your pregnancy goes well. It is very important to tell your doctor about any medication you may be on, especially long-term medicines for conditions, such as asthma, epilepsy, mental health conditions, diabetes, hormone therapy, heart problems and so on. Your doctor can make sure you are on the safest medication for you and baby.

It is very important that you do not stop taking medication without talking to your GP or specialist

Find out what questions you'll be asked at the booking appointment.

If you have an existing mental health problem

If you have a pre-existing mental health condition and take medication, tell your doctor and the person who prescribed the medication that you’re pregnant as soon as possible.

They will talk to you about whether your medication is safe in pregnancy or whether you should consider a different treatment.

Find out more about your mental wellbeing in pregnancy.

What are my chances of miscarrying?

It’s a sad thing to think about, but up to one in five pregnancies will end in miscarriage in the first three months.

If you do have light bleeding, spotting or stomach pains, this doesn't mean you are going to miscarry. However, you should always speak to your doctor or midwife and ask for advice.

Find out the other symptoms you should contact your midwife about.


1. NHS Choices.You and your baby at 0–8 weeks pregnant, NHS Choices: (Page last reviewed: 28/02/2017 Next review due: 28/02/2020)

2. NHS Choices. Vaginal bleeding in pregnancy (Page last reviewed: 26/01/2018  Next review due: 26/01/2021)

5. NHS Choices. Signs and symptoms of pregnancy (Page last reviewed: 06/10/2016 ;Next review due: 06/10/2019)

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  • By love (not verified) on 26 Nov 2018 - 19:03

    I missed my period and I took a home test and it shows negative, what should I do?

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 28 Nov 2018 - 13:02

    Hi Love
    Check out the Tommy's link below, about the best time to do a pregnancy test in order to get an accurate positive or negative result. All the best
    Tommy's Midwife

  • By Reddy (not verified) on 19 Nov 2018 - 12:20

    I am Reddy, and my wife got pregnancy recently after 2 miscarriages due to Growth effect. Now she had 4 weeks 2 days baby and her first scan reveals that the baby size is about 0.67 CM. Please advise me that this baby size is normal or any abnormality is present. After the scanning the doctor told us that she can only confirm the actual result after 10 days only. Please tell us that as this is normal growth or not?

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 19 Nov 2018 - 12:31

    Hi Reddy, It is too early to reassure you that all is well. The baby is still forming and it will be a few more weeks before the 12 week scan. Just try to ensure that your wife is taking folic acid and eating a healthy balanced diet. She should also stop alcohol and smoking and if you drink or smoke I recommend that you also try to quit. Best wishes to you both

  • By Anonymous (not verified) on 17 Nov 2018 - 05:14

    I tested positive to a pregnancy test kit at week 4 but my scan shows an empty uterus. Im a student and do not want to keep it what do i do

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 19 Nov 2018 - 12:33

    Hi, Have you been given an appointment for a re-scan in about a week? It may be that you have already miscarried, but this should be confirmed if you are still testing positive.

  • By Sarah (not verified) on 8 Nov 2018 - 17:30

    Hi I’ve recently found out I’m approx 4 weeks 3 days pregnant. I keep having period like pains in the bottom of my stomach although they not as bad as when I’m on my period and I cant sleep through tossing and turning. My friend recently had a miscarriage and it’s worring me about my pregnancy. Is the pains normal? Does bleeding always come with misscarriage? Thank you

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 12 Nov 2018 - 15:39

    Hi Sarah
    Any abdominal pain or bleeding in pregnancy, at any gestation, would ideally need to be reviewed to rule out miscarriage. You do not need both, one or both symptoms would warrant review.
    Please visit your GP who can refer you to your local Early pregnancy assessment unit - you may be scanned.
    Please take care. Tommy's Midwife

  • By Anon (not verified) on 2 Nov 2018 - 13:49

    Hi, i am quite regular with a 21 day cycle. Approx 4 days before spotted, then went on to have a heavy period. Have continued to have light bleeding which has been constant for about a week since my period. Took a test 5 days ago and had a faint positive line, took another yesterday and have a strong positive. Am I pregnant or could i have mc? Bu a due date calculation i should be 5wks now

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 5 Nov 2018 - 14:26

    Hi there .You may need to repeat the pregnancy test again at your GP surgery. They will then be able to do a blood test if the urine test is inconclusive or if they are concerned by your symptoms. They may also decide to refer you to a gynae Dr if this is not your period and they are unsure why you have continued to bleed. Please make an appointment to be seen soon. Tommy's Midwife

  • By Elikem (not verified) on 25 Jul 2018 - 14:20

    I want to know if it’s safe to travel by road for a program. The journey is about 7 hours by road. I just found out that am 3 weeks pregnant

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 27 Jul 2018 - 12:18

    Hi Elikem,
    It is fine to be travelling by road for a long period of time, the advise we give is the same for any gestation. It is very important to still wear a seat belt, keep hydrated and take regular breaks out of the care to move around and stretch your legs. Make sure you have some snacks with you also.
    Best wishes
    Tommy's midwife

  • By Bridget Corcoran (not verified) on 25 Oct 2018 - 13:44

    I think I might be around 4weeks pregnant could nd my nephew is getting married on the 15 th Nov in Derry north is it safe to travel that far nd by car

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 25 Oct 2018 - 14:18

    Hi Bridget, Thank you for your comment.
    You are fine to travel by car in pregnancy, just take regular breaks and drink plenty of fluids to keep you hydrated. Take care, Tommy's Midwives x

  • By Anonymous (not verified) on 28 Jun 2018 - 09:19

    I always get my periods on the 15 of each month but this minth I am in a last days of a month but I dont see my periods instead my womb is paining as if I am getting periods but if I am going to check there is nothing and I am scared to check by now , please advice....

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 29 Jun 2018 - 11:03

    I sorry you are feeling so worried and anxious. A pregnancy test is the only way that can give you an answer as to whether you are pregnant and if this is why your period is late. If this is negative then do have a talk with your GP if you are concerned. Periods and your natural cycle can vary for a variety of reasons, sometimes stress, diet, smoking etc so worth bearing in mind.
    If we can support you further then please do be in touch
    Best wishes,
    Tommy's midwife

  • By trudy (not verified) on 13 Sep 2018 - 04:45

    you can be pregnant but I'm worried because l have seen a doctor he told me l have blood in my womb but when he test l'm not pregnant but l even fill like period pain even the heart beat in my womb and l even had n discharge blood in 2days like brown n red but is it possible being pregnant but l don't vomit l even eat food which have oil

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 13 Sep 2018 - 12:22

    Hi Trudy, Thank you for your comment.
    It is difficult to understand what you are trying to say? Has your Dr said that you aren't pregnant because you are having a period and this is the blood that you are seeing? If you are having bleeding and you have had a negative pregnancy test then this bleeding may be your period. If you are still unsure then please go back and see your GP for further advice. Take Care, Tommy's Midwives x

  • By Anonymous (not verified) on 21 Jun 2018 - 07:13

    I just found out that I am pregnant (1st!!!)
    Is it ok to carry heavy things and bend down to pick up things?
    At this stage are we fragile to falls?

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 21 Jun 2018 - 16:09

    Congratulations! We always say to listen to your body during pregnancy, if it hurts or feels uncomfortable then to stop. Your body releases hormones so that your ligaments stretch more easily, however this means that it can be easier to over-stretch so just to be a little careful.
    If you were to fall then your baby is very well protected in your pelvis so it is very unlikely that your baby would be at risk. If you do fall and have any concerns then of course do speak with your GP.
    Best wishes
    Tommy's midwife

  • By Tammy (not verified) on 10 Jun 2018 - 18:14

    I just found out im 4 weeks pregnant and my bf tells me that i should abort tge baby because he took perscribed drugs for Rhumatoid Arthritis than will probably disable the baby 2 or 3 years ago. Will this contribute to my pregnancy? Im 46 years a bit nervous as if this will harm the child i think i need to find out. Please help

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 11 Jun 2018 - 15:39

    Hi Tammy,
    I think you should discuss your options with your GP. Without knowing the medication that he was on and how it affected him, I can't advise you. Best wishes x

  • By Sandra (not verified) on 18 Jun 2018 - 01:13

    I was told didn’t matter what he took matters what you take st least that’s what I was told. I’m 47 and I’m always on time 27 days and now I’m 6 days late peeing all the time felt some pressure down there cramps and fatigued. I took one test in the afternoon one day late and it was negative. I told my bf and he doesn’t give a crap so if I am be raising this baby on my own from what it looks like. I just pray that I am when he was in town we were together everyday and I’ve never missed a period I’ve been regular but my age I can’t imaine just no
    Period all of a sudden when I’ve always had one and been checked and still have eggs so I am taking the assumption that I am... at least hope so. I am praying it’s going to be good. Good luck to you.

  • By Emma (not verified) on 1 Jun 2018 - 14:15

    I have recently found out that I am pregnant for the 7th time. I had two miscarriages before having my son, then I lost my second baby at 27 weeks due to a fatal conditon, and have since had a further two miscarriages. I have been put on aspirin and progesterone for this pregnancy but I am so scared that I'll only miscarry again (or worse). Would you be at all able to tell me honestly if the medication is actually likely to make much of a difference please? I am so worried. Many thanks in advance.

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 4 Jun 2018 - 14:07

    Hi Emma,
    Unfortunately the results of a large study PROMISE - progesterone in recurrent miscarriage found that those who received progesterone were no less likely to miscarry than those who received a placebo. You can read about the study here
    In the absence of APS (anti-phospholipid syndrome) there is no clear evidence that aspirin is helpful either but research continues in a hope that we may find treatments. This guidance from the RCOG is helpful
    Please don't hesitate to contact us if we can support you through this pregnancy. Best wishes

  • By Emma (not verified) on 5 Jun 2018 - 09:14

    Thank you for your reply. It does not contain the reassurance or even encouragement I was hoping for but at least I know now not to get my hopes up. I shall just try not to think about this pregnancy until the probable miscarriage. I am grateful, though, for your honesty.

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 6 Jun 2018 - 15:13

    Hi Emma
    We are always here if you need any further support or information. We are contactable via email and phone line (which is best) rather than on a public web page for any future queries to be addressed privately for you. I hope everything works out for you and hope that we do hear from you again soon
    Sophie,Tommy's Midwife

  • By Naomi (not verified) on 27 Jun 2018 - 13:43

    I just realised I am pregnant after having 2 miscarriages and right now I have problem with palpitations and and high Bp...i am worried and I really don't want to loose this pregnancy.

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 28 Jun 2018 - 12:28

    I'm sorry to hear about your miscarriages and hope everything goes well for you in this pregnancy.
    I would advise that you see your GP asap to discuss your symptoms and start treatment if needed. If you become very unwell or your symptoms worsen suddenly then you should go to A&E

  • By Anonymous (not verified) on 29 May 2018 - 05:47

    Hy I so worried I have took 3 pregnancy test but the are both negative .... I even went to sonar the said the can't see the baby but on Doppler we can hear the heartbeat is it possible

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 29 May 2018 - 16:26

    Hi, i'm sorry to hear this is causing you so much worry. If you have x2 negative pregnancy tests, then it is likely that you are not pregnant.
    The Doppler can easily pick up your pulse, which is what you may be hearing. It is impossible to hear the fetal heart rate with the Doppler unit about 14 weeks at the very earliest as a pregnancy would be very deep in your pelvis before this and make it impossible to hear before then.
    If you need to call and talk this through in more detail, you can call us Mon to Fri 9 am to 5pm on 0800 0147800
    Take care of yourself
    Sophie,Tommy's Midwife

  • By Gemma (not verified) on 2 May 2018 - 10:58

    I'm so worried that I'll lose this baby too. I've got very mild Back ache, had cramps yesterday which seem to have gone or are very slight. Is there anything I can do to help this baby? Thank you

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 3 May 2018 - 13:17

    Hi Gemma,

    It is understandable that you are very anxious at this time. Please feel reassured that mild cramping can be normal in early pregnancy as all the ligaments and muscles are stretching. You don't say how many weeks you are but your GP may be able to refer you for an early scan due to your past history, this may give you some reassurance. Make sure you are taking your pregnancy vitamins and eating healthy, this can give you pregnancy the best start. Hope this helps, Take Care Tommy's Midwives x

  • By Hayley (not verified) on 28 Apr 2018 - 17:24

    Hi , I have just recently got a BFP after trying to fall with my partner for 7 months .We miscarried over a yr ago which broke our hearts .Im just so scared of it happening again I have been getting period like cramping but only mild (no bleeding) & have been getting lower back pain I will be 4 weeks 2 days :)

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 30 Apr 2018 - 11:48

    Hi Hayley. It is very early days so there are no guarantees but with only 2% of women experiencing two miscarriages in a row you have every reason to be positive. I hope the mild cramping will resolve very soon. Take care

  • By Melissa (not verified) on 18 Apr 2018 - 07:39

    If my boyfriend has a low sperm count and we have unprotected sex all the time when we do it how high are the chances of me becoming pregnant?

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 18 Apr 2018 - 16:39

    Hi Melissa, any unprotected intercourse has the potential to cause a pregnancy. Having a low sperm count doesn't mean that sperm cannot get the egg. There are just less of them trying to achieve it.
    Please use contraception if you are not planning on starting a family to avoid any accidents
    All the best
    Sophie, Tommy's Midwife

  • By Elizabeth (not verified) on 5 Mar 2018 - 13:00

    I just wondered if you had any advice at how to date a pregnancy after a chemical miscarriage. I started bleeding on 29/01/18 and confirmed with a blood test and internal ultrasound that I wasn't pregnant on 06/02/18. I haven't had a period since then, so I just assumed that I would have a normal 28 day circle (I did after my 1st miscarriage.) My period is now 7 days late and I have done multiple pregnancy tests to confirm that I am pregnant, including a clear blue digital which says that I am 1-2 weeks pregnant.
    How will my GP work out a due date? I am concerned, this being my 3rd pregnancy that everything go right.

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 6 Mar 2018 - 14:12

    Hi Elizabeth,
    Thank you for your post. I entirely understand that you must be extremely concerned after your recent miscarriage and now dating this pregnancy. Your GP will be able to refer you for an early ultrasound to do this. All pregnancies develop at the same rate in the first 12 weeks and a live embryo can be visualised with ultrasound at 6 weeks and 3 days. Prior to this a gestational sac is normally visible from 5+3 but unless you were symptomatic (pain, bleeding) the unit would wait until you are over 6 weeks before scheduling the scan. This is to prevent you from going back again if the fetal heart wasn't visible because you had had the scan too early.
    The scan would then confirm that the embryo had a heartbeat and the pregnancy was developing in the right location. A due date would be calculated at this scan.
    If you have any questions at all please get in contact even if it is just to have someone to listen. Our helpline is open weekdays 9-5pm
    0800 0147 800.
    Warmest wishes
    Anna -Tommy's Midwife

  • By Katy (not verified) on 27 Jan 2018 - 03:18

    Hi, I’d be really grateful for a little bit of advice. I’ve recently undergone my 1st cycle of ivf which has resulted in a positive hcg blood test (Beta hcg was over 900). I’ll be just over 4 weeks pregnant. I’ve been taking progesterone pessaries for the last couple of weeks, however, my clinic have advised that I can stop. I’ve suffered miscarriages before and have read that progesterone supplements could help to maintain a healthy pregnancy. Please do you think I should query this with the clinic, or do you think it’s safe to assume that my pregnancy is progressing well and I don’t need any further help. I’ve also read that low-dose aspirin can help, but I’m reluctant to take this because I haven’t been advised to do so. Thanks so much in advance. Katy.

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 2 Feb 2018 - 13:54

    Hi Katy,
    Sorry for the delay in responding to you. We have been in contact with Professor Quenby at one of our research centres to make sure we give you the best advice. She has advised to continue to take the progesterone until 8 weeks, beyond this gestation there is no evidence that this will support a pregnancy. With regards to the aspirin we cannot advised for you to take this without a prescription, so do have a talk with your doctor about this and seek their advice. I hope this helps, any further queries you can also email us [email protected] Take care, Tommy's mdiwife

  • By Katy (not verified) on 5 Feb 2018 - 14:31

    Hi and thanks so much for your reply. I really appreciate your help. I queried this again with the clinic, however, they still maintained that it wasn’t necessary to continue with the progesterone supplements beyond 4 weeks. I really hope that everything will be ok. Thanks again, Katy.

  • By Tulsi (not verified) on 23 Jan 2018 - 17:32

    I'm confused weather I'm pregnant or not My last period was on dec 7 and had sex on dec 24 and I got brownies and light discharge on dec 31 tht only stay for 3 days

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 24 Jan 2018 - 14:12

    Hi Thank you for your comment.
    If you have had unprotected sex then there is every chance that you may be pregnant. If you have missed a period or your last period was unusual for you then we would advice that you take a pregnancy test to see if you are pregnant. Hope this help, take care, Tommy's Midwives x

  • By Lauren (not verified) on 15 Jan 2018 - 14:53

    Hi, i'm confused, last month 14/12/2017 I had a period I am very regular with my periods always on around the 14th so usually every 32-34 days, and usually last around a week but last month I was only on for 3 days. Lighter than usual but a couple of small clots, around two weeks later I had horrendous tender breasts and have done ever since I took an test on the 10/01/2018 and had a positive bur faint another the day after a little darker and then another the day after but that was faint again, is it possible I was pregnant prior to last months bleed or would I of had a definite dark line on my test I thought it detected very early that's all, but with having the strange period last month I'm not too sure what's happening. I'm also concerned that the line was fainter on thw 3Rd test than any could this mean miscarriage ? I suffer with mental health and have chosen to come off my medication because of the risks to the baby, so not sure if I'm having side effects of pregnancy/miscarriage or withdrawal of medication.. sorry for all of the question, this just seems a very good site for responses. Thanks in advance x

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 17 Jan 2018 - 12:58

    Hi Lauren, i am so sorry to hear about how anxious you are feeling at the moment.
    I think it would be sensible to go to your GP and do one more pregnancy test there with them. The brightness or darkness of the line on a pregnancy test does not indicate if the pregnancy is healthy or failing. So i think that a set of bloods at your GP surgery to test for your HCG levels will then accurately be able to confirm if this is a viable pregnancy or not.
    One other thing to mention is that it is not usually a good idea to abruptly stop your medication, especially if you suffer with your mental health. Pregnancy can hugely alter your emotions and it is vitally important that your GP review if the medication is safe to take and offer a safer alternatives if this is not deemed great for pregnancy. So please get an urgent GP app to discuss both of these asap! Please take care of yourself!
    Sophie, Tommy's Midwife

  • By Zoe (not verified) on 14 Jan 2018 - 16:07


    Just discovered we're pregnant, we miscarried at 5 weeks in Nov 2017 and this was my first pregnancy.

    In November I felt very alone and wasn't sure if I was miscarrying or not, I spoke to my GP but found him so unsupportive, he wouldn't refer me to an EPU (fertility consultant confirmed more at risk of EP after lap and dye) now we are pregnant again I am very worried and concerned that we will left in the dark again.

    I was thinking about changing GP? we are new to our practice, but I've never met my GP, but don't feel confident if we stay?

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 15 Jan 2018 - 12:56

    So sorry to hear about your miscarriage and I can understand that you are anxious this time. The statistics tell us that only 2% of women will have two miscarriages in a row, so you have every reason to be positive. If you would feel happier with a different GP, don't worry about changing.

  • By Anonymous (not verified) on 10 Dec 2017 - 18:47

    Hi I recently found out I'm pregnant. Between me n my fiance we currently have 7 children (2 I have and 5 he has) none together. I feel confused because I wasn't trying to get pregnant. My children have voiced their opinions of happiness towards the idea of a new sibling and his children are set against any new siblings. He says he wants a big family but regualarly question am I actually ready for a new baby.
    I'm not sure if I should go threw with the pregnancy or terminate I don't want to have another child if it's not welcomed by all parties involved

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 13 Dec 2017 - 13:16

    Hi, Thank you for your comment.

    It sounds like this pregnancy was unplanned and you are in a very difficult situation. You are both very experienced parents having 7 children between you both so its not like you are going into the unknown. Its probable the fact that you know what comes with having a new born baby that is making you second guess yourself.
    Many people will have their own options in this situation, but the one that matters is yours, this is your choice and you have to feel confident in whatever choice you decide. I'm not sure how old your other children are but ultimately this is between you and your partner. He says he wants a big family and who is really ever ready for a new baby, but they find their place in the family.
    It would be advisable that you all sat down and spoke about it openly, it is a massive decision that you are making. It could be that the other children may think a new baby will change things in the family and you may need to reassure them. Its really important that you all communicate openly with each other and you all have a mutual understanding. Hope everything goes ok, take care, Tommy's Midwives x

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