It’s important to listen to your own instinct and the midwife will be happy to discuss your worries.
Do not rely on advice from family members, friends or even the internet.
Find out what to do if your midwife is not listening to you.
Being your own champion during pregnancy is important. That’s why Tommy’s has launched a new campaign called #AlwaysAsk to encourage you to trust your instincts and speak up when it comes to health concerns in pregnancy.
Practical tips from other women on how to get listened to and be taken seriously when you have a concern in pregnancy.
- London Parliamentary and Health Service Ombudsman, Midwifery supervision and regulation: recommendations for change, London The Stationery Office, 2013. Also available from: http://www.ombudsman.org.uk/__data/assets/pdf_file/0003/23484/Midwifery-supervision-and-regulation_-recommendations-for-change.pdf (accessed 6 May 2014)
- Macdonald S, Magill-Cuerden J, Mayes’ midwifery, fourteenth edition, Edinburgh: Baillir̈e Tindall Elsevier, 2012
ℹLast reviewed on April 1st, 2014. Next review date April 1st, 2017.
By Hannah (not verified) on 18 Jul 2018 - 11:05
This is my first pregnancy and I am coming extremely anxious!
Since 8weeks I have had either light vaginal bleeding or bloody vaginal dishcharge. I have been assessed and they keep telling me that everything looks normal.
I have had my 12weeks scan and all went well and have been spending a small fortune on private scans recently due to being anxious! The spotting has eased slightly but I notice it more of a morning upon wiping! Then by my second toilet trip it has gone. It’s really confusing me.
My next NHS scan is on 7th August but in my head I am more and more anxious that something is wrong by the day! Would buying my own Doppler help for reassurance? I’ve been reasearching and have seen mixed reviews about Home Dopplers.
Please could you advise if spotting/bloody vaginal dishcharge is normal in pregnancy I am 17weeks+4days.
By Midwife @Tommys on 18 Jul 2018 - 15:02
We really do not recommend home Dopplers for pregnant women at all. Midwives train for 3 years to be able to hear the different sounds - baby's heartbeat, placental whooshes and the maternal pulse and can hear the difference between these. Women can be falsely reassured that they can hear their baby's heart rate when they could in fact be hearing something else and then not seek help when they are concerned about fetal well being.
Spotting is quite common in pregnancy. No, it isn't normal as such, but so many women experience it and are regularly seen and reviewed to keep a close eye on it. Now that you are 17 weeks, you can go into your labour ward/triage whenever you are worried about bleeding, discharge or fetal well being and they will see you- and it will be free. Please don't waste your money on private scans. If the NHS hosp that you have your care in are concerned about fetal well being, then they will scan you on the labour ward!
Please take good care of yourself.
Sophie, Tommy's Midwife
By Lydia (not verified) on 17 Jul 2018 - 23:24
This is my 6th pregnancy. First 3 were full term then I had 2 early miscarriages this year before conceiving. I'm currently 14 weeks, and I just feel in my gut something is wrong. I got my genetic scan back that everything is normal. I just can't help but feel something is wrong. My full term pregnancies felt so different from this. I don't feel pregnant and have anxiety about something being not right. Oh I also have cramps on and off in the day with lower back pain.
By Midwife @Tommys on 18 Jul 2018 - 15:09
You can go to your GP and ask to be referred to your local early pregnancy assessment unit. They will review you in relation to your abdominal cramps and back pain. Any abdominal pain, at any gestation of pregnancy, needs to be investigated. Once you are over 16 weeks, you can go to your hospital labour ward/pregnancy triage for review there instead. Every pregnancy is different and whilst it might feel worrying for this to be the case, it makes sense when you think about how you are carrying a completely different baby with it's own genetic make up to it's siblings.
Mothers instinct can however, be right. So if something doesn't feel right, then please go in and get yourself seen.
Please take good care of yourself
By Sofija (not verified) on 12 Jul 2018 - 18:20
I'm 28 weeks pregnant now, it's my first pregnancy. But until now I could barely feel any movement of my baby. I just have some bubbly feelings on the sides of my belly, sometimes around bellybutton. But those are not kicks as some women describe.
I said about it to my midwife last week, so she sent me to hospital for check up. In hospital they checked fetal heartbeat in dynamics, which was fine, they even sent for ultrasound scan, in the end they said that everything's fine. I was really really happy about that, but I still don't understand why it's like this. I did gain weight during the pregnancy, but I'm not too overweight.
I work everyday for 10 hours, sitting only for 20 min at most, I'm just worried if it's going to harm my baby. I really want for my baby to be healthy, what can you suggest me?
Thank you in advance.
By Midwife @Tommys on 13 Jul 2018 - 13:44
It is reassuring that you have had a scan and they are happy the baby is well. Sometimes it can be affected by where your placenta is, if it is at the front (written as 'anterior' in your notes) then this can mean you may not feel stronger movements until later on in your pregnancy. Working and being active in moderation is great for a healthy pregnancy so do continue what you are doing. As long as you are having a healthy lifestyle then that is all you can do. If you are worried then do speak with your midwife.
By SB (not verified) on 12 Jul 2018 - 03:23
Hi I’m probably being really daft. I’m 21 +1 I have a history of 5 previous early miscarriages before 12 weeks and no live Births + 40 2 weeks before due date so am really anxious as well have never got this far. I’ve been waking up in the night because I’ve had cramps in arms and legs and carpal tunnel issues. I woke yesterday with neither of these and just thought thought “something is wrong” because I didn’t have either (stupid I know) I had very little movement from little one in the day but some. I’ve just woken now and my bump was uncovered (it’s been so warm) and my exposed belly was really really cold. I’m so terrified if she’s ok in there. After years of MC’s I’d given up hope and torturing myself by getting pregnant and this pregnancy has been an accident I’ve been waiting to go wrong since 5 weeks (when I found out) I am probably being daft and overly anxious. I just can’t be excited when I really should be so I’m probably being stupid but my gut is telling me it’s gone or going to go wrong.
By Midwife @Tommys on 12 Jul 2018 - 16:24
It is really natural that you are feeling so anxious given that you have been through 5 miscarriages. It is important that you monitor your baby's movements, if you notice any reduction in movements you need to contact your maternity unit straight away and go in to be reviewed. Your bump being hot and then cold it not something to worry about or will affect your baby if the temperatures are not an extreme which from what you have said does not sound like they were. It sounds like you could do with a little extra support as you come to the end of the pregnancy, could you get in touch with your midwife? See if you can have an extra appointment or support at this time.
Please know we are here to support you too, you can call us 0800 0147 800 or email [email protected]
By Alzavahn (not verified) on 11 Jul 2018 - 10:49
I'm 15 weeks an I only had morning sickness last month it lasted for 3days an yesterday ...I couldnt get anything down an just kept on throwing up* sorry* so I ate a bit last night... and my stomach was a bit bigger an now my stomach is deflated ...is something wrong ? Any advice will help
By Midwife @Tommys on 12 Jul 2018 - 15:48
Could it be possible that you have a bit of a sickness bug rather than it being morning sickness if it just lasted for 3 days?
Your stomach can change a little at this stage, for example if you are bloated or been unwell. As a long as you have not had any pain or bleeding this is fine. You should have a midwife appointment soon for your 16 weeks so do speak with her if you have any queries.
By Claireftm (not verified) on 28 Jun 2018 - 11:16
I have been feeling dizzy for about a week now. Every day. But today has been the worst. I don't think I've felt this dizzy before. Nothing is spinning, just light-headedness. Is this normal?
By Midwife @Tommys on 29 Jun 2018 - 11:20
It sounds like to need to see your midwife or GP to be reviewed. I am unsure how many weeks pregnant you are and it may be simply that you are a little dehydrated however it can also be a sign of low iron levels so these need to be checked or something else so do check in with them.
By Lily (not verified) on 24 Jun 2018 - 22:37
I just wondered, what pain is normal in pregnancy and what warrants going to the hospital?
Any guidance would be useful
By Midwife @Tommys on 27 Jun 2018 - 12:11
That's a difficult question to answer without more information. It depends on how pregnant you are, what's been going on for you recently, pre-existing conditions and lots of pregnancy variables. Sorry to sound vague. Please get in contact, email us at [email protected] and I will try to answer you question better.
By Hassie (not verified) on 24 Jun 2018 - 22:22
I'm 14 weeks and have bleeding since 7 weeks. I have been diagnosed with sub chronic hematoma.
At my 12 week scan all looked normal but cervix only measured 3cm. I am booked for a cervical scan at 16 weeks and fetal scan at 22 weeks but I am really worried as I'm starting to have a throbbing feeling in my vagina and the bleeding is continuing. I have had 2 missed miscarriages in the past and am worried that I'll find that this baby has passed without me knowing.
I have been told to go back to the EPU if I have heavy red bleeding not for the spotting I'm currently having.
By Midwife @Tommys on 27 Jun 2018 - 11:55
I'm so sorry to hear about your ongoing bleeding due to the sub chorionic haematoma. The majority of these will resolve but due to your previous losses you will be monitored more closely and have further scans arranged at 16 and 22 weeks. If there is concern about your cervix shortening when you have the trans vaginal scan in 2 weeks you will have additional scans.
I hope that the throbbing vaginal sensation is less obvious today? you know to get in contact with the EPU if the bleeding gets heavier.
Miscarriage is much less likely now that you are in the second trimester (2%) but I entirely understand that each day must be like torture waiting for the next scan as well as anticipating that something is going to go wrong.
Please do call us even if it is just to talk on 0800 0147 800 you could also be referred by your GP for talking therapies to help you at this awful time. You might also be able to self refer look up IAPT self refer and see what comes up in your area.
Thinking of you
By D (not verified) on 13 Jun 2018 - 17:29
Hi I'm 24weeks and last night I woke up with stomach cramps and very bad pain in my lower back it eased off and finally got to sleep I've woke today and I seem to be running back and forth to the toilet feeling I need to urinate and when I sit it's trickles out any advice what to do don't want to be a pain
By Midwife @Tommys on 15 Jun 2018 - 13:59
Sorry to hear that you are not feel well. It sounds like it could be a urine infection, so do see your midwife or GP so they can test your urine and give you a full check up just to make sure everything is ok.
It is important to be seen, you are not a pain at all.
By N (not verified) on 5 Jun 2018 - 13:48
Hi, I’m 17+5 weeks with my first and I’m not really showing! If I lie down you can clearly see where the baby is but it’s not huge (it sometimes can see it less) , whereas if I’m standing up I feel you can’t see anything. I just look like I’ve put in weight. I’m really worried it’s not normal but I am a massive worrier! Is this normal? I see pictures of other people and they’re quite bit already! Thanks
By Midwife @Tommys on 6 Jun 2018 - 15:34
Hi N, everyone carries differently and you should not compare yourself to others. Your midwife will be measuring your bump from now onward and will send you for growth scans if she/he is worried about slow fetal growth. It is not uncommon to have only seemed to have put on a little weight but not yet quite have a bump - it'll soon come.
Here is what to expect at 17 weeks - https://www.tommys.org/pregnancy-week-by-week/17-weeks-pregnant-whats-happening
Take care of yourself
By April Cunningham (not verified) on 31 May 2018 - 18:02
Hi I'm 30+6 weeks. I have recently been put on insulin for GD (2days ago). Since then I've had belly cramps and this morning I woke up being sick. I spoke to my diabieties midwife she thinks I have a bug but I don't feel like I have a bug and feel the only reason I'm being sick is due to the pain I'm in. Can anybody suggest anything that might help or what I can do. X
By Midwife @Tommys on 1 Jun 2018 - 11:25
Sorry to hear that you are feeling so unwell and that you are in so much pain. If you feel that you are being sick due to the pain you are in then I think it is important to go to the maternity unit to be reviewed. A bug would normal pass or at least ease after a couple of days so if this is on going I think you need to be assessed. It is also really important for you to be monitoring your baby's movements, if you have any concerns at all then again, do contact your maternity unit for review.
By Charlotte (not verified) on 17 May 2018 - 15:59
I'm 19 weeks pregnant with my 2nd baby. I haven't felt baby move yet but I'm just really worried about this pregnancy. For the last couple of days, I haven't felt right. Ridiculously tired and just generally blah. I've also got a dull ache all around my belly.
By Midwife @Tommys on 17 May 2018 - 16:19
It can be normal to not feel baby up to 20 weeks and everyone feels movements differently but if you don't feel right then it is important to act upon it. As you just don't feel right and are experiencing some abdominal discomfort it would be worth you calling your local antenatal day unit just to be checked over. They can listen in to your baby and you will feel more reassured. Hope this helps, take care, Tommy's Midwives x
By Caroline (not verified) on 22 Apr 2018 - 19:15
I've been feeling my baby's movements from about 15 -16 weeks. Over the past few days I've had little to no movements at all. I've also had an intermittent sharp stabbing pain on the lower left side just above my pubic bone. I'm worried something is wrong but also worried I'll be wasting the midwives time if I bother them. I don't know what to do. Thank you in advance.
By Midwife @Tommys on 23 Apr 2018 - 15:42
Hi Caroline, You don't say how many weeks you are now. Please don't think that you are wasting anyone's time. This is what we do. If you haven't done so already, give your hospital a ring and ask advice, or call us on 0800 0147 800. We are here during office hours only. Take care
By Caroline (not verified) on 23 Apr 2018 - 18:26
Sorry I am 18 +5 now so aware that the little monkey can still move well without me feeling it' was just concerning me that we've gone from being so active to nothing! I rang the midwives and they said nothing they could do but my GP rang them and referred me so went up for a Doppler and all fine. So much worry and panic!
Thank you for your advice xx
By Midwife @Tommys on 26 Apr 2018 - 12:42
We are so pleased to hear that everything is going well in your pregnancy, if we can offer any further advice then please get in touch. Take Care, Tommy's Midwives x
By PregnancySantander on 19 Apr 2018 - 11:03
I'm 34 weeks pregnant with my first baby, and although I still feel my little man moving occasionally they aren't as frequent as they used to be. I assume this is down to lack of space but I don't want to call triage and sound irrational and my midwife is on holiday but I am concerned as this is a change in his movements. What should I do?
By Midwife @Tommys on 19 Apr 2018 - 16:35
Hi, Thank you for your comment.
If you are at all worried about your baby's movements then we would suggest that you call your maternity triage straight away. Please feel reassured that you are not being irrational, you have felt a change in your movements so that gives you enough reason to go in and be checked over. Your baby does not slow down his movements due to lack of space so please , if you haven't already, call your local maternity unit and be seen. Hope all goes well, Take Care, Tommy's Midwives x
By Samantha (not verified) on 13 Apr 2018 - 05:07
Hi so I'm 36 weeks pregnant and for the last 5 days, I've had excruciating back pain, I have the normal lower back pain which I know is normal in pregnancy, but I have middle back pain which is the worse, also the top of my bump I get constant pains, this has got worse in the last 5 days, is this something to be worried about?
By Midwife @Tommys on 13 Apr 2018 - 10:16
I am sorry to hear that you are in so much pain at the moment. You describe this has being new in the last few days and is constant, I would therefore advise for you to be seen at the maternity unit for a full review today. There are several possible causes to this, it maybe just back and pains with pregnancy however it is important to rule out anything more serious. It is also very important to monitor your baby's movements closely, and any concerns should always be checked out. But do give your maternity unit a call today.
Best wishes, Tommy's midwife
By Shannon (not verified) on 3 Apr 2018 - 00:50
Hi, this is my 3rd pregnancy but last pregnancy i had a miscarriage at around 6 weeks, for the last week I have been having pain in my left side and I am 12 weeks pregnant, since having a miscarriage I'm scared with this pregnancy that something is going to go wrong. Is it normal to have pain in my left side that is also moving towards the left side of my stomach and back?? I have also been ill with a cough since I've found I was pregnant which I know could have something to do with it but I'm just so worried! X
By Midwife @Tommys on 4 Apr 2018 - 09:39
Hi Shannon. I am sorry to hear about your pain and all that you have been through.
Any abdo pain, especially pain focused on one side more than the other, should be investigated. You should make an urgent GP appointment so that you can be referred to the nearest Early pregnancy unit. If between now and your appointment, the pain is worse, then please go to A&E minors. You will need your urine tested to rule out a UTI and you may also be scanned too. Please do call us on 0800 0147800 if you need to discuss this further. And don't forget your pregnancy notes!
All the best
Sophie, Tommy's Midwife
By Marie (not verified) on 30 Mar 2018 - 16:27
I feel really stupid but I'm so convinced my baby will have serious problems and not make it. I've never miscarried and had a healthy baby 9 years ago but this time I'm counting every day until my next scan. I'm 14 weeks and I've already had 4 scans having paid for 2! I've paid for another in 2 weeks as well! I have low b12 and an underactive thyroid which my doctor knows about but isn't worried - I however am convinced I'll find out something terrible about babies development.
By Midwife @Tommys on 4 Apr 2018 - 09:49
I am so sorry to hear that you are going through a really tough time. I really do hope that you are well supported by your partner, family and friends. It sounds like you would benefit from disclosing your anxiety to your midwife and GP so that they can offer you more appointments and more support(counselling too if you feel that this would be useful for you.) At the moment, it sounds as if everything is growing and progressing well, but if you ever feel that something does not feel right, then you can go into your maternity unit triage/day assessment unit to check a quick check up. Please also know that you can call us on 0800 0147800 for a chat if you need us. We are happy to offer support and guidance wherever we can! Please take good care of yourself
By Jaimee (not verified) on 26 Mar 2018 - 19:17
Hey. Im 34 weeks pregnant with a high risk pregnancy
By Midwife @Tommys on 27 Mar 2018 - 10:13
I'm sorry that you are having a difficult pregnancy please get in touch with us if we can be of any help. Email us on [email protected] or call 0800 0147 800 9-5 weekdays to talk to a midwife
By Charlene (not verified) on 5 Mar 2018 - 18:13
Hi I'm 18 weeks pregnant and from last week I've had a pain on my ribs on right side. It's when I'm sitting. It's bearable just worrying
By Midwife @Tommys on 7 Mar 2018 - 09:29
Right sided rib pain is always worth getting reviewed. The baby is not yet grown big enough to be causing discomfort to the rib cage, this tends to occur more commonly towards the third trimester.
Right sided rib pain can also be associated with a condition called pre-eclampsia as this is where your liver is located. It would be sensible, especially if you are suffering with headaches, any swelling to your face, hands or feet - to go see a midwife and obstetric doctor at your local hospital asap. There they will check your Blood pressure, dipstick and send off your urine and likely take some bloods from you.
Please get yourself seen as soon as possible.
By Philippa (not verified) on 18 Mar 2018 - 15:11
I have also had rib pain for several weeks now, I am 31 weeks pregnant and I get pain across the top of my bump over to each side, its quite painful and often accompanied by numbness. This usually happens when I eat. I told my midwife about this but she said as long as its not on the right side its nothing to worry about, is this true?
By Midwife @Tommys on 21 Mar 2018 - 09:23
It needs to be taken into context of your medical and pregnancy history. One sided rib pain then we would screen for pre-eclampsia especially if you had any other symptoms e.g. persistent headache, sudden swelling and visual disturbances. It maybe indigestion and some reflux that you may be experiencing especially if you feel that it is usually when you eat. If you feel otherwise well then monitor how you feeling and your baby's movements, any changes or concerns then speak with your midwife or maternity unit. Best wishes, Tommy's midwife.
By abbie (not verified) on 7 Feb 2018 - 13:25
i am pregnant with my second but i had a miscarriage with my first last year and i am abit worried as i dont know what to look out for as symtoms as i feel like sometimes i am on my period i am constantly checking if i am bleeding every time because of my past with the miscarriage.
i dont know how far i am because i dont see midwife til in 2 weeks time but i think i am roughly 6 nearly 7 weeks which last year i had a miscarriage at 6 weeks...
By Midwife @Tommys on 7 Feb 2018 - 14:09
I can completely understand why you are feeling anxious in this pregnancy after you experienced a miscarriage last year. This is however, a very common way to feel after such a huge life event - so you are not weird or odd in any way!
If you are really anxious, then you could ask your GP to refer you to an early pregnancy assessment unit for an early scan to put your mind at ease. It sounds as if everything is progressing normally though.Please feel free to call us on 0800 0147800 if you want to have a friendly chat about things.
By Elisha (not verified) on 7 Feb 2018 - 21:43
Your concern is understandable but also natural to most women who are in early weeks of pregnancy with or without history of miscarriage. First, if your body aborts the baby in these early weeks there is nothing that can be done to save the fetus. That being said, worrying and stressing will only harm your health. Instead, relax, rest, take it easy when you can but dont be afraid to go about your daily routine. A feeling of mild menstrual cramps and some pressure in your lower abdomen can be and is for many women a part of being pregnant. You now have something in your uterus that wasn't there before. Some light punkish spotting is also natural. Be more on the lookout for bleeding thats bright red weather continuous or intermittent. If sexual intercourse is painful during or after, or you notice an increase in cramping and/or bleeding during or after sex, refrain from sex until you've talked to your doctor. Rest asured that unless there is a genuine medical problem, many women go on to have healthy pregnancies following a miscarriage. I myself have 8 babies and 2 early term misscarriages. My 8th pregnancy included dark brown blood and cramping but was a healthy pregnancy. My 7th baby was a healthy pregnancy immediately following a misscariage.
Hope this helps. Good luck.
By Midwife @Tommys on 8 Feb 2018 - 15:14
Thank you for your comments
By Sherri (not verified) on 30 Jan 2018 - 18:45
I am roughly 10 wks and I have had really sore feeling lower stomach/abdomen. Its slightly sharper when I move about or go from sitting to standing. Do I need to worry?
By Midwife @Tommys on 31 Jan 2018 - 11:55
There is no need to panic, but it would sensible to get yourself reviewed. Abdominal pain, at any gestation, should be reviewed, mostly to put your mind at ease, but also to ensure that all is well with the growing fetus too.
If you are concerned, you can attend your local early pregnancy assessment unit - your GP can refer you, for a scan and check up.
Please take good care of yourself and get in touch if you need more assistance or advice
Sophie, Tommy's Midwife
By Angela (not verified) on 20 Dec 2017 - 13:38
I am 9 weeks pregnant with my second child. I am feeling quite anxious as i have polycystic ovaries and have been trying for a baby for 2 years prior to getting pregnant. I have been getting slight cramping pains in my groin for a couple of days and am little concerned as i never had this with my first child. Should i go to the hospital or am i just worrying for No reason.
By Midwife @Tommys on 22 Dec 2017 - 12:05
Please contact your local maternity unit so they can assess you over the phone.