The first few days with your premature baby

The first few days after giving birth to your premature baby can pass in a daze. Here's what to expect...

Many women describe their early days with a new baby as having a dream-like quality. You are recovering from the birth, coping with a great deal of change - not to mention raging hormones - and may feel extremely tired.

If your baby is born prematurely, you have to cope with all of this without having had a chance to prepare yourself - either emotionally or practically. The birth may have come as a big shock, and you may also be coping with the realities of health problems for you or your baby.

Bonding with your premature baby

If your baby is in an incubator, you may find it harder than usual to bond with them - though this is not always the case. If you don't feel a connection with your baby at first, don't worry - just try to take each day as it comes.

You may worry because there may be a big difference between how you feel about your baby and how you think you 'should' feel about your baby.

If you are expecting to fall in love with them at first sight, you may feel very worried or guilty if you feel somewhat detached from the small creature lying in the incubator.

Try not to worry if you don't bond immediately. It takes many mothers some time to get to know and love their new baby - especially after a difficult birth. If your baby is in an incubator, then it may take you a little longer to connect with them, as so many other people need to be involved in their care. Kangaroo care can help with the bonding process and when your baby is stable this will probably be encouraged.

Read more about how to bond with your baby here.

The neonatal unit

The first time you see your baby in the baby unit, it may come as a big shock. The unit itself may seem like a space-age control room - very hot, with lots of flashing lights, beeping monitors and other mystifying pieces of equipment. Among all these are the incubators, each one containing a tiny baby.

Your tiny baby may be at the centre of a tangle of tubes, surrounded by equipment. Seeing them in this situation can be very distressing, and it is easy to feel very overwhelmed.

What your premature baby will look like

Your baby may also look quite different to what you had imagined. Newborn babies never look like the bouncing bundles that you see in the nappy adverts, but a baby born prematurely will be at an earlier stage of development, and so may look quite different to what you might expect. For example, they have very red skin, which may be covered in a fine down. Be reassured that these things are temporary. As your baby grows they will look more like the baby you had expected.


24-28 weeks

Weight: 1-3.5lb (450-1600g)

Length: 10-13in (25-33cm)

At this stage, your baby will be very thin, with fragile red skin covered with downy hair (lanugo). His head will look large, he will have soft skull bones, and a small face with a pointed chin and eyes fused shut.

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29-34 weeks

Weight: 2-5.5lb (1-2.5kg)

Length: 12-14in (30-35cm)

Your baby will still be quite thin, and his skin will be slightly translucent and still covered in downy hair. In girls you may see tiny nipples. He may move quite vigorously and grasp your finger, and may be able to suck or lick, but he won't be ready to feed on his own.

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35-37 weeks

Weight: 3.5-7lb (1.6-3.4kg)

Length: 15-18in (38-45cm)

By this stage, your baby will be much more robust and will look more like what you'd expect a term baby to look like. He may still be quite thin, with some hair, and he may still need extra help with feeding and breathing and staying warm.

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Levels of care

Special care baby unit (SCBU) 

Also called the special care baby unit (SCBU, pronounced 'skaboo') or special care unit (SCU), these provide the most simple level of care for babies in their local area and stabilise a baby's condition before transferring him to another unit or provide emergency care if necessary. They may also provide some high-dependency services. They receive babies from other units once they are well enough to be cared for there.

Local neonatal unit (LNU)

Local neonatal units (LNUs) provide special care for babies in their local area, except for those who are very unwell and need complex or longer-term intensive care. The majority of babies over 27 weeks of gestation will usually receive their full care, including short periods of intensive care, within their LNU.

Neonatal intensive care units (NICU)

These specialist units have the facilities to care for critically ill premature babies. Babies will be transferred here from around the country to access the specialised expertise that they offer. They provide the whole range of medical neonatal care for their local population, along with additional care for babies and their families referred from the neonatal network.

The baby unit

Caring for your baby

  • Mother holding baby to her chest.

    Kangaroo care

    Skin-to-skin contact with your premature baby is a wonderful way for you both to bond. It also provides health benefits.

  • Mother holding premature baby.

    Caring for your baby: your role

    You will play an important part in your premature baby's care, even while they are in the NICU.

  • Premature baby using feeding equipment.

    Feeding your premature baby

    Your premature baby's diet will be carefully balanced to suit their tiny digestive system while meeting the needs of their growing body.

  • Premature baby in incubator.

    Positioning your premature baby

    Positioning your premature baby correctly can make them feel secure, improve their breathing ability, strengthen their muscles and reduce the risk of cot death.

Treatment and medical support your baby may have


  1. Bradford N (2005) Your premature baby: the first five years, Toronto, Firefly Books
  2. Henderson D, Macdonald S (2004) Mayes Midwifery (13th edition), London, Balliere Tindall
  3. Hunt F (2008) The importance of kangaroo care on infant oxygen saturation levels and bonding, Journal of Neonatal Nursing, Vol 14, No 2, p47-51
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    Last reviewed on April 1st, 2017. Next review date April 1st, 2020.

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    Please note that these comments are monitored but not answered by Tommy’s. Please call your GP or maternity unit if you have concerns about your health or your baby’s health.
    • By Sarah (not verified) on 20 Mar 2020 - 11:00

      Good morning,

      I know you have probably had many questions about this but I just wanted to ask if you would consider my baby vulnerable.

      He is now almost 4 months old but was 7 weeks early. He now weighs 12lb. The health visitor advised that she would consider him vulnerable being so early despite him “coming along nicely” now but the government don’t include premature babies in their lists as far as I can see. I want the best for him and don’t want to put him in harms way. I am therefore just wondering if you would also consider him vulnerable and advise social distancing at this time?

      Many thanks x

    • By Stacey (not verified) on 22 Feb 2020 - 12:12

      Thank you for sharing these resources. I wish I had read this before my first son was born. I was induced because I had cholestasis, and he spent a new days and nights in the NICU due to Jaundice. It was the worst to go through and so difficult to see him there. He is now 2 and all the same feelings are coming back as I prepare to give birth to my 2nd baby this summer. Knowing that it’s ok to not “feel” what I thought I should or would feel is very helpful.

    • By Meskerem (not verified) on 20 Feb 2020 - 10:51

      My baby boy was born at 34 weeks . now he is 22 days since he born. He is OK with his weight and his health but my fear is should I start additional formula milk

    • By Rozzy K (not verified) on 18 Nov 2019 - 20:36

      Having walked this path in 2017,had a son at 32wks-1.6kg spent one a half month in hospital,lots of stress to and from the hospital but finally we made it! Jeremy is a happy boy full of life and amazing personality,any mum going through the same ........ it is well......

    • By Chris (not verified) on 16 Nov 2019 - 03:58

      I had my baby at 36 weeks due to pregnancy complications- preeclampsia. She was taken to NICU due to breathing problem. Its been 8 days now , CPaP was attached to her to help her breath .Everytime I visit her I cried. I know I had to be strong for her but my heart just couldnt take it seeing her in that situation. Praying for fast healing and recovery for my baby girl.

    • By Sven (not verified) on 23 Aug 2019 - 05:37

      My precious angel was born at 28 weeks. She has so many health issues from infections to breathing problems. When my wife and i go see her in the incubator she is so close but still so far.i want to hold her but we are not allowed. We speak to her and sometimes she opens her amazing little eyes and smilesThere has not been one day that has gone by that i have not shed tears for my Angel.Can't sleep well barely have an appetite. It is the most difficult situation i have ever gone through.

    • By Newdad (not verified) on 29 Oct 2019 - 04:17

      Something different totally oblivious to it all until it happened to me , hope baby is ok and home by now , truly life changing
      Big respects

    • By Gena (not verified) on 27 Dec 2019 - 14:53

      I can relate, mine is 3 weeks old, and it was hell just for description, being powerless is even worse,he lost a lot of weight about 0.6kg, but he is home now and we are taking it one day at a time.

    • By Emma (not verified) on 6 May 2019 - 15:37

      My saying is that I was a premature baby and I was also drug addicted when I was born my bio sucked I was adopted they lost there rights to me now I am going to be adopted again so don’t lose your hope.

    • By Anonymous (not verified) on 17 Feb 2018 - 20:04

      Just Gave birth to my loving premature son this month I'm so stressed but also wanna be a good mother to him. Thank you very much, I will keep on reading more maybe it's gonna help

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 19 Feb 2018 - 14:44

      Congratulations, We at Tommy's wish you and your baby son all the best. Keep in touch with us and remember that we are here for you when you need us. Take care x

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 12 Oct 2016 - 12:50

      Thank you for your post I can only imagine how frightening and uncertain things must be for you after the birth of your little boy.
      He is in the best place being cared for by a team of specialists. It may take time to find out what the health issues are for your son. Additional tests and investigations will be required, but his immediate care and your recovery are what is most important right now. The team caring for him will want to keep you up to date with his condition and when there is new information this will be shared with you, his Mum.
      We are here for support to speak to on 08000147800 weekdays 9-5 pm. Please don't hesitate to call.

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