Stillbirth symptoms and risks

Many women who suffer a stillbirth don't notice any changes. However, there are some things that you should look for during your pregnancy.

Baby movements in the womb

You will probably start to feel the movements of your baby in the womb somewhere between 16 and 22 weeks. As the weeks go on you may become aware of a particular pattern of movement that is familiar to you.

Your baby may move more in the evenings when you are resting or before you go to sleep at night. You may also find certain activities such as a bath, putting your feet up and resting on the sofa or eating and drinking seem to cause your baby to move more.

The movements normally become regular by 26 weeks. Recognising these patterns of movement can be very useful during your pregnancy.

If a baby is having problems in the womb they are likely to move less to conserve energy. Noticing when this happens and contacting your hospital immediately can make the difference between life and death.

If there is a definite change in your baby’s movements 

If you notice a change or reduction in your baby's movements you should contact your midwife or your maternity unit immediately - do not wait until next day.

If you think there might be a change in your baby’s movements 

It is better to be safe than sorry so if you have any doubt, call your maternity ward. Trust your instincts.

Who will I talk to if I report a change in my baby's movements?

Unless you have been given alternative numbers to ring during your pregnancy, the best place to ring is usually the labour ward. The labour ward is not only available for women in labour but also for emergencies during the pregnancy. The ward should be open 24 hours a day and there should always be a midwife there who will be able to discuss with you what you are experiencing and advise you.

What will happen if I go in to hospital?

Once at the hospital they will probably check your health and listen to the baby’s heartbeat. They may attach you to a heart rate monitor which records a trace of the baby’s heartbeat so this can be looked at for any signs of problems. You may also be given a button to push every time you feel the baby move and this can also be seen on the print out of the baby’s heartbeat.

It's quite common that once you lie down, hear the baby’s heartbeat and relax you start to feel the baby kicking a lot. Don’t feel embarrassed about this - midwives see this everyday. It is far better to go and be checked so that any potential problems can be picked up. Read more about what will happen when you report reduced fetal movements here.

Sleeping position in the third trimester

When you reach your third trimester, the advice is to go to sleep on your side. Research has shown that going to sleep on your back is linked to an increased risk of stillbirth. This advice includes daytime napping and night sleeping. Read more about safe sleep positions in pregnancy here.

Leaking fluid / vaginal discharge in pregnancy

If you experience any leaking of fluid from your vagina during your pregnancy you should contact the hospital immediately and go to be monitored. It could be your waters breaking early or a sign of infection of the womb.

Waters breaking early in pregnancy

Waters can break at anytime during pregnancy, not just in the last couple of weeks, and this can lead to premature birth. If you feel a gush or trickle of fluid, or feel damp, it could be a sign that your waters have broken. In these cases put on a clean sanitary towel (not a tampon) and call the labour ward. They may ask you to sniff the pad – as it is common to leak urine in pregnancy - or they may ask you to check the pad again in around 20 minutes to see if it is damp.

Amniotic fluid – the fluid from around the baby – smells different to urine and is usually clear, pinkish or can be green or brown. If you believe it is amniotic fluid it is important to go straight to the hospital to be examined. You may be asked to wear a special panty liner for up to 12 hours to confirm if you are leaking amniotic fluid, and you may need an internal examination (inside the vagina) to look for signs that your cervix is opening or softening for labour.

Infection in pregnancy

You should report any discharge from your vagina which is smelly, and any colour other than white, as it may be a sign of an intrauterine infection. Infections can weaken the bag of membranes around the baby, cause an infection inside the womb or make your  waters break.

If you experience an unusual discharge contact your midwife, GP or hospital and ask for a swab to be taken to look for infection.

Diabetes in pregnancy

For women with diabetes in pregnancy, miscarriage, pre-eclampsia, preterm labour, stillbirth and problems with the baby (whilst in the womb, at delivery and after the birth) are sadly more common. This means that good control of your blood sugar levels and regular monitoring are vital.

Whether you had diabetes already, or develop diabetes during pregnancy (known as gestational diabetes), you will need to be closely monitored, and you will need to be aware of how best to care for yourself and your baby during your pregnancy.

What to do in you have diabetes in pregnancy

If you already had type 1 or 2 diabetes before pregnancy you should get good pre-pregnancy counselling and support before stopping contraception and trying for a baby. 

If you are pregnant with diabetes you will probably be regularly seen by a consultant and a specialist diabetes midwife. If you are not happy with the care you are receiving talk to the women's health department manager to ask that your condition be correctly monitored. Make sure that you attend all your scheduled appointments and seek help immediately from your GP, midwife or hospital doctors if you are concerned about your glycaemic control or any other factors affecting either your pregnancy or your diabetes.

Monitoring the growth and movements of your baby is more important than in other pregnancies, so make sure you are clear as to who you should contact if you are concerned. Do not wait until next day, you can contact the labour ward to speak to a midwife outside working hours.

If you have any of the risk factors for developing gestational diabetes, including having a BMI of 30 or over, make sure you are tested between weeks 24 and 28, as recommended by NICE.

Read more about gestational diabetes here.

Read more about type 1 or 2 diabetes and pregnancy here.

Pre-eclampsia and stillbirth

Pre-eclampsia is a condition which affects around 10% of all pregnancies in the UK, and untreated, can cause stillbirth. You are most likely to get it in your first pregnancy or a subsequent pregnancy with a new partner. The main symptom is high blood pressure. It is very important that you attend all your antenatal appointments, as pre-eclampsia is one of the pregnancy conditions that your midwife will be looking out for.

If during your pregnancy you are told that your blood pressure has increased since the beginning of the pregnancy ask your midwife how significant the rise is. Your midwife will also be looking for any protein in your urine so always provide a urine sample at every appointment. If you refuse to give a sample the midwife cannot pressure you to give one, but it could mean a vital clue is missed.

What to do if you think you might have pre-eclampsia

Between appointments look out for any of the warning signs of pre-eclampsia, including severe headaches, altered vision such as seeing flashing lights in front of your eyes, and sudden swelling, particularly of your feet, ankles, hands and face.

Some women also experience pain in their upper abdomen, just below the ribs. If you notice any of these signs you should contact your GP, midwife or labour ward for advice. Do not wait until your next scheduled appointment and ensure that you are seen by someone the same day.

Read more about pre-eclampsia here

Working with your medical team in pregnancy

  1. It is important that any concerns you have, or things that you notice, are taken seriously. Trust your instincts and report all complications, no matter how insignificant they may seem.
  2. Try to get to know the team of midwives that are caring for you during your pregnancy. Even if you meet a new midwife at every appointment aim to use every appointment to your best advantage.
  3. If you have a BMI of 30 or over make sure you get a test for diabetes. It is recommended by NICE and should happen between weeks 24 and 28 of pregnancy. If you are not offered this test ask why.
  4. Ask about the size of your baby – if it is particularly large or small do you need further scans?
  5. If your blood pressure is raised do they think it could be the start of pre-eclampsia – do you need more appointments to monitor this?
  6. Report any unusual symptoms such as headaches, blurred vision (seeing stars), any pains, any aches, nosebleeds, feeling dizzy or faint.
  7. Itching is particularly important as it can be a sign of obstetric cholestasis, a liver condition in pregnancy. A common symptom of this condition is itching of the hands and soles of the feet, but you should report all itching. A simple blood test can be used to diagnose this.
  8. If you have a scan or blood test and there seems to be a problem that needs closer monitoring make sure you know as much as you can about the condition they are looking at. If you haven’t been referred to a consultant yet, ask to see whichever consultant specialises in the problems that have been identified. Make sure you know any symptoms to look out for and what to do in the event of experiencing any of them.
  9. Early in your pregnancy ask your midwife who you should contact if you have any other symptoms or concerns between appointments. Never leave a worrying symptom till your next appointment. Contact your GP, midwife or hospital and ask to be seen.

Read more about stillbirth statistics here.

Read more about stillbirth prevention here

Last reviewed on April 1st, 2014. Next review date April 1st, 2017.

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  • By Priya (not verified) on 30 Mar 2018 - 02:17

    I missed my baby girl on 37th week in 2015 November. On that day her movements are different and I thought it was normal because baby is growing. My waters broken with smelly green discharge. I went to the hospital within 5 mints. Heartbeat was not sight then prof. my VOG scanned me. Unfortunately the baby was floating inside the tummy without moving. I have no words to explain about that moment. Very unfortunate. Still it is dream for us.

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 4 Apr 2018 - 09:01

    Hi Priya
    I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter in 2015. That must have been very hard for you and your family. I do hope that you have been well supported through such a difficult time. If you need to speak to one of us about anything, we are here for you. You can call us on the pregnancy line 0800 0147800 Mon to Fri, 9am to 5pm, or email us anytime at [email protected]
    Thinking of you.
    All the best
    Sophie,Tommy's Midwife

  • By Me myself and I (not verified) on 21 Mar 2018 - 03:31

    My friend she had a still born baby 3 months ago i am now in the emergency with her as we speak March 20th 2018 at 11:30 pm she is bleeding heavily blood clots and she was dilated to 1 1/2 centimeters she is not pregnant and hasn't been she was tested for pregnancy and it was negivitive.. van any of you mom's tell me what your options please.

  • By Til (not verified) on 16 Mar 2018 - 20:44

    22feb 2018 i gave birth to a baby boy bihaan i was going to my 38 weeks check up and the midwife couldn’t find his heartbeat and she refer to hospital.again hospital couldn’t find heartbeat they said my son was no more i was sock I didn’t know what was happening .Its harder to me !!

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 19 Mar 2018 - 12:13

    So sorry to hear this. We really hope that you are getting the support that you need and that our website has given you some comfort in knowing that you are not alone. We continue to raise awareness of stillbirth and to fund research into the causes. We know that this can't help you now but it may give you some comfort to know that we are searching for reasons. Best wishes to you from Tommy's midwives

  • By Harryet (not verified) on 3 Jan 2018 - 06:59

    One week ago, was just feeling well throughout the day. I could feel baby's movement. At midnight my water broke. Was rushed to the hospital. The doctor could not find baby's heartbeat. She sent me for ultrasound. It's here that my son was pronounced dead. It's a very hard time to go through. It's so bad a feeling. My heart is broken into pieces.

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 4 Jan 2018 - 15:52

    Hi Harryet, we are so very sorry to hear about the loss of your little boy only a week ago, we can't even begin to imagine how you and your family must be feeling at this time. If we can offer your any support in any way, please contact the Tommy's Midwives on 0800 0147 800 Monday to Friday 9am-5pm or please email on [email protected] Please take care of yourself, Tommy's Midwives x

  • By mercy (not verified) on 16 Mar 2018 - 10:46

    hi, am Mercy had a stillbirth six days ago at 381/2weeks.i don't know what happened and I really need help coz its hard to accept.

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 19 Mar 2018 - 12:21

    Mercy, So sorry to hear this. Your grief is very raw at the moment. Please make sure that you are looking after yourself and that your family and friends are around to help support you. You are very welcome to call us if you are in the UK. Our number is 0800 0147 800 and we are here Monday to Friday 9-5pm
    I hope that our website has given you some comfort to know that you are not alone. Best wishes x

  • By Sian (not verified) on 16 Jan 2018 - 02:04

    My heart brakes for you.i had the same at 37 weeks .7 years ago.god bless are angel babys to speacial for this earth xx

  • By Tile (not verified) on 28 Jan 2018 - 14:25

    I have just experienced the same i just gave birth to a very beautiful baby girl on 25th Jan and was a still birth. I just stopped feeling her movement on tue morning then tried to eat some sugary food then i in the afternoon a felt her move. But i still decided to go to a nearest clinic for check up on her fetal heartbeat. Met a midwife and she said the baby was okay. Then i decided to go to a hospital where i was going for antenatal for proper check up the next day in the morning. The doctor checked and she said she could hear the heart beat but she still wasnt sure she just scheduled me for a scan just to verify. The scan showed there was no heartbeat....i was torn into pieces. I was induced the next day i gave birth to a still born baby. Am so broken right now i just dont understand what happened.

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 29 Jan 2018 - 16:27

    There are no words that make your pain better just now, but if you think that talking to a midwife may help, please feel able to contact us here at Tommy's on 0800 0147 800. We are here to support you in any way we can. Best wishes to you and take care x

  • By kessy (not verified) on 17 Feb 2018 - 05:59

    So sorry, i experienced same in my 39wks. Was waiting for labour to start, never knew dat d baby was long gone. Its really painful. Cus i later fall into labour, and was happy dat am coming home with my girl. It was almost blfr delivery that i knew she was gone. May we be consoled

  • By Karen (not verified) on 14 Mar 2018 - 23:36

    My heart goes out to you.
    My baby would have been ten now.
    I also had to give birth at 37week
    Found out during natural labour finally pushed him into the world 16 hours later. He was perfect...

  • By Anonymous (not verified) on 31 Oct 2017 - 23:08

    I gave birth to my son on September 20th. He was 35 weeks old and was born a stillborn. My boyfriend and I had a scheduled ultrasound on the 19th to measure his size and make sure everything was fine. He had been kicking early in he morning and I didn’t expect anything to be wrong...we had showed up for the ultrasound very excited to see our big boy again..the specialist doing my ultrasound saw my baby’s heartbeat beating slower than usual. So she spoke with my dr and they sent me to the hospital. When I arrived, my boyfriend and I were rushed into one of the room and the dr came and did an ultrasound herself. I was very scared. I didn’t know what was happening. I looked up at the dr to see tears coming down her face. And my heart went cold...she said “I’m sorry there is no heartbeat..” my stomach wrenched..my body went cold...my heart felt empty. I looked at my boyfriend to see complete shock and disbelief on his face. I will never forget that. Then they had another specialist come in to confirm the ultrasound. It’s been a month since my big boy went with the Angels...my dr ran normal tests to see why. And they all came back negative. I will never know why it happened..and it still eats me up.

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 1 Nov 2017 - 09:05

    We are so sorry to hear about the passing of your beautiful big boy. If you need to talk anything through, please do contact us. It must be an incredibly difficult time for you and your family- sending love and thinking of you all.
    Sophie, Tommy's Midwife

  • By Noxie (not verified) on 7 Sep 2017 - 09:30

    I went to the clinic and they send me to hospital for c section but they say I can give birth an hour later my angel heart bite was gone....that day I will never for get in my life

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 7 Sep 2017 - 11:40

    I am so so sorry to hear about your loss. I hope that you have been able to find what happened and have your questions answered. You will never forget your baby.
    I hope that you have found the information on our website helpful; at Tommy's we are funding research and clinics looking into the causes of stillbirth.
    Your next pregnancy should be under the care of an obstetrician with extra scans to check that you and the baby are well
    When you feel ready, you would be most welcome to call us if we can be of any help at all.

  • By Anonymous (not verified) on 16 Jul 2017 - 02:20

    On june 21, 2017 i gave birth to a beautiful baby girl 8 lbs 19 inches... She was born sleeping... I was goinh to my 37 wks nst check up, and the nurse couldnt find her heartbeat.... So she called the doctor in and the doctor couldnt find it either.. When they told me the baby is dead.... My body just froze and i couldnt say a word or cry... Few minutes later i asked them to check again for me how could this be? How? Its not true...

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 17 Jul 2017 - 14:46

    I am so so sorry to read this. Your beautiful daughter will have a place in your heart forever. I am glad that you have found our website. At Tommy's we work hard to try to find answers to stillbirth and each piece of research, no matter how small goes some way to understanding the reasons. When you feel ready, you would be most welcome to call us if we can be of any help at all.

  • By Charmaine (not verified) on 17 Oct 2017 - 02:05

    I had my son at 36 weeks (March 6, 2017) He was also born sleeping. He had been gone for three days before I delivered him. The unbelicord was wrapped around him. I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter.

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 17 Oct 2017 - 09:54

    Dear Charmaine,

    Thank you for sharing your story about your little boy. I am incredibly sorry to hear of his loss. I hope you are getting some support after his death. We are always here to listen and feel so humbled by the support you and other Parents offer to one another.

    With love
    Anna- Tommy's Midwives

  • By Kera (not verified) on 23 Jun 2017 - 11:48

    Hello, I am currently 18 weeks & at first my stomach was firm for a month or so but now it's all soft & squishy. Should I be worried?

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 23 Jun 2017 - 16:08

    Hi, it does not sound like anything concerning, it maybe that the baby has changed position. As long as you have not had any pains or bleeding or any watery discharge then it does not sound like anything to worry about. You should be having a scan soon too, if not contact your midwife to make sure that you are booked in for one.

  • By Octavia (not verified) on 5 Feb 2018 - 21:54

    Hi im so worried this first time mom thing been driving me up the wall... I just had a check 4 days ago baby heart beat was fine i was fine and now after (intercourse) no movment today and im worried like crazy i been a mess crying all day..she hasnt moved yet today

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 7 Feb 2018 - 10:39

    Hi Octavia
    You do not mention how many weeks you are, but if you are concerned about your baby's movements, then you need to go urgently to your pregnancy triage/day assessment unit/labour ward with your pregnancy notes for review by a midwife and obstetric doctor.
    Please try not to worry but take care of yourself!
    Sophie,Tommy's Midwife

  • By Anonymous (not verified) on 14 Jun 2017 - 14:06

    hi evry1,I'm so sorry for every bodies loss.on the 16 of march 2017 few weeks back I felt small pains in my stomach but didn't take it seriously, the pain continued on the 17,still didn't take it seriously, on the 18th,I felt serious pain end the feeling of pushing,I rushed to hospital they told me I'm in labour. I lost my two beautiful babies a boy end a girl,I looked at them and hold them for a very long time. a part of me died that moment, I can't cope,iv got a lot of anger and unanswered questions. why did I have have to GI through this after iv tried so had to fall pregnant,end saving my self cuz I'm getting old as I'm 26 now

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 15 Jun 2017 - 14:32

    Hi, we are so sorry to hear about your loss, thank you for sharing your experience with us, it must still be very raw for you as this only happen just a few weeks ago. The time you spent with your babies must be very precious to you and a time that you will always remember. What you are feeling is very understandable and it is important that you can have these unanswered questions answered so that you can try and start to move forward when you are ready. You may benefit from talking to one of the consultants at the hospital who can look at your hospital notes and discuss what happened in detail if this helps, your GP can make a referral for you. if you just want someone to talk to in confidence then please contact the midwives here at Tommy's on 0800 0147 800 Monday to Friday 9am-5pm or you can email us on [email protected]
    Please take care of yourself and contact us at anytime. Tommy's Midwives xx

  • By Anonymous (not verified) on 25 May 2017 - 19:20

    I'm 37 weeks tomorrow, yesterday I felt him move but it felt like somebody had fallen down the stairs in my belly. I feel like his movements have changed but my partner says everything is fine because he has felt him moving. I feel like his movements are different and not as strong. My bump also looks smaller and my belly button which was starting to come out is now going back in. What should I do???

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 26 May 2017 - 10:26

    Thank you for your comment.
    You are right to be concerned about any changes in your baby's movements. I would advise you to contact your maternity unit asap to discuss the changes-they may ask you to come to hospital to have the baby's heartbeat checked and to assess that you are otherwise well.
    Many women notice a change in their bump as they get closer to their due date-the baby's head (or more rarely bottom if breech position) starts to engage and this can feel like the baby is getting lower down in the abdomen
    I have attached 2 links that may be helpful
    https://www.tommys.org/pregnancy-information/symptom-checker/my-babys-movements-have-slowed-down
    https://www.tommys.org/pregnancy-information/labour-birth/4-ways-your-body-gets-ready-labour
    Hope this helps
    Please contact us or call our helpline 0800 0147 800 for further advice
    Take care
    Tommy's Midwife

  • By Sacha (not verified) on 1 Jun 2017 - 08:29

    Go now, please. I had this feeling also. I sadly lost my son and I wish I'd gone in sooner. Just go in and don't worry what anyone says. Your instincts are telling you to be worried so trust them. If everything is fine (which I'm sure it will be) that's great. Just please don't wait. Xx

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 9 May 2017 - 16:21

    Hello,
    thank you for getting in touch I am very sorry to hear about the loss of your baby and now the difficulty you are having getting pregnant again.
    Are you able to go and see your GP to discuss this. Dependant on time the GP will be able to do some blood tests and refer you for more investigations.
    If you would like to talk this through in more detail we would love to hear from you on 0800 0147 800 out PregnancyLine is a free, confidential service staffed weekdays 9-5.
    Warmest regards
    Tommy's Midwives

  • By Kate (not verified) on 9 May 2017 - 08:18

    I lost my pregnancy in nine month and now I can't have kids can that be the source I have a 12years boy before I lost the second one what must I do to find out whether I still have children or what

  • By Anonymous (not verified) on 20 Apr 2017 - 12:47

    I lost my beautiful baby girl at 35 weeks. She was born sleeping on December 10th 2016. The pain is unreal. I miss her ever single moment of every single day.

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 20 Apr 2017 - 14:54

    Thank you for having the strength to write those words. I hope that you find some peace through sharing your own experience and from reading about others. Remember that we are here to talk if you need to 0800 0147 800. A midwife is here to take your call Monday to Friday 9-5pm

  • By hana (not verified) on 8 Apr 2017 - 17:03

    I can really relate to everything ..said here .. I had my baby girl last year february 38 weeks still birth .. i went to hospital as i was feeling labour pain i called my dr she said yes u r in labour come to hospital .. i took bath and left for hospital when i reached there the dr. in ER she checked me ultrasound and everything and she said everything is fine u r not fully dialated go home and come back later ...
    i was about to go home but one of my friend doctor she said i will check u also she started ctg and and checked me and said we will moniter heartbeat before u go then she left leaving me with other dr. in ER after 10 mins they couldn't find the heartbeat ,, they did ultrasound and checked but everything was gone .. i was left alone ... i can't explain what i felt tht day ... nothing worst then this can happen to someone ....
    i don't know who to blame about this .. as i felt my baby's movemnet just half hour before ... this happened and then suddenly all was taken away from me .. i was in labour for 12 hours was induced and gave birth to my beautiful baby girl ..
    i cannot forget her face .. i love her so much tht i cant stop thinking about her ...
    i feel there is nothing that i can do to stop thinking about her ..
    i planned so much for her with her with my small family .. that was my first ....
    and sometimes i feel its very hard to find another like her .. she was exactly like me even her hair .. her hands ... her feet .. her colour everything ...
    I just can't explain what i felt that day and how i feel today ............ i just can't let go of her ...
    i have a lot of things for her that i made for her and bought for her and was excited to see her in those clothes and mittens and cap ... and frocks and shoes .. and blanket and pillow ..
    i just can't let it go .....
    i just can't help thinking ****what if ****
    I JUST WANA TELL .... WHATEVER WE DO ... HOWEVER WE LIVE ... I LOVE U MY baby girl and I miss u every single momnt of my life ....
    i hope i can get through this /..... one day

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 10 Apr 2017 - 09:16

    Hi Hana, I am really so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter. Thank you for sharing your story with us all, we really appreciate it and so too will many other women and their families.
    Please take good care of yourself!

  • By Anonymous (not verified) on 30 Jun 2017 - 15:44

    I can totally understand ur feelings.. i am going through the same.. i lost my baby girl in my 36th week. Just Like u.. i have many unanswered qtns.. like what just happened? Where everything was normal.. What was it that I missed? Just 3-4 days before this unfortunate day i'd been to d hospital coz i felt labour pains.. but they were false. I didn't mind going thr normal/C-section.. that very day.. but everything was normal with d baby n me. There was "no indication" as such. So was sent home. N after 3-4 days i couldn't feel her mvts. We rushed to d doctor. But she was already dead. Like u mentioned.. when i saw her n took her in my arms.. she was just my replica.. her face.. her complexion..
    I keep feeling always.. did i miss on her movements.. was it me? Don't know whom to blame.. she was everything i wanted.. now i am 35.. i had her at 34.. i am not sure if i want to go through d risk of pregnancy again.. somewhere inside me i feel she might come back...
    But again i feel may be it was nature's / God's way of telling us survival of d fittest.. may be she wasn't as strong to face d world. He has His own ways. There must be some reason.

  • By Anonymous (not verified) on 30 Jun 2017 - 19:04

    Dear Hanna,
    I can totally understand ur feelings.. i am going through the same.. i lost my baby girl in my 36th week. Just Like u.. i have many unanswered qtns.. like what just happened? Where everything was normal.. What was it that I missed? Just 3-4 days before this unfortunate day i'd been to d hospital coz i felt labour pains.. but they were false. I didn't mind going thr normal/C-section.. that very day.. but everything was normal with d baby n me. There was "no indication" as such. So was sent home. N after 3-4 days i couldn't feel her mvts. We rushed to d doctor. But she was already dead. Like u mentioned.. when i saw her n took her in my arms.. she was just my replica.. her face.. her complexion..
    I keep feeling always.. did i miss on her movements.. was it me? Don't know whom to blame.. she was everything i wanted.. now i am 35.. i had her at 34.. i am not sure if i want to go through d risk of pregnancy again.. somewhere inside me i feel she might come back...
    But again i feel may be it was nature's / God's way of telling us survival of d fittest.. may be she wasn't as strong to face d world. He has His own ways. There must be some reason.

  • By Lilia (not verified) on 31 Dec 2017 - 13:53

    Am sorry for your loss. Also I can relate to your Angel baby. I gave birth to my Baby sleeping in November 2017, almost two months now.
    I see her face every day, I had so much planned for us, my life took 360 degree turn and I am figuring out how to find myself again but nothing makes sense any more.

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 4 Jan 2018 - 13:14

    Hi Lilia, Thank you for your comment.

    We are so sorry to hear about the loss of your little one in November. This must still be very difficult for you and we can't even being to imagine how you must be feeling. If you would like any support or just someone to talk too, then please contact the Tommy's Midwives anytime on 0800 0147 800 9am-5pm Monday to Friday or email on [email protected] Take Care, Tommy's Midwives x

  • By kelly (not verified) on 5 Feb 2018 - 07:05

    I had my baby at 24weeks still birth,I had Collen down with my belly BTW did not take it serious because I felt no pain,the next day I had a bloody discharge and decided to go to hospital,the doctor checked me and told me I to hv a scan and the scan showed that the baby was OK....came back home and few he's later server cramping occourd and I went back to another hospital and carried my scan result only to be told that my sons heartbeat are not heard and the baby has to come out to save my life and I was induced,u was in labour for 4hrs and after that my son was out,I cld not believe he was not alive ,I can't forget him am so stressed I know he will always have a special place in my heart my he rest in peace...am torn to pieces I don't know if I will ever forget or manage to get over it

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 7 Feb 2018 - 10:48

    Hi Kelly
    I am ever so sorry to hear about the passing of your beautiful son. Please know that we are here for you if you need to talk, or require any ongoing support. You can call us Mon to Fri, 9 am to 5pm on our helpline 0800 0147800. We are always here for a friendly chat!
    Sending love and best wishes at this time!
    Sophie,Tommy's Midwife

  • By Anonymous (not verified) on 8 Apr 2017 - 00:28

    I had planned to have a home water birth. The midwife was happy with my health and baby's heartbeat was always strong every time she checks it. I was 42 weeks and 11 days over due with my first child and the midwife was still happy to procede with the home birth. I always ask questions every time I have an appointment because I was beginning to get worried myself. On the 13th of March 2017, I went into labour and my contractions were every 1-2 minutes. It came so quickly and I my cervix wasn't dilating . As it was a planned home birth, the midwife came out but few minutes later she said she have to go back to the hospital as she can't confirm am in Labour as I was only 1cm dilated and she left. The contractions continued and we had another midwife out, at this time I was 3cm dilated and she said she can't accertain labour she also left. My husband rang the labour ward and told then about the pain I was going through and then they said to come into hospital for strong pain relief and then to return home for the birth. By the time we got to the hospital, they checked for baby's heartbeat but they couldn't find it.
    At that point my whole world just crumbled in front of me. The worse labour for me was not the physical pain but the emotional pain. Knowing that am putting so much effort to get my baby out but I can't hear her cry .
    At 15:43pm, my little princess Della was born sleeping. She looked so perfect with long hair. She weigh 7pounds 1oz. I miss her everyday and I wish I can turn back the hand of time so I can change everything and have her here with me.
    Sleep on baby Della, mummy & daddy loves u and will always be in our hearts. We miss u child.

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 10 Apr 2017 - 09:25

    I am ever so sorry to hear about the passing of your daughter whilst you were in labour. I cannot begin to imagine how difficult that must have been for you and your husband. If you haven't already done so, you can arrange to speak with a senior midwife (supervisor of midwives or consultant midwife) to go through your notes and history to try to understand more fully, why this may have happened in order for you to be able to process your grief. Please ensure that you are well supported by your family and friends and go to your GP if you feel that some counselling might be helpful to you, they can refer you to the local services.
    Please look after yourself at this difficult time.

  • By Samantha (not verified) on 26 Feb 2017 - 20:39

    I had a still baby girl her name was leah i went for a check up at 35 weeks and there told me they wasnt a heart beat i some pain a day before but i didnt get it check out i wish idid now it been 8 years now i have 3 more daughters now but i still think about leah everday wondering what she would of look like i missing u my baby girl leah

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 27 Feb 2017 - 10:30

    Hi Samantha
    I am ever so sorry to hear about your daughter Leah. She will always be in your heart and mind, and be your three daughters' big sister.
    Thank you for sharing your story with us.
    Take care of yourself

  • By Anonymous (not verified) on 28 Jan 2017 - 08:56

    I gave birth to our beautiful son on 21st January 2017. I'd noticed he hadn't been moving for a few hours but I was busy chasing around after my toddler. I had a bath, rested on my left side, ate an ice cream! Still nothing. That evening contractions statered. On arrival at the hospital there was no heartbeat. I should have called and gone and got checked. I know given my situation as the cause was my placenta ruptured with not symptoms, that it may not have saved him but I'm living with a huge "what if"? I was faced with labour to a dead baby, the hardest moments of my life. I kept thinking I can't do this, please someone take him out and take him away. I went on to labour him naturally, a beautiful experience, the least I could do for my son. The pain of labour was nothing compared to the pain in my heart and in a way at least I got to share that with him. I held him in my arms and we spent the day with him. I regret not kissing his little face but he was part of me and will know he was truly loved.

    I will never ignore the smallest of signs that there may be a problem ever again and now will carry that "what if", for the rest of my life.

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 30 Jan 2017 - 10:00

    I am ever so sorry to hear about the passing of your beautiful baby boy on 21st Jan 2017! I cannot begin to imagine how difficult that was for you.
    Every family that has had a stillborn baby, will feel guilt within their cycle of grief. Justified or not, it is a normal process and emotion to feel. A ruptured placenta cannot be caused by anything that you did - so please do not think that you could have prevented this.
    I do not want to go into too much detail in such a public place, so please call us on 0800 0147800 if you wish to speak to one of us on the midwifery team. We aren't counselors, but are trained in Bereavement support and care and can offer a friendly ear at the very least.
    Thinking of you at this difficult time!

  • By Anonymous (not verified) on 16 Feb 2017 - 10:55

    Yeah i can well understand ur feeling same here with me i also lost my Son on 6th jan 2017..The start of this year 2017 is very painful for me and i have to bear this pain till my last breath lossing a child is unbearable..

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