Stillbirth symptoms and risks

Many women who suffer a stillbirth don't notice any changes. However, there are some things that you should look for during your pregnancy.

Baby movements in the womb

You will probably start to feel the movements of your baby in the womb somewhere between 16 and 22 weeks. As the weeks go on you may become aware of a particular pattern of movement that is familiar to you.

Your baby may move more in the evenings when you are resting or before you go to sleep at night. You may also find certain activities such as a bath, putting your feet up and resting on the sofa or eating and drinking seem to cause your baby to move more.

The movements normally become regular by 26 weeks. Recognising these patterns of movement can be very useful during your pregnancy.

If a baby is having problems in the womb they are likely to move less to conserve energy. Noticing when this happens and contacting your hospital immediately can make the difference between life and death.

If there is a definite change in your baby’s movements 

If you notice a change or reduction in your baby's movements you should contact your midwife or your maternity unit immediately - do not wait until next day.

If you think there might be a change in your baby’s movements 

It is better to be safe than sorry so if you have any doubt, call your maternity ward. Trust your instincts.

Who will I talk to if I report a change in my baby's movements?

Unless you have been given alternative numbers to ring during your pregnancy, the best place to ring is usually the labour ward. The labour ward is not only available for women in labour but also for emergencies during the pregnancy. The ward should be open 24 hours a day and there should always be a midwife there who will be able to discuss with you what you are experiencing and advise you.

What will happen if I go in to hospital?

Once at the hospital they will probably check your health and listen to the baby’s heartbeat. They may attach you to a heart rate monitor which records a trace of the baby’s heartbeat so this can be looked at for any signs of problems. You may also be given a button to push every time you feel the baby move and this can also be seen on the print out of the baby’s heartbeat.

It's quite common that once you lie down, hear the baby’s heartbeat and relax you start to feel the baby kicking a lot. Don’t feel embarrassed about this - midwives see this everyday. It is far better to go and be checked so that any potential problems can be picked up. Read more about what will happen when you report reduced fetal movements here.

Sleeping position in the third trimester

When you reach your third trimester, the advice is to go to sleep on your side. Research has shown that going to sleep on your back is linked to an increased risk of stillbirth. This advice includes daytime napping and night sleeping. Read more about safe sleep positions in pregnancy here.

Leaking fluid / vaginal discharge in pregnancy

If you experience any leaking of fluid from your vagina during your pregnancy you should contact the hospital immediately and go to be monitored. It could be your waters breaking early or a sign of infection of the womb.

Waters breaking early in pregnancy

Waters can break at anytime during pregnancy, not just in the last couple of weeks, and this can lead to premature birth. If you feel a gush or trickle of fluid, or feel damp, it could be a sign that your waters have broken. In these cases put on a clean sanitary towel (not a tampon) and call the labour ward. They may ask you to sniff the pad – as it is common to leak urine in pregnancy - or they may ask you to check the pad again in around 20 minutes to see if it is damp.

Amniotic fluid – the fluid from around the baby – smells different to urine and is usually clear, pinkish or can be green or brown. If you believe it is amniotic fluid it is important to go straight to the hospital to be examined. You may be asked to wear a special panty liner for up to 12 hours to confirm if you are leaking amniotic fluid, and you may need an internal examination (inside the vagina) to look for signs that your cervix is opening or softening for labour.

Infection in pregnancy

You should report any discharge from your vagina which is smelly, and any colour other than white, as it may be a sign of an intrauterine infection. Infections can weaken the bag of membranes around the baby, cause an infection inside the womb or make your  waters break.

If you experience an unusual discharge contact your midwife, GP or hospital and ask for a swab to be taken to look for infection.

Diabetes in pregnancy

For women with diabetes in pregnancy, miscarriage, pre-eclampsia, preterm labour, stillbirth and problems with the baby (whilst in the womb, at delivery and after the birth) are sadly more common. This means that good control of your blood sugar levels and regular monitoring are vital.

Whether you had diabetes already, or develop diabetes during pregnancy (known as gestational diabetes), you will need to be closely monitored, and you will need to be aware of how best to care for yourself and your baby during your pregnancy.

What to do in you have diabetes in pregnancy

If you already had type 1 or 2 diabetes before pregnancy you should get good pre-pregnancy counselling and support before stopping contraception and trying for a baby. 

If you are pregnant with diabetes you will probably be regularly seen by a consultant and a specialist diabetes midwife. If you are not happy with the care you are receiving talk to the women's health department manager to ask that your condition be correctly monitored. Make sure that you attend all your scheduled appointments and seek help immediately from your GP, midwife or hospital doctors if you are concerned about your glycaemic control or any other factors affecting either your pregnancy or your diabetes.

Monitoring the growth and movements of your baby is more important than in other pregnancies, so make sure you are clear as to who you should contact if you are concerned. Do not wait until next day, you can contact the labour ward to speak to a midwife outside working hours.

If you have any of the risk factors for developing gestational diabetes, including having a BMI of 30 or over, make sure you are tested between weeks 24 and 28, as recommended by NICE.

Read more about gestational diabetes here.

Read more about type 1 or 2 diabetes and pregnancy here.

Pre-eclampsia and stillbirth

Pre-eclampsia is a condition which affects around 10% of all pregnancies in the UK, and untreated, can cause stillbirth. You are most likely to get it in your first pregnancy or a subsequent pregnancy with a new partner. The main symptom is high blood pressure. It is very important that you attend all your antenatal appointments, as pre-eclampsia is one of the pregnancy conditions that your midwife will be looking out for.

If during your pregnancy you are told that your blood pressure has increased since the beginning of the pregnancy ask your midwife how significant the rise is. Your midwife will also be looking for any protein in your urine so always provide a urine sample at every appointment. If you refuse to give a sample the midwife cannot pressure you to give one, but it could mean a vital clue is missed.

What to do if you think you might have pre-eclampsia

Between appointments look out for any of the warning signs of pre-eclampsia, including severe headaches, altered vision such as seeing flashing lights in front of your eyes, and sudden swelling, particularly of your feet, ankles, hands and face.

Some women also experience pain in their upper abdomen, just below the ribs. If you notice any of these signs you should contact your GP, midwife or labour ward for advice. Do not wait until your next scheduled appointment and ensure that you are seen by someone the same day.

Read more about pre-eclampsia here

Working with your medical team in pregnancy

  1. It is important that any concerns you have, or things that you notice, are taken seriously. Trust your instincts and report all complications, no matter how insignificant they may seem.
  2. Try to get to know the team of midwives that are caring for you during your pregnancy. Even if you meet a new midwife at every appointment aim to use every appointment to your best advantage.
  3. If you have a BMI of 30 or over make sure you get a test for diabetes. It is recommended by NICE and should happen between weeks 24 and 28 of pregnancy. If you are not offered this test ask why.
  4. Ask about the size of your baby – if it is particularly large or small do you need further scans?
  5. If your blood pressure is raised do they think it could be the start of pre-eclampsia – do you need more appointments to monitor this?
  6. Report any unusual symptoms such as headaches, blurred vision (seeing stars), any pains, any aches, nosebleeds, feeling dizzy or faint.
  7. Itching is particularly important as it can be a sign of obstetric cholestasis, a liver condition in pregnancy. A common symptom of this condition is itching of the hands and soles of the feet, but you should report all itching. A simple blood test can be used to diagnose this.
  8. If you have a scan or blood test and there seems to be a problem that needs closer monitoring make sure you know as much as you can about the condition they are looking at. If you haven’t been referred to a consultant yet, ask to see whichever consultant specialises in the problems that have been identified. Make sure you know any symptoms to look out for and what to do in the event of experiencing any of them.
  9. Early in your pregnancy ask your midwife who you should contact if you have any other symptoms or concerns between appointments. Never leave a worrying symptom till your next appointment. Contact your GP, midwife or hospital and ask to be seen.

Read more about stillbirth statistics here.

Finding the causes of stillbirth

Many parents still cannot be told why their baby died. Our researchers are investigating the causes of stillbirth, because without knowing why it's happening we can't find treatments or predict who may be at risk. This animation shows some of our work into finding the causes of stillbirth.

Read more information about stillbirth

    Last reviewed on April 1st, 2014. Next review date April 1st, 2017.

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    • By Mubeen (not verified) on 13 Sep 2019 - 14:23

      My baby heart beat stoped 18weeks 5 days when I went to the hospital they can't find baby heart beat

    • By Lelo (not verified) on 10 Aug 2019 - 22:43

      I seemingly had a healthy pregnancy all along until my last clinic appointment when the nurse measured my stomach at 29cm but I was at 36 weeks gestation. But she didn't seem concerned about it cos the baby's heart beat was fine and he was moving and kicking all along until today my gut told me something is not right so I went to hospital and did 2 ultrasound tests and both of them there is no heartbeat detected. I'm still confused not sure how this happened. I'm in disbelief that I have to give birth to a stillborn... My heart is shattered I don't know how I will recover from this. My heart aches.

      May we all find comfort and strength in the Lord.

    • By Kraeil (not verified) on 17 Jul 2019 - 19:51

      Hi, my wife and I just lost our daughter 3 days ago. Before we knew that she had no heartbeat anymore, I was so excited that my wife was feeling contractions every 5 mins for 3 hours. After that, she saw there was blood on her underwear so we knew that was the time to call the doctor and ask for advice on what to do next. She asked us to go to her clinic first before we go to the hospital so she can check my wife. When we got there, she checked my wife's tummy with the handheld doppler and while checking, she had a serious look on her face and then she said she can't hear the heartbeat of the baby. After that, we went to another place with the doctor to get an ultrasound but that became the most shocking scene in our life, we saw the our daughter's heart isn't beating anymore. We went to the hospital to get my wife to push out that baby still hoping that a miracle would happen, but our hopes got crushed. It was heartbreaking for me to see my daughter without life and my wife to see her sorrow so much. We prepared for her funeral after that. We have a 5 year old son and I told him that his baby sister is already in heaven. He made a little painful cry for about 5 mins and came to accept what had happened. My son is strong willed, but when it was time to go to the burial site and bury our daughter, our son couldn't hold his emotions any longer and let out a silent painful cry until our daughter got buried and covered. It really breaks my heart to see my loved ones suffer so much. Me and my son started to accept what happened gradually even after just 2 days passed after we first knew my daughter's fate but my wife couldn't and I understand that. I always tell my son that his baby sister is already in heaven and she lives a happy, safe and beautiful life and God is taking care of her and that she is always watching over us. When my son hears my wife crying, he tells her what I said to him and that that's God's plan and we should have faith in Him that He would take care of his baby sister for us. It still hurts right now when we see her things at home but we just say to each other that she's happy wherever she is right now and that we miss her, we love her, and she will forever be in our heart. I'm sorry for the long story. I just wanted to share our feelings and experience to everyone. Thank you for reading :) BTW, her name is Aela Star. Aela meaning Angel. So when we go out to see the night sky, that the star up above is our angel always watching over us with love forever.

    • By Shaneka swaby (not verified) on 5 Jul 2019 - 15:07

      I am writing in tears I’ve been having doctors appointments and everything’s great until last night I went for a check up at a gynecologist and she examined me and said everything about the pregnancy is good and I gotten an ultrasound done because she said my cervix measurements not correct to my 29 weeks said that was the only problem and after the ultrasound she said am not pregnant and I gotten an ultrasound done in May and the baby was there formed and everything. Can someone help me please

    • By Sheila (not verified) on 3 Jul 2019 - 16:26

      I fell into labor last week on Monday and was rushed to the hospital. My cervix was 8cms open. When they checked the baby's heartbeat they couldn't find and ultrasound confirmed that my son was no more. I went for a cs where they saw the cord had wrapped my baby. I felt so heartbroken when I saw other mums breastfeeding their babies and being discharged together with their babies while I was alone. Sleeping without my son, leaking breast milk, seeing my baby's clothes and nursing a cs scar without my son breaks my heart but so far I thank God that he has given us strength to bear the pain and we won't give up. Am ready to try again and I hope that I will be able to have vbacs after 2 years and at least hold my baby for the first time

    • By Danielah (not verified) on 30 May 2019 - 02:05

      Yesterday 29th May 2019 I found out my baby had no more heartbeat. I was given the pill to soften my cervix so I can go into labour but it's the hardest thing to do. My baby has died and the doctors can't determine the cause of death. I was and am healthy,no drinking nor smoking and yet this happened. Going back to hospital today . The saddest day of my life

    • By Franchesca (not verified) on 4 Jun 2019 - 23:01

      My condolences to you I as well just lost my baby at 25 weeks May 30 was induced May 31 had my baby June 1 at 10:59 am I am distraught right now left the hospital Sunday to get his funeral arrangements ready I’ve never been through anything like this I have two living boys and they were perfectly healthy thank God but this pregnancy took a turn for the work at 17 weeks... I’m sorry you are going through this life honestly isn’t fair at times I don’t understand how things like these happen

    • By Mpho (not verified) on 13 Jun 2019 - 23:09

      I am so sorry to hear this Danielah. I know exactly what you are going through. I lost my pregnancy on the 30th May 2019 at week 33. The pain unbearable, especially when you did all you could to keep safe and are the healthiest person. I am in tears everyday ever since.

    • By Mae (not verified) on 27 Jul 2019 - 10:23

      Same situation sis. Still taken med. To soften my cervix.

    • By Sunakshi shrestha (not verified) on 4 Aug 2019 - 23:37

      I am so sorry about your baby. My condolence is with you and your family. I couldn’t stop myself from replying you because similar thing happened to me. We lost our baby boy on 28th of May 2019. He was our first child. I was 37th weeks pregnant and when my contractions started we were so calm and ready to meet our baby but when we went to the hospital the midwife couldn’t find the heartbeat then she called the doctor and she couldn’t find it either then she said those most hurtful words “ I am sorry your baby is dead” this words with her voice still floats in my head. The doctors couldn’t find the reason of our baby’s death. We have moved on with it. Those 37th weeks was the happiest weeks of our life. I am still a mother of my little baby boy. We are happy when our baby’s opened his eyes the first person he saw was god. He is in good hand looking after us.
      You are not alone and I hope you will find a peace. Our babies are with god looking at us. So keep smiling don’t cry I know it’s hard but it’s better to smile than cry.

    • By Ashina takkar (not verified) on 10 May 2019 - 18:32

      Uptil 30 weeks my aarav was moving with regular patterns and was a really active baby. Suddenly after that he starting missing days and don’t move, everytime I go to gp to get him checked and then when the skip day start becoming days I go to assessment centre for ctg of baby and they say everything is fine. As I had gestational diabetes, they want me to have scan around week 32 and it came out with higher amniotic fluid. After that I go to gp for less movement he told me because of high fluid you are not feeling movements and asked me to eat more proteins. I was not satisfied so went to pregnancy assessment centre to get movement checked. Everything was normal on 29th may 2019, the day I can never forget, that day a midwife on duty doing my assessment told me that your placenta is at front that’s why you are not feeling movements and thats fine if you feel stretches that’s also a movement. I became reluctant from that day after trusting her words and lost my baby
      On 7th may I went to hospital to have a regular scan counting days of my Aarav’s arrival but got a news that my baby is no more. I couldn’t believe them, as I was still feeling baby’s stretches.
      I don’t know what happened wrong, who to blame, from where to know it was because of me or lack of care of hospitals considering everything normal. After I lost my child they did lots of blood tests, my question is that hospitals are just worried about their studies considering a person as their subject, why they didn’t helped me before so that My baby can be with me.

    • By Thuli (not verified) on 1 Apr 2019 - 13:11

      I lost my son 9 March 2019 where my contractions started Friday night before which was sent home by nurses midwife health centre booked for clinic I attended told me was still early yet was pain. Went home early morning came back again same Friday evening checked me found I was labour my water did break the nurse had break my water but still baby did came out check heart beat fine. Told me push which I did took 2 hours by the time finally baby boy was out but dead. I don't now how one recovers from this pain but taking one step at time

    • By Suganya (not verified) on 27 Mar 2019 - 17:24

      I gave birth to baby boy this March 8 2018 via emergency c section due to lack of fetal movements more than a day... Baby was stillbirth and dint cry... Heartbeat was low and he was under high ventilation Circuit with nitrous oxide... Affected severely by fetal Anemia.... Rh incompatibility ... I'm a rh negative mom and and baby was rh positive ... After 3 days kidney stopped functioning and doc did dialysis and my baby bleeds to death..... Im shattered ... Still finding a way to come out of this pain.... God's knows the answer how he got severe Anemia despite taking rhogam shot at 28 weeks.... Lost my baby...

    • By Rosie (not verified) on 14 Mar 2019 - 08:03

      I had a ‘high risk’ pregnancy from the start as i had low Papp a and a single artery cord. All my scans showed my baby was growing perfectly. I was experiencing intense pains under my ribs in my high abdomen. I told the midwife but she didn’t think it was anything. I had a scan 4 days before Christmas where she told me everything was fine. 6 days later I went in to check as my partner had a really strong feeling something wasn’t right. They couldn’t find a heartbeat and he had died. I am really struggling not to blame the midwife and hospital for not looking further into the pains. Our post mortem results all came back normal which is almost making it even harder. I feel so broken and can’t belive he has gone. I have lost faith in our local hospital and will go private’s next time. I am sure they couldn’t have changed things but I can’t help but feel angry at them.

    • By Ellie (not verified) on 27 Nov 2018 - 22:46

      We lost our little boy 8th October 2018. I had a very ‘text book’ pregnancy, no complications at all. I started having contractions on Sunday evening, when they got to 5mins apart I went to the maternity ward as I had been told to do during my pregnancy, my waters hadnt broken and the midwife checked my boy using a Doppler and he was fine, we were sent home because I was in ‘early labour’ and not dilated. 3 hours later my waters broke but they were brown, we went straight back to the maternity unit to be told that sadly they couldn’t find our boys heartbeat. 7 weeks later we still have no official answers as to what happened to our boy. Although it’s hard for me to put this out there in writing, my hope is that people will read about our experience and become more vigilant. He was our first child and we had no idea there could be such a heartbreaking outcome to a seemingly perfect pregnancy. Please make sure you all contact your midwives or GP as soon as you think something is wrong. Don’t be scared to trust your gut and don’t be scared about sounding silly, it’s much better to be safe.

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 28 Nov 2018 - 15:37

      Hi Ellie
      Thank you so much for sharing your story with us. We are so sorry to hear what a difficult time you are going through. Please know that if you need any advice or support, we are here via Email or the Helpline. Please take good care of yourself - I hope you get some answers when the post mortem results are back (if you are still waiting for these)
      Thinking of you. Tommy's Midwife

    • By Grace (not verified) on 4 Dec 2018 - 05:49

      I am so sorry for the loss of your precious baby boy. I have a friend who lost her boy during birth due to the cord being wrapped around his neck and undetected and he choked during the birth. My situation was similar as I was told to push and push and my son's true knot was not detected on the ultrasound only that his heart beat dropped and kept dropping and dropping. Luckily I was taken in for a crash section and my boy was saved. I have another friend who at 25.5 weeks last week had bleeding, discharge and lower back pain and I had the same symptoms the day my son was born. I googled at the time and took it as my mucus plug and although very common for many woman I am lucky to be alive because it was an infection that infected both myself and my son. My lower back pain came to me as a symptom that I was going into labor which was true but I was completely wrong about the mucus plug. I told my friend to trust her mother's instincts and at this point to go to the nearest hospital straightaway. Today sadly she noticed she had not felt her boy move in at least 24 hours and he has passed and she will be induced tomorrow. If I can say anything as a mother to a mother to be, if you feel it isn't right, you are most likely correct and taking extra precautions that could of prevented this had she gone a week ago, her baby would be here. I feel guilt as I feel maybe I didn't insist so much on the urgency of it all but truly you can never be too safe. If you feel something is wrong, you are probably right and if you aren't you will be relieved and it is always better to be thankful than to be sorry. I hope my advise reaches a mom that heeds it and has a joyful outcome and knows it is ok to be too safe cause we never can be.

    • By Jenny (not verified) on 21 Jan 2019 - 02:48

      I'm so sorry for your loss. I just went through the exact same situation on Jaunary 16, 2019. Had a very healthy pregnancy the entire time, no worries or complications at all, my son was actually measuring ahead. My doctor started making me come in for weekly appointments when I was 34 weeks, due to my son size. Well on Wednesday, I went in for my normal routine appointment and sonogram, only to be given devastated news that my baby boy no longer had a heartbeat. I was in complete and total shock, I couldn't believe what I was hearing. I had to have a c section that day, my baby boy was born weighing 8 pounds 9 ounces with the umbilical cord was still around my baby boy neck. I'm beyond heartbroken, no idea how I'm going to get through this. Worse feeling ever.

    • By Abby (not verified) on 19 Mar 2019 - 04:39

      I had an appointment on Monday Feb 25th and everything was good. Perfect little heart beat. However, due to a migraine (tension related) I went to a clinic the next day- and he was unable to find a heartbeat. The hospital did a scan, and I saw that she was so still and no heartbeat. I gave birth to my sleeping baby girl at 7 mins after midnight Feb 28. so fast- my life shattered so fast. They told us we will most likely never know why it happened.
      I am praying for peace for you. And for the courage to try again.

    • By Rui xi mama (not verified) on 30 Mar 2019 - 15:16

      Deepest condolences to u .. I had my stillbirth when she was at 36 weeks

    • By Ahnn (not verified) on 25 Oct 2018 - 13:08

      on 4th Jan, my son was born sleeping.... i went for a scan to do my health insurance, the one that can cover both my baby and i only to be told they couldnt find his heartbeat, i cried my heart out , i went to a better hospital thinking where i took the scan wasnt good , i was told he had died for 4 days and that they had to induce me immediately ,my cute boy came out with his eyes closed.

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 25 Oct 2018 - 14:14

      Hi Ahnn, Thank you for your comment.

      We are so sorry to hear about the loss of your little boy, we cannot even begin to imagine what you and your family have been going through at this time. Thank you for sharing your story and we hope that if you need any support then please contact the Tommy's Midwives on [email protected] or call 0800 0147 800 Monday to Friday 9am-5pm. Take Care, Tommy's Midwives x

    • By Sharon Herman (not verified) on 15 Oct 2018 - 00:06

      I'm 8 months pregnant now but i've had discharge like mucus pink in colour a lot of cramps and bleeding but i never visited the doctor cause i was afraid of any bad news my belly is growing though i sometimes do not feel my baby move unless i'm sleeping and i get massive pains around my vagina and baby moves down there.

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 22 Oct 2018 - 12:58

      Please don't be afraid to visit your doctor as soon as possible.Any sign of bleeding at the end of pregnancy should be looked into and if you are concerned about your baby's movements, all the more reason to ask for advice.

    • By Tara (not verified) on 18 Sep 2018 - 22:02

      I'm 15 week just did an ultrasound 1week ago, but before I did and now I been having pain and discharge . I can't feel any real active movements but normally feel my belly hard certain time of the day but I haven't for 2days. When peeing it hurts i just have this pain in my lower stomach and greenish,fluid like discharge. Should I go check up asap? This is my second pregnancy

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 20 Sep 2018 - 14:33

      HI Tara, Thank you for your comment.
      As yo have been having pain and an offensive greeny discharge then we would advise that you be checked over. It could be that you have an infection that will need treatment so please call your GP to be seen as soon as you can. Take Care, Tommy's Midwives x

    • By Net (not verified) on 5 Jul 2018 - 21:23

      My siter is 35 weeks pregnant, she had a pink discharge last night. I took a photo of the discharge on toilet paper and send it to my GP. She said that it looks like the servical plug is coming loose and that my sister should be on the lookout of any form of cramps or pain. She has not had any pain or cramps and further discharge or blood. However this evening her baby's movements became less. Not stopping, only becoming less. Shoukd she be worried?

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 9 Jul 2018 - 11:34

      Hi Net,
      If your sister is concerned that the movements have changed we would advise that she calls her maternity unit for advice and assessment. Please don't be scared to call them, they are there to support pregnant women and reduce the chances of problems. This link may help if the bleeding/discharge was a 'show' https://www.tommys.org/pregnancy-information/labour-birth/4-ways-your-body-gets-ready-labour.

    • By alia (not verified) on 22 Jun 2018 - 10:14

      my baby was terminated at 29 weeks because of high blood i lost my baby girl I'm still shocked even now




    • By Midwife @Tommys on 22 Jun 2018 - 15:37

      Dear Alia,
      I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your baby. If you have questions or if we can support you in anyway then please do be in touch, you can email us [email protected]
      Best wishes
      Tommy's midwife

    • By Lizzy (not verified) on 19 Jun 2018 - 07:43

      I'm still in shock while writing this.I noticed that the baby's movement stopped and I became worried,when I got to the emergency, after all the checks and all,I was told that my baby boy''s heartbeat had stopped. It was really as if I was dreaming and needed someone to pinch me hard enough to wake me up from it. Myself and my husband became so broken.we had anticipated so much for the arrival of our new born and our hope became dashed. I got to see his handsome face when I was wheeled into the theatre for a cesarean section.....up until now,still do not know what exactly went wrong. But I can't question God cos He knows better.

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 21 Jun 2018 - 16:12

      Dear Lizzy,
      I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your handsome beautiful baby boy. It sounds like this has happened recently and you are naturally looking for answers. I hope you have an appointment with hospital to talk through what has happened and they can offer a post mortem to see if this gives any further information.
      If we can support you then please do no hesitate to be in touch.
      Our thoughts are with you and your husband.
      Take care, Tommy's midwife

    • By Yolanda (not verified) on 12 Jul 2018 - 21:54

      Am sorry about your loss,lost my beautiful son at 38weeks on June 16,2018.still got no answers.the worst pain ever.





    • By May (not verified) on 20 Oct 2018 - 10:22

      Am so sorry about your loss. Were they able to find out what happened? I am going through the same right now, i lost my baby girl last week, i notice reduction in movement on sunday and went straight to the hospital after checking her heartbeat the doctor dismissed it as first time mother getting paranoid over nothing, after doing the CTG its confirmed my worries but she refused to send me for a scan and everything went wrong on monday, her heartrate had dropped to 90 from 155-160 the sun before. Am so angry and am struggling toncome to terms with it

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 23 Oct 2018 - 12:19

      So sorry to hear this May. If you would like to speak to someone we are here to answer your call from Monday to Friday 9-5pm 0800 0147 800. If we can do anything to support you please let us know. Best wishes from Tommy's midwives

    • By Delia (not verified) on 8 Jun 2018 - 01:22

      I was scheduled to give birth through C-Section on May 25, 2018 with twin boys. When they put the monitor on they could not find the other baby’s heartbeat so they rushed me into the emergency. My last check up was May 23, 2018 and the OBGYN said everything is fine. I was shocked and could not believe what happened. Because of the passing of baby A, my baby B has not been getting enough blood and oxygen so he suffered from severe brain damaged. He is in the NICU until now and only a miracle can do to stay him alive. It’s so tragic but I believe that God has a reason for all that is happening. Let His will be done.

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 8 Jun 2018 - 13:15

      Hi Delia,
      I am so incredibly sorry to hear about the loss of one of your babies and how unwell the other one is. Our thoughts are with you.
      Please do be in touch if we can support you at all.
      Take care
      Tommy's midwife

    • By Grieving Mom 2018 (not verified) on 18 Jun 2018 - 11:21

      I am very sorry for your loss and my prayers are with you during this tragic time. Baby B will be in my prayers as well. I went for my 2nd. Ob visit on June 13, 2018 and found out my baby had no heart beat. I was lost and confused as everything was just fine. I swore I had felt flutters just two days before my visit but my dr said it passed around 14 weeks. (I was 17 weeks at my 2nd visit). I had an induction of labor June 15th and a dnc because my baby passed but my placenta was stuck. Im so heartbroken but I know I will get through this. Bless You all...

    • By Fari (not verified) on 20 Jun 2018 - 04:48

      I’m so sorry for your loss, I exactly know how you are feeling, I was 33 weeks pregnant I woke up on June 4/2018 in the morning got ready for work that day, but inside I knew something was wrong, I ended up going to hospital to make sure everything was okay with my baby boy, but unfortunately they could not find his heartbeat, I don’t remember that moment it was hard I didn’t know what to do as I was by myself I just went to get him Checked, until my family came I was screaming crying, all I remember hugging her nurse, I had to go the next day to get induced and deliver the baby, I was still hoping that’s when I deliver him a miracle will happen and he will cry, but he wasn’t he was born on my birthday on June 6/2018 I got to hold him click a few pictures with him, but I had to let him go, I’m so heartbroken, it was my firs pregnancy I still don’t know what happened to him, never had any complications with my pregnancy, he an angel now watching over his mama, God always does things for a reason, mah god give you patience.

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 21 Jun 2018 - 16:17

      Dear Fari,
      I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your baby boy. If we can support you at all then please do be in touch.
      Take care
      Tommy's midwife

    • By Flor Hoyos (not verified) on 24 May 2018 - 17:01

      My mom just had her ultrasound. She is 35 weeks and the babies heart beat wasnt there. :( . She cried. My dad cried. And I dont want to cry because life.

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 25 May 2018 - 10:19

      Hi Flor,
      I am so sorry to hear about what your mum and your family are going through right now with the loss of a baby. Everyone grieves in a different way, and you will find your own way in time. At the moment, it sounds like you are in shock and still processing the news of the loss of your sibling. Please look after yourself and do what you need to do for yourself and to support your family.
      If any of your would like to talk need support then please do be in touch, you can email us [email protected] or call 0800 0147 800, we are here Monday to Friday 9-5pm x

    • By Jenna (not verified) on 12 May 2018 - 12:36

      I am truly sorry for everybody's loss. Until you have gone through this experience yourself you never fully understand the pain. I was pregnant with my 4th baby and although I thought the movements were different I put it down to baby's size. I was regularly given growth scans due to previous small baby's. Unfortunalty, at my growth scan at 36+2 weeks my baby was found to have no heartbeat. He was delivered by section later that evening weighing 4lbs 14oz. Not near as big as we were expecting. He was truly beautiful. I had a lot of unanswered questions and so many what ifs. I couldn't believe he was gone. I couldn't believe we are going through this. I felt anger, disbelief, in denial, so many emotions. My heart was broken. My little boy had managed to wrap his cord around his neck, abdomen and up between his legs. I fortunately have another 3 boys who will give me the strength to carry on but i will always remember my beautiful 4th son who was clearly too special for this earth.

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 14 May 2018 - 14:37

      Dear Jenna, Thank you for sharing your story with us and our readers. Your words are beautiful and I hope you have the strength to remember him for the special son he was to you. Take good care of yourself and remember we are here to support you if you need help.

    • By Priya (not verified) on 30 Mar 2018 - 02:17

      I missed my baby girl on 37th week in 2015 November. On that day her movements are different and I thought it was normal because baby is growing. My waters broken with smelly green discharge. I went to the hospital within 5 mints. Heartbeat was not sight then prof. my VOG scanned me. Unfortunately the baby was floating inside the tummy without moving. I have no words to explain about that moment. Very unfortunate. Still it is dream for us.

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 4 Apr 2018 - 09:01

      Hi Priya
      I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your daughter in 2015. That must have been very hard for you and your family. I do hope that you have been well supported through such a difficult time. If you need to speak to one of us about anything, we are here for you. You can call us on the pregnancy line 0800 0147800 Mon to Fri, 9am to 5pm, or email us anytime at [email protected]
      Thinking of you.
      All the best
      Sophie,Tommy's Midwife

    • By Me myself and I (not verified) on 21 Mar 2018 - 03:31

      My friend she had a still born baby 3 months ago i am now in the emergency with her as we speak March 20th 2018 at 11:30 pm she is bleeding heavily blood clots and she was dilated to 1 1/2 centimeters she is not pregnant and hasn't been she was tested for pregnancy and it was negivitive.. van any of you mom's tell me what your options please.

    • By Til (not verified) on 16 Mar 2018 - 20:44

      22feb 2018 i gave birth to a baby boy bihaan i was going to my 38 weeks check up and the midwife couldn’t find his heartbeat and she refer to hospital.again hospital couldn’t find heartbeat they said my son was no more i was sock I didn’t know what was happening .Its harder to me !!

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 19 Mar 2018 - 12:13

      So sorry to hear this. We really hope that you are getting the support that you need and that our website has given you some comfort in knowing that you are not alone. We continue to raise awareness of stillbirth and to fund research into the causes. We know that this can't help you now but it may give you some comfort to know that we are searching for reasons. Best wishes to you from Tommy's midwives

    • By Harryet (not verified) on 3 Jan 2018 - 06:59

      One week ago, was just feeling well throughout the day. I could feel baby's movement. At midnight my water broke. Was rushed to the hospital. The doctor could not find baby's heartbeat. She sent me for ultrasound. It's here that my son was pronounced dead. It's a very hard time to go through. It's so bad a feeling. My heart is broken into pieces.

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