It’s important to listen to your own instinct and the midwife will be happy to discuss your worries.
Do not rely on advice from family members, friends or even the internet.
Find out what to do if your midwife is not listening to you.
Being your own champion during pregnancy is important. That’s why Tommy’s has launched a new campaign called #AlwaysAsk to encourage you to trust your instincts and speak up when it comes to health concerns in pregnancy.
Practical tips from other women on how to get listened to and be taken seriously when you have a concern in pregnancy.
- London Parliamentary and Health Service Ombudsman, Midwifery supervision and regulation: recommendations for change, London The Stationery Office, 2013. Also available from: http://www.ombudsman.org.uk/__data/assets/pdf_file/0003/23484/Midwifery-supervision-and-regulation_-recommendations-for-change.pdf (accessed 6 May 2014)
- Macdonald S, Magill-Cuerden J, Mayes’ midwifery, fourteenth edition, Edinburgh: Baillir̈e Tindall Elsevier, 2012
ℹLast reviewed on April 1st, 2014. Next review date April 1st, 2017.
By Charlotte (not verified) on 17 May 2018 - 15:59
I'm 19 weeks pregnant with my 2nd baby. I haven't felt baby move yet but I'm just really worried about this pregnancy. For the last couple of days, I haven't felt right. Ridiculously tired and just generally blah. I've also got a dull ache all around my belly.
By Midwife @Tommys on 17 May 2018 - 16:19
It can be normal to not feel baby up to 20 weeks and everyone feels movements differently but if you don't feel right then it is important to act upon it. As you just don't feel right and are experiencing some abdominal discomfort it would be worth you calling your local antenatal day unit just to be checked over. They can listen in to your baby and you will feel more reassured. Hope this helps, take care, Tommy's Midwives x
By Caroline (not verified) on 22 Apr 2018 - 19:15
I've been feeling my baby's movements from about 15 -16 weeks. Over the past few days I've had little to no movements at all. I've also had an intermittent sharp stabbing pain on the lower left side just above my pubic bone. I'm worried something is wrong but also worried I'll be wasting the midwives time if I bother them. I don't know what to do. Thank you in advance.
By Midwife @Tommys on 23 Apr 2018 - 15:42
Hi Caroline, You don't say how many weeks you are now. Please don't think that you are wasting anyone's time. This is what we do. If you haven't done so already, give your hospital a ring and ask advice, or call us on 0800 0147 800. We are here during office hours only. Take care
By Caroline (not verified) on 23 Apr 2018 - 18:26
Sorry I am 18 +5 now so aware that the little monkey can still move well without me feeling it' was just concerning me that we've gone from being so active to nothing! I rang the midwives and they said nothing they could do but my GP rang them and referred me so went up for a Doppler and all fine. So much worry and panic!
Thank you for your advice xx
By Midwife @Tommys on 26 Apr 2018 - 12:42
We are so pleased to hear that everything is going well in your pregnancy, if we can offer any further advice then please get in touch. Take Care, Tommy's Midwives x
By PregnancySantander on 19 Apr 2018 - 11:03
I'm 34 weeks pregnant with my first baby, and although I still feel my little man moving occasionally they aren't as frequent as they used to be. I assume this is down to lack of space but I don't want to call triage and sound irrational and my midwife is on holiday but I am concerned as this is a change in his movements. What should I do?
By Midwife @Tommys on 19 Apr 2018 - 16:35
Hi, Thank you for your comment.
If you are at all worried about your baby's movements then we would suggest that you call your maternity triage straight away. Please feel reassured that you are not being irrational, you have felt a change in your movements so that gives you enough reason to go in and be checked over. Your baby does not slow down his movements due to lack of space so please , if you haven't already, call your local maternity unit and be seen. Hope all goes well, Take Care, Tommy's Midwives x
By Samantha (not verified) on 13 Apr 2018 - 05:07
Hi so I'm 36 weeks pregnant and for the last 5 days, I've had excruciating back pain, I have the normal lower back pain which I know is normal in pregnancy, but I have middle back pain which is the worse, also the top of my bump I get constant pains, this has got worse in the last 5 days, is this something to be worried about?
By Midwife @Tommys on 13 Apr 2018 - 10:16
I am sorry to hear that you are in so much pain at the moment. You describe this has being new in the last few days and is constant, I would therefore advise for you to be seen at the maternity unit for a full review today. There are several possible causes to this, it maybe just back and pains with pregnancy however it is important to rule out anything more serious. It is also very important to monitor your baby's movements closely, and any concerns should always be checked out. But do give your maternity unit a call today.
Best wishes, Tommy's midwife
By Shannon (not verified) on 3 Apr 2018 - 00:50
Hi, this is my 3rd pregnancy but last pregnancy i had a miscarriage at around 6 weeks, for the last week I have been having pain in my left side and I am 12 weeks pregnant, since having a miscarriage I'm scared with this pregnancy that something is going to go wrong. Is it normal to have pain in my left side that is also moving towards the left side of my stomach and back?? I have also been ill with a cough since I've found I was pregnant which I know could have something to do with it but I'm just so worried! X
By Midwife @Tommys on 4 Apr 2018 - 09:39
Hi Shannon. I am sorry to hear about your pain and all that you have been through.
Any abdo pain, especially pain focused on one side more than the other, should be investigated. You should make an urgent GP appointment so that you can be referred to the nearest Early pregnancy unit. If between now and your appointment, the pain is worse, then please go to A&E minors. You will need your urine tested to rule out a UTI and you may also be scanned too. Please do call us on 0800 0147800 if you need to discuss this further. And don't forget your pregnancy notes!
All the best
Sophie, Tommy's Midwife
By Marie (not verified) on 30 Mar 2018 - 16:27
I feel really stupid but I'm so convinced my baby will have serious problems and not make it. I've never miscarried and had a healthy baby 9 years ago but this time I'm counting every day until my next scan. I'm 14 weeks and I've already had 4 scans having paid for 2! I've paid for another in 2 weeks as well! I have low b12 and an underactive thyroid which my doctor knows about but isn't worried - I however am convinced I'll find out something terrible about babies development.
By Midwife @Tommys on 4 Apr 2018 - 09:49
I am so sorry to hear that you are going through a really tough time. I really do hope that you are well supported by your partner, family and friends. It sounds like you would benefit from disclosing your anxiety to your midwife and GP so that they can offer you more appointments and more support(counselling too if you feel that this would be useful for you.) At the moment, it sounds as if everything is growing and progressing well, but if you ever feel that something does not feel right, then you can go into your maternity unit triage/day assessment unit to check a quick check up. Please also know that you can call us on 0800 0147800 for a chat if you need us. We are happy to offer support and guidance wherever we can! Please take good care of yourself
By Jaimee (not verified) on 26 Mar 2018 - 19:17
Hey. Im 34 weeks pregnant with a high risk pregnancy
By Midwife @Tommys on 27 Mar 2018 - 10:13
I'm sorry that you are having a difficult pregnancy please get in touch with us if we can be of any help. Email us on [email protected] or call 0800 0147 800 9-5 weekdays to talk to a midwife
By Charlene (not verified) on 5 Mar 2018 - 18:13
Hi I'm 18 weeks pregnant and from last week I've had a pain on my ribs on right side. It's when I'm sitting. It's bearable just worrying
By Midwife @Tommys on 7 Mar 2018 - 09:29
Right sided rib pain is always worth getting reviewed. The baby is not yet grown big enough to be causing discomfort to the rib cage, this tends to occur more commonly towards the third trimester.
Right sided rib pain can also be associated with a condition called pre-eclampsia as this is where your liver is located. It would be sensible, especially if you are suffering with headaches, any swelling to your face, hands or feet - to go see a midwife and obstetric doctor at your local hospital asap. There they will check your Blood pressure, dipstick and send off your urine and likely take some bloods from you.
Please get yourself seen as soon as possible.
By Philippa (not verified) on 18 Mar 2018 - 15:11
I have also had rib pain for several weeks now, I am 31 weeks pregnant and I get pain across the top of my bump over to each side, its quite painful and often accompanied by numbness. This usually happens when I eat. I told my midwife about this but she said as long as its not on the right side its nothing to worry about, is this true?
By Midwife @Tommys on 21 Mar 2018 - 09:23
It needs to be taken into context of your medical and pregnancy history. One sided rib pain then we would screen for pre-eclampsia especially if you had any other symptoms e.g. persistent headache, sudden swelling and visual disturbances. It maybe indigestion and some reflux that you may be experiencing especially if you feel that it is usually when you eat. If you feel otherwise well then monitor how you feeling and your baby's movements, any changes or concerns then speak with your midwife or maternity unit. Best wishes, Tommy's midwife.
By abbie (not verified) on 7 Feb 2018 - 13:25
i am pregnant with my second but i had a miscarriage with my first last year and i am abit worried as i dont know what to look out for as symtoms as i feel like sometimes i am on my period i am constantly checking if i am bleeding every time because of my past with the miscarriage.
i dont know how far i am because i dont see midwife til in 2 weeks time but i think i am roughly 6 nearly 7 weeks which last year i had a miscarriage at 6 weeks...
By Midwife @Tommys on 7 Feb 2018 - 14:09
I can completely understand why you are feeling anxious in this pregnancy after you experienced a miscarriage last year. This is however, a very common way to feel after such a huge life event - so you are not weird or odd in any way!
If you are really anxious, then you could ask your GP to refer you to an early pregnancy assessment unit for an early scan to put your mind at ease. It sounds as if everything is progressing normally though.Please feel free to call us on 0800 0147800 if you want to have a friendly chat about things.
By Elisha (not verified) on 7 Feb 2018 - 21:43
Your concern is understandable but also natural to most women who are in early weeks of pregnancy with or without history of miscarriage. First, if your body aborts the baby in these early weeks there is nothing that can be done to save the fetus. That being said, worrying and stressing will only harm your health. Instead, relax, rest, take it easy when you can but dont be afraid to go about your daily routine. A feeling of mild menstrual cramps and some pressure in your lower abdomen can be and is for many women a part of being pregnant. You now have something in your uterus that wasn't there before. Some light punkish spotting is also natural. Be more on the lookout for bleeding thats bright red weather continuous or intermittent. If sexual intercourse is painful during or after, or you notice an increase in cramping and/or bleeding during or after sex, refrain from sex until you've talked to your doctor. Rest asured that unless there is a genuine medical problem, many women go on to have healthy pregnancies following a miscarriage. I myself have 8 babies and 2 early term misscarriages. My 8th pregnancy included dark brown blood and cramping but was a healthy pregnancy. My 7th baby was a healthy pregnancy immediately following a misscariage.
Hope this helps. Good luck.
By Midwife @Tommys on 8 Feb 2018 - 15:14
Thank you for your comments
By Sherri (not verified) on 30 Jan 2018 - 18:45
I am roughly 10 wks and I have had really sore feeling lower stomach/abdomen. Its slightly sharper when I move about or go from sitting to standing. Do I need to worry?
By Midwife @Tommys on 31 Jan 2018 - 11:55
There is no need to panic, but it would sensible to get yourself reviewed. Abdominal pain, at any gestation, should be reviewed, mostly to put your mind at ease, but also to ensure that all is well with the growing fetus too.
If you are concerned, you can attend your local early pregnancy assessment unit - your GP can refer you, for a scan and check up.
Please take good care of yourself and get in touch if you need more assistance or advice
Sophie, Tommy's Midwife
By Angela (not verified) on 20 Dec 2017 - 13:38
I am 9 weeks pregnant with my second child. I am feeling quite anxious as i have polycystic ovaries and have been trying for a baby for 2 years prior to getting pregnant. I have been getting slight cramping pains in my groin for a couple of days and am little concerned as i never had this with my first child. Should i go to the hospital or am i just worrying for No reason.
By Midwife @Tommys on 22 Dec 2017 - 12:05
Please contact your local maternity unit so they can assess you over the phone.
By Courtney (not verified) on 14 Dec 2017 - 00:24
Hiya, I'm 23 weeks pregnant and getting bad pain around my stomach and I get constipated a lot and then when I manage to go I can't stop and i bleed from my bottom is this normal?
By Midwife @Tommys on 14 Dec 2017 - 09:48
It would be sensible to go to your maternity unit today to get an urgent review on your local day assessment unit/triage/labour ward. Being constipated in pregnancy is common. And so too are Haemorriods, which you may be developing. However, you may need to be given some cream and some stool softeners to help you. I am concerned by the bleeding from your back passage if this has been ongoing for a while is a descent amount. So please get reviewed today if possible! Take good care of yourself,Sophie Tommy's Midwife
By Michelle (not verified) on 6 Dec 2017 - 15:45
I'm 23 +3days and been feeling extremely tired weak and dizzy I find eating sugary foods help a bit but I really don't feel myself I'm struggling to get thru each day with lack of energy could something be wrong or could I be lacking something?
By Midwife @Tommys on 6 Dec 2017 - 16:30
Always go with your gut instinct. It might be that you are very low in iron - which causes a low blood Haemoglobin level, making you feel weak and dizzy and tired! If you have already been feeling like this for a while, then you should go into your local labour ward/day assessment/triage as soon as possible with your pregnancy notes for a review by a midwife and doctor. Please take good care of yourself and get yourself seen today!!
Sophie, Tommy's Midwife :)
By Anonymous (not verified) on 2 Dec 2017 - 23:27
Hi, I’m 26 weeks and 3 days pregnant with twins. I know how my daughters move even on their “lazy days”. I have felt them move less and less the past two days and did not feel them move until 2:15 this afternoon. I had called L&D in my town and they told me to drink something sugary and cold. I tried coke and I got a total of 5 kicks doing this after laying down for an hour. I haven’t felt anything sick then, and now I just feel really miserable. I have a terrible headache, achy and super nauseated. Plus I keep getting little sharp pains in my abdomen. Should I call my L&D back? I’m a first time mom and just really worried. This isn’t normal for their movement at all.
By Midwife @Tommys on 4 Dec 2017 - 14:43
I am sorry to be replying to you on Monday. This website is only monitored during office hours Monday to Friday 9-5pm. I do hope that you are feeling better and that you decided to call the maternity unit again. Any reduction in babies movements should be assessed. Irrespective of time of day the maternity units up and down the country are open 24 hours a day 7 days a week. Best wishes to you
By Concern (not verified) on 1 Dec 2017 - 04:30
I had a woman run into me pretty hard yesterday almost knocked me off my feet 18 weeks pregnant since I've yet to feel baby move , Although haven't had any bleeding I do have a bruise ab and aches in my lower back.
By Midwife @Tommys on 1 Dec 2017 - 12:10
Sorry to hear that someone ran into so hard yesterday. It is reassuring that you have not had any bleeding, and with regards to your baby's movements, at this stage of pregnancy movements are not always felt or regular. If you had a direct blow to your abdomen or getting some abdominal pain then do contact your midwife to be reviewed.
By Anonymous (not verified) on 2 Dec 2017 - 02:31
By Andrea (not verified) on 7 Nov 2017 - 05:48
Hi. I am 40+5 weeks pregnant. I had a sweep 5 days ago but nothing happened.
I have had a constant cramp but only down my left side for a good few hours. The pain is becoming very uncomfortable. Is this normal or could there be a problem. Thanks
By Midwife @Tommys on 7 Nov 2017 - 09:23
Thank you for your message. As you are experiencing painful cramps please contact your local maternity unit. Good luck!
By Anonymous (not verified) on 11 Oct 2017 - 20:02
Looking for some general information please. Had my 12 week scan and 16 week check where I heard the babies heartbeat, but I've done the stupid thing throughout my pregnancy so far of googling things. I'm now obsessing about missed miscarriage and am petrified at my 20 week scan this could have happened to us. I've had no symptoms all pregnancy other than sore boobs and bad skin, so nothing of concern and I have no reason to be worried (I don't think) but think I'm just at that stage where I can't feel anything and I'm worrying myself sick about it. My bump one day looks a lot bigger than others which again makes me freak. Could you please advise of what missed miscarriage stats ?
Thanks in advance
By Midwife @Tommys on 12 Oct 2017 - 10:08
Hi, Thank you for your comment.
It can be a very anxious time in a woman's life when they are having a baby and it is only right that you want to be fully informed about the facts. It can be difficult to know where to stop because there is so much information out there, some of which can be helpful, while other information isn't very reliable. Please feel reassured that from everything thing you have said, there is nothing to suggest that you will experience a missed miscarriage but we do appreciate the worry and anxiety that it is causing for you. This is a link the to the Tommy's website of miscarriage statistics https://www.tommys.org/our-organisation/charity-research/pregnancy-statistics/miscarriage
Hope that this helps, if your feel like you need further support then please contact The Tommy's Midwives on email [email protected] or call us on 0800 0147 800 9am-5pm Monday to Friday. Hope this helps, best wishes Tommy's Midwives x
By Rukshana (not verified) on 28 Sep 2017 - 03:07
Hello are there any doctor here please answer me.
I'm 32 years old female, I've been married 5 years ago, I'm pregnant now about 30 weeks. It's my second pregnancy.
My first pregnancy was miscarriage about tow and half years ago.I have diabetes and high blood pressure.
At my present pregnancy, there was a light bleeding or spotting at the beginning of my pregnancy it was still about two weeks, that time I went my local doctor for consult & then my doctor were prescribe me some pregnancy related medicine included insulin for diabetes and high blood pressure.
And she also prescribe progynova 2mg tablets, & I taken it till 8 months for my doctor advised.
One day I found it through the internet pprogynova 2mg is not safe in pregnancy, & then I stop taken it to her permission.
So dear doctor my question to you that why my doctor prescribe me progynova 2mg tablets with other medicine? & I was taken it long time like 8 months, is long time progynova 2mg taken can effect my unborn baby?
I'm very worried about it now, please answer me details.
By Midwife @Tommys on 28 Sep 2017 - 11:49
This is not a drug that i know much about as a midwife, so i had to do some research about it myself. It does seem a little odd that you were put on this medication, as it is a type of hormone replacement therapy used for boosting oestrogen levels in women. It does suggest that you do not take the medication if you are pregnant or breastfeeding. As i do not know your full medical history, it is difficult to know wether your Dr has put you on this medication for a reason that i am not aware of due to your medical (past or present) history. I would suggest that you go to your Dr/GP as soon as you can to discuss this with them. I am sorry that i could not give you much more information than this, but without knowing your full background, it is difficult to comment too much on this.
Please do ensure that you get seen asap, to put your mind at ease and change your plan of care if required. Please take care of yourself
By Tux (not verified) on 18 Sep 2017 - 21:28
I'm 14 weeks and 2 days ago I had a light bump on my bump. I fell onto the sofa arm, Not hard enough for me to scream out at all, but the next day (about 12/13hours later) I had strong pains on one side of my tummy for what felt an age but probably wasn't more than 1 max 2 minutes. It was quite strong, I couldn't stand up. Now I'm petrified that that little fall has hurt my baby or worse. Should I be worried or am I over exaggerating?
I usually feel light pains in my tummy daily ...I guess stretching pains but today I haven't had anything. Thanks
By Midwife @Tommys on 19 Sep 2017 - 10:05
I'm sorry that you had a bump on your bump. It is always worrying when these things happen. At 14 weeks your pregnancy is just rising up out of your pelvis into your tummy. Your little baby, now the size of a lemon is nestled and protected in a sac of fluid which protects him/her from every day knocks and jolts.
The fact that the pain you had was short lasting and that you haven't had any further pain is reassuring.
Please don't worry on your own. Always give us a call if you need to talk to a midwife Tux. You can reach us on 0800 0147 800 weekdays 9-5pm.
By Kendra (not verified) on 20 Sep 2017 - 01:30
Sorry to hear you're worrying about your bump to the bump. If it makes you feel any better when I was 16 weeks pregnant with my identical twin daughters I was in a head on collision. They are now healthy and happy 5 year old girls in kindergarten. I'm 14 weeks now and my dog landed hard on my stomach a couple days ago, it made me pretty worried too. But when I thought about the impact of the cars smashing, it had to be way more velocity than a dog or ourselves falling.
By Midwife @Tommys on 20 Sep 2017 - 10:09
Thank you for posting your story. We would always promote that after a bump to the tummy during pregnancy, that you get checked over by a midwife/doctor at your local maternity hospital. The likelihood is that everything will be fine, but it is always worth getting checked over if the pain lasts for more than a short period of time! Please look after yourself!
By Anonymous (not verified) on 18 Sep 2017 - 20:52
Today I have had light belly ache through out the day , my belly feels like it's throbing and tenderish I'm about 5 weeks ..the pain isn't bad just annoying more than anything ..is it a cause for concern
By Midwife @Tommys on 19 Sep 2017 - 09:32
Hello, thank you for posting. At 5 weeks mild aches and pains are common in pregnancy. The discomfort should only be mild and occasional. This is due to increased congestion of blood in the pelvic region and the release of hormones called prostaglandins - which usually cause period pain during menstruation. Hormonal changes in pregnancy cause the ligaments which support your organs and growing uterus to soften and stretch - this allows your womb to grow and other organs to move - but can cause aches and sharp twinges. Usually change of position, rest and a warm bath or applying a heat pad will help to ease this discomfort - paracetamol is also safe to take in pregnancy to ease pain (no more than 8 tablets in 24 hours). However, if you feel the pain is severe for you, or you have strong regular pain or bleeding you need to see your GP or be referred to your nearest Early Pregnancy Assessment Unit (EPAU).
I hope that the tenderness settles. Please keep in touch over your pregnancy. You can also call us on 0800 0147 800 if you have any questions.
By Anonymous (not verified) on 2 Sep 2017 - 00:05
Hello im 21, and I'm currently 22 weeks pregnant.
I've previously had a stillborn at 32 weeks on the 2nd July last year. I went for a scan on Wednesday for them to say the baby stomach is measuring 2weeks behind and so is it's legs. I saw my consultant today and I have to wait till the 11th for a growth scan. My last pregnancy I got pre-eclampsia at 17 weeks (very early on) and he stopped growing from 23 weeks, my placenta wasn't working very we'll, and I'm worried it's happening all over again with this baby.
I've been trying not to worry but I honestly can't help it, I'm a complete mess.