It’s important to listen to your own instinct and the midwife will be happy to discuss your worries.
Do not rely on advice from family members, friends or even the internet.
Find out what to do if your midwife is not listening to you.
Being your own champion during pregnancy is important. That’s why Tommy’s has launched a new campaign called #AlwaysAsk to encourage you to trust your instincts and speak up when it comes to health concerns in pregnancy.
Practical tips from other women on how to get listened to and be taken seriously when you have a concern in pregnancy.
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ℹLast reviewed on April 1st, 2014. Next review date April 1st, 2017.
By Anonymous (not verified) on 11 Oct 2017 - 20:02
Looking for some general information please. Had my 12 week scan and 16 week check where I heard the babies heartbeat, but I've done the stupid thing throughout my pregnancy so far of googling things. I'm now obsessing about missed miscarriage and am petrified at my 20 week scan this could have happened to us. I've had no symptoms all pregnancy other than sore boobs and bad skin, so nothing of concern and I have no reason to be worried (I don't think) but think I'm just at that stage where I can't feel anything and I'm worrying myself sick about it. My bump one day looks a lot bigger than others which again makes me freak. Could you please advise of what missed miscarriage stats ?
Thanks in advance
By Midwife @Tommys on 12 Oct 2017 - 10:08
Hi, Thank you for your comment.
It can be a very anxious time in a woman's life when they are having a baby and it is only right that you want to be fully informed about the facts. It can be difficult to know where to stop because there is so much information out there, some of which can be helpful, while other information isn't very reliable. Please feel reassured that from everything thing you have said, there is nothing to suggest that you will experience a missed miscarriage but we do appreciate the worry and anxiety that it is causing for you. This is a link the to the Tommy's website of miscarriage statistics https://www.tommys.org/our-organisation/charity-research/pregnancy-statistics/miscarriage
Hope that this helps, if your feel like you need further support then please contact The Tommy's Midwives on email [email protected] or call us on 0800 0147 800 9am-5pm Monday to Friday. Hope this helps, best wishes Tommy's Midwives x
By Anonymous (not verified) on 28 Sep 2017 - 03:07
Hello are there any doctor here please answer me.
I'm 32 years old female, I've been married 5 years ago, I'm pregnant now about 30 weeks. It's my second pregnancy.
My first pregnancy was miscarriage about tow and half years ago.I have diabetes and high blood pressure.
At my present pregnancy, there was a light bleeding or spotting at the beginning of my pregnancy it was still about two weeks, that time I went my local doctor for consult & then my doctor were prescribe me some pregnancy related medicine included insulin for diabetes and high blood pressure.
And she also prescribe progynova 2mg tablets, & I taken it till 8 months for my doctor advised.
One day I found it through the internet pprogynova 2mg is not safe in pregnancy, & then I stop taken it to her permission.
So dear doctor my question to you that why my doctor prescribe me progynova 2mg tablets with other medicine? & I was taken it long time like 8 months, is long time progynova 2mg taken can effect my unborn baby?
I'm very worried about it now, please answer me details.
By Midwife @Tommys on 28 Sep 2017 - 11:49
This is not a drug that i know much about as a midwife, so i had to do some research about it myself. It does seem a little odd that you were put on this medication, as it is a type of hormone replacement therapy used for boosting oestrogen levels in women. It does suggest that you do not take the medication if you are pregnant or breastfeeding. As i do not know your full medical history, it is difficult to know wether your Dr has put you on this medication for a reason that i am not aware of due to your medical (past or present) history. I would suggest that you go to your Dr/GP as soon as you can to discuss this with them. I am sorry that i could not give you much more information than this, but without knowing your full background, it is difficult to comment too much on this.
Please do ensure that you get seen asap, to put your mind at ease and change your plan of care if required. Please take care of yourself
By Anonymous (not verified) on 18 Sep 2017 - 21:28
I'm 14 weeks and 2 days ago I had a light bump on my bump. I fell onto the sofa arm, Not hard enough for me to scream out at all, but the next day (about 12/13hours later) I had strong pains on one side of my tummy for what felt an age but probably wasn't more than 1 max 2 minutes. It was quite strong, I couldn't stand up. Now I'm petrified that that little fall has hurt my baby or worse. Should I be worried or am I over exaggerating?
I usually feel light pains in my tummy daily ...I guess stretching pains but today I haven't had anything. Thanks
By Midwife @Tommys on 19 Sep 2017 - 10:05
I'm sorry that you had a bump on your bump. It is always worrying when these things happen. At 14 weeks your pregnancy is just rising up out of your pelvis into your tummy. Your little baby, now the size of a lemon is nestled and protected in a sac of fluid which protects him/her from every day knocks and jolts.
The fact that the pain you had was short lasting and that you haven't had any further pain is reassuring.
Please don't worry on your own. Always give us a call if you need to talk to a midwife Tux. You can reach us on 0800 0147 800 weekdays 9-5pm.
By Anonymous (not verified) on 20 Sep 2017 - 01:30
Sorry to hear you're worrying about your bump to the bump. If it makes you feel any better when I was 16 weeks pregnant with my identical twin daughters I was in a head on collision. They are now healthy and happy 5 year old girls in kindergarten. I'm 14 weeks now and my dog landed hard on my stomach a couple days ago, it made me pretty worried too. But when I thought about the impact of the cars smashing, it had to be way more velocity than a dog or ourselves falling.
By Midwife @Tommys on 20 Sep 2017 - 10:09
Thank you for posting your story. We would always promote that after a bump to the tummy during pregnancy, that you get checked over by a midwife/doctor at your local maternity hospital. The likelihood is that everything will be fine, but it is always worth getting checked over if the pain lasts for more than a short period of time! Please look after yourself!
By Anonymous (not verified) on 18 Sep 2017 - 20:52
Today I have had light belly ache through out the day , my belly feels like it's throbing and tenderish I'm about 5 weeks ..the pain isn't bad just annoying more than anything ..is it a cause for concern
By Midwife @Tommys on 19 Sep 2017 - 09:32
Hello, thank you for posting. At 5 weeks mild aches and pains are common in pregnancy. The discomfort should only be mild and occasional. This is due to increased congestion of blood in the pelvic region and the release of hormones called prostaglandins - which usually cause period pain during menstruation. Hormonal changes in pregnancy cause the ligaments which support your organs and growing uterus to soften and stretch - this allows your womb to grow and other organs to move - but can cause aches and sharp twinges. Usually change of position, rest and a warm bath or applying a heat pad will help to ease this discomfort - paracetamol is also safe to take in pregnancy to ease pain (no more than 8 tablets in 24 hours). However, if you feel the pain is severe for you, or you have strong regular pain or bleeding you need to see your GP or be referred to your nearest Early Pregnancy Assessment Unit (EPAU).
I hope that the tenderness settles. Please keep in touch over your pregnancy. You can also call us on 0800 0147 800 if you have any questions.
By Anonymous (not verified) on 2 Sep 2017 - 00:05
Hello im 21, and I'm currently 22 weeks pregnant.
I've previously had a stillborn at 32 weeks on the 2nd July last year. I went for a scan on Wednesday for them to say the baby stomach is measuring 2weeks behind and so is it's legs. I saw my consultant today and I have to wait till the 11th for a growth scan. My last pregnancy I got pre-eclampsia at 17 weeks (very early on) and he stopped growing from 23 weeks, my placenta wasn't working very we'll, and I'm worried it's happening all over again with this baby.
I've been trying not to worry but I honestly can't help it, I'm a complete mess.
By Midwife @Tommys on 4 Sep 2017 - 16:01
Hello and thank you for contacting us. Please feel able to call us on 0800 0147 800. We can discuss this and try to help you. I can understand that you are extremely worried. I am sure that your doctors will keep a close eye on how the growth is and your midwives will be monitoring your blood pressure and urine and doing regular blood testing. If you have symptoms of pre-eclampsia again it is important that it is closely monitored. Best wishes
By Anonymous (not verified) on 1 Sep 2017 - 20:51
Hi, I'm 10.5 weeks. The only symptom I've had throughout my pregnancy is sore breasts, but this symptom has now completely gone. Is this something I should be worried about? I've also had sharp irregular pains in my tummy but when I contacted the midwife she said it is probably growing pains, I haven't spoke to her about the symptom loss as her response to the tummy pains was very short and told me to go to my GP which made me feel like she didn't care
By Midwife @Tommys on 4 Sep 2017 - 15:51
Hi I hope you are feeling better after the weekend. Symptoms in early pregnancy can come and go and have no relationship to the outcome of the pregnancy. Generally women who suffer from excessive nausea and sickness wish that they had no symptoms but women with no symptoms worry that their pregnancy isn't progressing as it should. Try not to worry, If there is no bleeding there is no reason to believe that the pregnancy is not going well. with best wishes Tommy's midwives
By Anonymous (not verified) on 31 Aug 2017 - 21:03
Im 10.5 weeks pregnant and have only had sore breasts throughout so far along with some irregular stabbing pains which I believe is ligament and growing pains.
Should however my symptoms (even though only sore boobs) have disappeared? I'm 1.5weeks from my 12 week scan but I'm so worried about a missed miscarriage that it's keeping me awake and distracting me at work constantly. Not sure if this is normal or if my symptoms disappearing is a bad sign? Thanks in advance
By Midwife @Tommys on 4 Sep 2017 - 15:45
Hi, It is very common for symptoms to come and go in early pregnancy and usually nothing to worry about. I understand that you are concerned but in the absence of any bleeding there is unlikely to be a concern. Best wishes
By Anonymous (not verified) on 14 Aug 2017 - 04:22
Hi! Im 13 weeks pregnant and i have a stabbing pain right above my right hip..also a pain that feels like someonenis pinching my bellybutton..
By Midwife @Tommys on 15 Aug 2017 - 09:42
Hi - Congratulations on your pregnancy!
You may get sharp pains on both sides of your tummy, which get worse when you move. These are called 'round ligament pains' and are nothing to worry about. They are caused by all the stretching your womb is doing as it rapidly grows in size.
For further advice have a look at our information page on Stomach Pains:
By Anonymous (not verified) on 3 Jun 2017 - 15:34
I'm 33weeks plus 4days pregnant and i have been getting bad period pains across my lower back and sharp pains in the right hand side at the bottom of my belly just wondering if everything is ok
By Midwife @Tommys on 5 Jun 2017 - 11:18
Any abdominal pain at 33 weeks should be investigated as soon as possible. Best advice is to call your maternity unit and ask where you should go to be seen today. The number should be on your handheld notes. If you are still unsure you can call us on 0800 0147 800 but please be aware that this is not an emergency number and is staffed only during office hours. Best wishes Tommy's midwives x
By Midwife @Tommys on 2 Jun 2017 - 09:47
Thanks for your comment
Shortness of breath is fairly common in later pregnancy-as the baby grows and takes up more room in your abdomen, then puts pressure on your diaphragm, this can then make you feel breathless especially if you are lying flat.
Generally its not recommended to lie completely flat in pregnancy-as you've found this has made it difficult to breathe, but also the baby presses on a major blood vessel returning blood to your heart. This can make you feel faint as well as short of breath.
Try to avoid lying completely flat; sit up or lie on your left side as this can also help the blood flow through the placenta.
If your symptoms are worsening-you are breathless all the time or otherwise feeling unwell, don't hesitate to contact your midwife.
Please contact us at any time or call Tommy's PregnancyLine
0800 0147 800 for further advice
By Anonymous (not verified) on 1 Jun 2017 - 17:32
For the last 5 days I have hade a caugh and now I am struggling to breath when I lay down flat I am also 38 and 4 days pregnant and getting a lot of presser too just wondering on what to do
By Midwife @Tommys on 19 Jul 2017 - 09:17
I would suggest that you take yourself into your local labour ward/day assessment unit or triage urgently today if you have not already done so in relation to your worsening shortness of breath. You will need to be seen by a midwife and obstetric doctor and a plan of care made for you base upon their findings. Please take good care of yourself!