This film was made from interviews held with parents who have gone through recurrent miscarriage as part of The Baby Loss Series.
Having one miscarriage can be devastating enough, but having one after another is often a very traumatic experience. The very thought of trying again can feel like an uphill struggle, with many couples already expecting another loss before the pregnancy has begun.
Any future pregnancies will be full of hope but also tinged with a high level of anxiety. Investigations into a possible reason for recurrent miscarriage is advisable after the third recurrent miscarriage.
There are many possible causes for recurrent miscarriage, including: genetic and hormonal problems; infection and thrombophilic (blood-clotting) defects; uterine problems and cervical weakness. Unfortunately, even after investigation, it’s not always possible for doctors to identify the cause for recurrent miscarriage. However, most couples who have had recurrent miscarriage have a good chance of having a baby in the future.
Where possible, couples should be referred to a specialist unit dedicated to managing recurrent miscarriage.Often good supportive antenatal care in these circumstances makes a big difference; there is some evidence that attending an early pregnancy unit can reduce the risk of further miscarriages.
Causes of recurrent miscarriage
- Genetic: In a small number of cases, one partner may repeatedly pass on an abnormal chromosome, causing recurrent miscarriage.Both you and your partner should be offered a blood test to check for chromosomal abnormalities (known as karyotyping). If the tests show a problem, you should be referred to a clinical geneticist for further testing.
- Hormonal: In some rare cases an imbalance in pregnancy hormones can lead to conditions such as polycystic ovaries, multiple cysts on a woman’s ovaries caused by high levels of LH (luteinising hormone) and testosterone, which can cause miscarriage. Healthcare professionals can discuss the pros and cons of medical treatment for this.
- Blood clotting disorders: Some blood clotting disorders, such as systemic lupus erythematosus and antiphospholipid syndrome can cause ‘sticky blood’ and recurrent miscarriage. These rare disorders of the immune system affect the flow of blood to the placenta and may cause clots that prevent the placenta from functioning properly, depriving the baby of essential oxygen and nutrients, which may lead to miscarriage. Treatment may involve taking aspirin and/or heparin therapy, which both help to thin the blood (research shows that in women who have recurrent miscarriage, their blood has an increased tendency to clot, blocking the flow of nutrients to the baby).
- Uterine problems: An abnormally shaped womb can increase your risk of recurrent miscarriage and premature birth. There are a number of ways to investigate the shape of the uterus and depending on the findings, surgery may be recommended.
- Cervical weakness: If you are considered at risk of cervical incompetence or cervical weakness, you may be offered a scan or be advised to have stitch or cervical cerclage early in the pregnancy.
Tommy's research into why miscarriage happens
Most parents never find out why their miscarriage happened. Tommy’s believes that parents deserve to be told why their baby has died in pregnancy. As well as ending the cycle of self-blame and guilt, this will improve understanding of the biological processes at work and go towards finding ways to prevent miscarriages not caused by chromosomal abnormalities. This animation shows how we are finding the causes of miscarriage.
Plan of care after recurrent miscarriages
Following recurrent miscarriages, you will usually be offered certain blood tests and a scan to try to identify the problem. Where possible, you will be referred to a specialist unit dedicated to managing recurrent miscarriage. Often, good supportive antenatal care in these circumstances makes a big difference; there is some evidence that attending an early pregnancy unit can reduce the risk of further miscarriages.
Blood tests: Blood tests may be used to check for complications, such as blood clotting disorders; polycystic ovaries and high levels of certain antibodies that can interfere with the pregnancy by affecting the placental blood supply or causing abnormal placental attachment in the womb.
Uterine investigations: An abnormally shaped womb can increase your risk of recurrent miscarriage and premature birth. There are a number of ways to investigate the shape of the uterus and depending on the findings, surgery may be recommended.
Bleeding in pregnancy when you have had a previous miscarriage
If you have bleeding in your current pregnancy after one or more previous miscarriages, recent research has shown that progesterone can be beneficial. This research was published in 2019 and showed that the more previous miscarriages, the greater the benefit from progesterone treatment.
Progesterone is a hormone that helps thicken the lining of the womb and helps the mother’s body accept the growing baby. It is given as pessaries (tablets) and taken twice daily in the vagina (like inserting a tampon).
The study that showed that progesterone can be an effective treatment was a large, multicentre, randomised controlled trial, which is the gold standard of research trials.
4,153 women with early pregnancy bleeding from 48 hospitals across the UK participated in the study. Around half the women were given vaginal progesterone tablets and the other half were given placebo (dummy) tablets. The findings were:
- For women with no previous miscarriages: the live birth rate was 74% (824/1111) in the progesterone group and 75% (840/1127) in the placebo group, ie no benefit.
- For women who have had 1 to 2 previous miscarriages: the live birth rate was 76% (591/777) in the progesterone group and 72% (534/738) in the placebo group, ie some benefit.
- For women who have had three or more previous miscarriages: the live birth rate was 72% (98/137) in the progesterone group and 57% (85/148) in the placebo group, ie substantial benefit.
The study did not find any safety concern from progesterone treatment.
Talk to your doctor
If you have early pregnancy bleeding and a history of a previous miscarriage, progesterone treatment can be of benefit. As this research is relatively recent your doctor may not have heard of it, so please discuss this treatment with your GP or the doctors at your local Early Pregnancy Unit. If necessary, show them this information or download this leaflet and bring it with you.
We have answered some of the most commons questions women and couples have asked our midwives about what causes pregnancy loss.
A list of the best supportive blogs, instagram and Facebook accounts from parents who have gone through miscarriage, stillbirth, premature birth, neonatal death and termination for medical reasons (TMFR)
Knowing what and what not to say to people after the loss of a baby can be difficult. We have come up with a list to help you better comfort a bereaved loved one.
We felt an overwhelming sense of grief for someone who we had never met but had become so attached to
Emma and her husband Chris from Kent experienced 4 miscarriages before their daughter Sophia, now aged 5, was born. They had 2 more heart-breaking losses before Emma gave birth to their son Thomas, now aged 2.
After four losses, Rosie’s doctor recommended embryo screening for genetic disorders. In October 2018, Rosie’s rainbow baby Evie was born. Rosie explains the vital role of research in her journey to motherhood. This is Rosie’s story.
After 9 miscarriages and a termination for medical reasons, Ellie decided to take part in a medical research trial. Soon after, her first rainbow baby, Aidan, was born. Two years later, Ellie and her husband Mike decided that it was time to try again. They sadly lost two more babies to miscarriage. Ellie tried again and fell pregnant for the 14th time. She gave birth to her second rainbow baby, Sam, in 2019.
- RCOG (2011) The Investigation and treatment of couples with Recurrent First-Trimester and Second Trimester Miscarriage. Green Top Guideline No 17, London Royal College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists.
Coomarasamy et al (2019) ). ‘A Randomized Trial of Progesterone in Women with Early Pregnancy Bleeding’.New England Journal of Medicine.
ℹLast reviewed on August 1st, 2016. Next review date August 1st, 2019.
By Sophie (not verified) on 29 Jan 2020 - 16:37
I am glad I found this page as it has given me hope for the future.
I am 30 and I am very fortunate to have a child to an ex partner.
My current partner and I are desperate for a child together. I love my son to pieces but would like to give him a sibling and my partner a child, he loves my son like his own and has been there since he was 15 months old.
We started trying for a baby in November 2017 and fell pregnant straight away, we had an early miscarriage in the December, it was heartbreaking and we struggled through Christmas but it really broke me I struggled up till my due date in the August. We fell pregnant again in August 2018 but unfortunately had another early miscarriage in the September and again it was hard, I passed the sac which looked empty and then the placenta. After this I had some abnormal cells removed from my cervix and we waited to try again. We was able to try for a baby in January 2019 and again we fell straight away but on the 1st March I had some terrible pains and went to the hospital after scans and tests they found that our baby was ectopic and I had emergency surgery to remove the baby and also lost my left fallopian tube in the process. I struggled with my feelings as I know that I could of lost my life if it had not been detected, no matter how much I wanted that baby my life and being here for my son and fiance was more important, my son losing his mother would of been much worse. It took me some time to grieve and get my head around it. Then I feared falling pregnant I would cry if my period was late and worry. I only have one fallopian tube and of the same thing happens we have no more chances. On August 2019 we never knew we was pregnant, I had awful hip pains and had an xray I was diagnosed with arthritis, but I also had bleeding and continuous pain in my hip like I did with my 1st miscarriage. I visited the GP and nothing showed up on a pregnancy test but it showed up on my bloods, we had another miscarriage without knowing we was pregnant. I felt nothing like my feelings towards thos matter was numb I didn't know what to think.
It's now nearly a year since my ectopic and I should be due the last baby we miscarried around that time, it's also coming up to my wedding and the thoughts that we could have 2 more children with us that day.
We would like tests to find out why this could be happening but are we classed as recurrent? with the ectopic in between as we know that's for other reasons.
Sorry this is long and detailed. I am very open about my losses with people as it helps me cope with it and I have supported friends through miscarriage as well even though I had no one support me through it.
By Kia (not verified) on 8 Mar 2020 - 21:58
I had my second miscarriage yesterday I'm so hurt they said everything was ok just my hcg levels wont double I give up because it is mentally killing me. I have 2 daughters one is 8 and my youngest is 2 I just dont understand
By Kirsty (not verified) on 16 Jan 2020 - 09:48
Hi I am 35 years old and have been trying to have a baby for 15 years. I have suffered 9 miscarriages all in the first trimester. My most recent miscarriage was last month at 10 weeks after our 3rd round of IVF where there was no heartbeat. I have been diagnosed with antiphospholipid syndrome and I have endometriosis. I was taking 10mg prednisolone, 40mg of clexane, 1200mg of cyclogest pessaries and 75mg of aspirin daily, and it still resulted in a miscarriage. I am losing hope and there is currently no recurrent miscarriage clinic in the whole of Wales . I would appreciate any advice if anyone has had some success with other medication? I physically cannot go through another miscarriage and I need some help x
By Rejane (not verified) on 6 Mar 2020 - 16:00
I have had 8, but thankfully happen to have a healthy baby boy after treating with Dr Shehata at His clinic in Epsom. Search for his name online and see if he can help you, there’s always hope. Xx
By Dawn atter (not verified) on 29 Dec 2019 - 23:44
I am 43 and just going though my 6th miscarriages. We have been trying since 2015 I had a missed miscarriage found out at my 12 week scan I was only 6 weeks . I’ve had 4 chemical miscarriages ,and recently got pregnant and had a early scan I was 7 weeks and 2 days with a heartbeat . Went back for my scan at 9 weeks and baby was at 7 weeks 4 days . I’ve been tested for high natural killer cells but not sure I believe it . Would love some advice not sure what to do now .
By Tara (not verified) on 4 Dec 2019 - 19:43
I am experiencing my 4th miscarriage. The first one was a missed miscarriage week 10 in June, followed by two chemical pregnancy. The forth one is at week 6. I did all the testing and everything came normal. I am devastated. feel so miserable with no hope. Does anyone has any encouraging story?
By Leah (not verified) on 20 Nov 2019 - 08:32
Hi, I have had 5 miscarriages over the past 3 years all ranging from 3 week to 11.1 weeks. I have just found out I am pregnant again (this morning) and I will not give up. Keep holding on you will get your rainbows!
By Shanaye (not verified) on 25 Jan 2020 - 12:20
I'm very sorry this has happened to you i am a seventeen year old girl that has had 4 miscarriages every time I've had a miscarriage I've gonna to tell my mum I'm pregnant the the next day i miscarry I'm pregnant again and really want to tell my mum but I'm scared that the baby won't be there
By Anonymous (not verified) on 20 Oct 2019 - 10:51
I’m currently going through my 2nd Miscarriage. I had a missed miscarriage in Feb, had a scan at 9+4 but baby only measured 5+6, I had to have a D&C. I found out at the end of September that I was pregnant again, had all the symptoms but wanted the reassurance of the early scan so I went privately on Thursday evening (17/10), I should have been 7 weeks. The sac was visable but no baby inside. They said it was known as a Pregnancy Unknown Location (PUL), I went to the EPU the following day (Friday). My HCG and progesterone are still high and I need to go back to the EPU on Thursday for a rescan and to arrange next steps (there's definitely not a baby in there).
I'm 41 in a few days, these were my first two pregnancies and I'm scared it's never going to happen for me.
I'm also very upset with my midwife, I text her on the Thursday evening after my scan to explain what had happened, I followed up with a call the following morning to ask for advice and explain how worried I was, she didn’t answer so I left a voicemail. She never acknowledged the text and didn’t call back. I feel numb and in limbo and scared that my time is running out.
By Keshia Parker-Jones (not verified) on 4 Feb 2020 - 22:51
Hi. I read your post and wanted to know how things are going? I’m going through something similar. I had a blighted ovum pregnancy in May- resulted in a miscarriage. And just had another one 2 weeks ago. Dr only said she “think” it’s chromosomal where something is not aligning. I’m 42 and will be 43 in 3 weeks. It’s very scary not knowing why this is happening and do I even want to try again. I hope everything works out for you.
By monica (not verified) on 1 Oct 2019 - 20:27
Hi, i have had 3 missed miscarriages in a row with no living children all around 5.5-7.2 weeks gestation, i'm 27 and apparently it was not a chromosomal problem and my Dr. ran studies on me and it all came back good, he told me i can have a healthy pregnancy it was just bad luck but i don't think having 3 missed miscarriages is a bad luck thing, there is something wrong and i don't know what to ask the Dr. to check for i need some help
By Mairead (not verified) on 2 Nov 2019 - 14:29
I have had 3 miscarriages, my first was in March 2017 where I was 13 weeks and had to go through labour. My second was December last year where I had the sac but no baby and had to have a d and c. The third was yesterday I was 9 weeks 2 days, I had scan on the Wednesday with a private doctor who put me on cyclogest hormone and scan was fine, 2 days later yesterday I had another scan and there was no heartbeat I’m totally heartbroken and don’t know how this could happen in 2 days! They want me in on Tuesday for a d and c but I’m going to my specialist dr on Monday for second opinion, I’m 34 and just don’t know what is wrong with me, has anyone experienced this?
By Mary (not verified) on 9 Nov 2019 - 14:04
I can understand you..I had 3 miscarriages 7 weeks pregnant and 1 at 9 weeks pregnant. But I managed to have to children!Don't worry the miracle will happen just have hope sorry for my English.
By Ivana (not verified) on 12 Dec 2019 - 14:14
Dear Monica, I'm currently having a second miscarriage. My both miscarriages are identical - baby stopped developing at week 5 and it took my body 2 weeks to realize and start miscarriage. In week 7, I start bleeding and then there is no way back and no end to sorrow. I'm 34 and no children. I wonder also what is the problem, I can't even get passed week 5. I got pregnant easily so far which is a good thing at my age but can't keep it. I wonder - is it genetics problem? Also, I have a cyst on my right ovary for 3 years already. Doctors say it's water filled and not endometriosis, but I wonder if that is what causes the problem.
By Hazelle (not verified) on 11 Sep 2019 - 15:27
I'm 39 and had 2 miscarriages this year first one was Feb. and Second one is only this month Sept. 6, it's so devastating... I feel so useless and really disappointed to myself.. My partner wants to try again but I'm so scared I don't want another heartbreak of losing another baby.. Please pray for me..
By Anonymous (not verified) on 26 Sep 2019 - 22:30
Dont ever loose hope, I've had 5 miscarriages but I'll still try until I have my baby
By Frances (not verified) on 14 Mar 2020 - 02:31
I had 7m/c’s in 3 years. I then lost a twin, but the other survived to 40 weeks! She was born healthy and my miracle is now 28 years old! When she was 2 I had my ninth m/c. Just keep the hope. xx
By Hope (not verified) on 10 Oct 2019 - 22:41
I am sorry to hear about your loss. I think I feel confident (Sadly only in this case) about how you probably are feeling. You will be in my prayers. No one deserves to go through this painful journey. But we sadly are going through or have gone through this recently. This has been my 4th pregnancy (7W 4 days) when doctor couldn’t find the foetus, could just see the sac this morning. This is not looking right and I already know where this is going. We have lost three pregnancies before unfortunately. I clearly and currently am not a happy/success story. But I have this hope that still makes me want to continue trying. I am myself surrounded by clouds of doubts what is really wrong with my body. Nothing alarming came out of the genetic testing that we underwent after our third MC.
I share with you my hugs and warmth.
By Chidi (not verified) on 4 Nov 2019 - 15:21
Thank for your strong believe and it has give me more hope
By Laura (not verified) on 1 Sep 2019 - 07:00
Bleeding in 2012 at 9 weeks I discovered whilst carrying my daughter there was an empty sack. My daughter was born but since then the 4 times I have been pregnant have all resulted in a loss between 6/9 weeks. The last one resulting in a gyne dr in a local clinic potentially not sending my embro off for genetic testing as requested and sending it to pathology leaving us back at the beginning again. I've tried asperin and had bloods taken for clotting which came back fine but still no clue as to what to do next apart from wait to see of I get another gyne appointment. Is there a clinic near cambridge or peterborough?
By Suffering terribly (not verified) on 19 Aug 2019 - 20:27
I'm almost 45 years old and have been trying to have my first baby with my husband since our wedding day in Aug 2014. I've suffered 6 losses and 1 failed IVF between 2014 and 2017. I conceive quickly each time. The first pregnancy I had to terminate at 14 weeks as it had down-syndrome and was unlikely to make it to birth. The 5 proceeding pregnancies resulted in miscarriage all within 9 weeks. I also tried IVF just to see what my egg situation was like and unfortunately it didn't implant. I've seen multiple experts including St Marys Hosp, The Miscarriage Clinic, Zita West and also a number of miscarriage specialists within the NHS. To date there appears to be no reason other than my egg quality may be poor but I've not been told to stop trying. I also have Graves Disease but my thyroid is under control by medication and the doctors haven't used that as a reason for my bad luck.
I'm at the point now (after having a 1.5 year break) of either trying again or just giving up. I'm so terribly frightened though that trying again is unlikely. Is there anyone else in similar position and proceeded to have a healthy baby? (did Emma above with her 5 miscarriages posted on 12 March 2018 get her miracle baby?). I'm so sorry Emma to all of you other ladies who've had this utter trauma to deal with and sending you all my warm wishes.
By Sarah (not verified) on 10 Nov 2019 - 19:34
I’m so sorry to hear of your losses and continued efforts with IVF. I wanted to share my journey with you which sounds similar and has resulted in a baby boy who is now 4. Came back from honeymoon pregnant after trying for 1 month at 32! I never had a scan so don’t know whether the baby had grown but miscarried at 12 weeks. 2nd and 3rd miscarriages confirmed by early private scans asi didn’t feel pregnant. Referred to hospital - 3rd baby was a chromosomal abnormality and tests confirmed nothing of concern with me or my husband. Our conSultant said you WILL have a baby. Terminated 4th pregnancy at 13weeks as baby had a rare fatal genetic disorder. Heartbreaking. 5th pregnancy no baby in sac. 6th pregnancy baby boy who is now 4.
And since then I have had 4 pregnancies all of which have stopped between 7 and 9 weeks and a mix of normal/chromosomal abnormalities. The last one on a Friday after trying HCG injections for the first time. I am now 40 so a bit older....we will see our consultant again in a couple of months to understand what has happened this time. So there is hope - best of luck. Take extra special care of yourself and be kind to yourself.
By DEEPIKA (not verified) on 14 Jun 2019 - 11:05
i faced three times miscarriage with same issue of 2nd to 3rd month between start bleeding. please give us any suggestion
By AH (not verified) on 26 Apr 2019 - 23:17
I am 30 and have had approximately 9 losses over the past 8 years. The first was a ?blighted ovum, and then 8 early miscarriages all between 5-7 weeks, 2 of which were ectopic. One of The ectopics resulted in the loss of a Fallopian tube during surgery.
I seem to get pregnant relatively easy but approx 1 week after a positive pregnancy test bleeding begins, almost like clockwork.
I had several tests over the years..thyroid, blood sugar, lupus, antipohospholipds, homocysteine, genetic karyotyping etc...
I have also tried injectable heparin, steroids and progesterone with one pregnancy, but this was started just after I found out which was probably too late. I am allergic to aspirin as well so this further complicates matters. I have taken a break ( had an IUD inserted) for the past year while I contemplate what to do next, I don't think I can handle reaching a 10th loss. Any advice before we try this again?
By Rebecca (not verified) on 16 Jul 2019 - 19:27
I have had a similar experience. What worked for me this time, although im only 8 weeks but i have never gotten this far, is a combination of steroids, clexane and low dose naltrexone.
Hope it helps
By Susan (not verified) on 7 Dec 2018 - 19:26
I have had 5 miscarriages in the last 2.5 yrs after a healthy birth in ‘13. I’ve been tested for blood clotting disorders, chromosome issues,
By Midwife @Tommys on 10 Dec 2018 - 16:36
Hi Susan. If you would like to be referred to one of our miscarriage clinics please ask your doctor to refer you or call us on 0800 0147 800
By Katie (not verified) on 9 Aug 2019 - 18:12
I feel all your pain. I feel really low and don’t know if I can continue to try. They have tested for everything :(
By Steph (not verified) on 12 Oct 2018 - 14:47
Any advice will go miles for me.
I'm 36 years old and this week I have just experienced my second miscarriage- it was early on in the pregnancy but Im struggling.
My last miscarriage was January 2016 and was a missed miscarriage, I was 10 weeks but in fact showing 7 weeks with no heart beat. Me and my partner haven't got any children and we are desperate to start our own family. I had a scan at the hospital last month and was told I had 7 follicles on one ovary and 3 on the other- so total of 10 & the nurse told me that was a good sign. I'm also regular and I do ovulate - I think, We will try again but the anxiety is real. I'm over come with fear mixed in with shame and embarrassment.
Good luck everyone x
By Midwife @Tommys on 15 Oct 2018 - 16:20
You have nothing to be ashamed or embarrassed about. There are lots of couples who are not able to conceive and there is no blame attached to it at all. In the absence of more information about your particular circumstances I would recommend that you do the questionnaire #Areyouready . This has been designed to help you focus on any health areas which could be improved.
After 2 miscarriages, you have only a 22-29% chance of another miscarriage which means a 71-78% chance of a healthy pregnancy. I hope this will give you some hope to know that you have a good chance of a normal and healthy pregnancy in the future.
By Sarah (not verified) on 15 Oct 2018 - 18:19
Would like some advice on who I can talk with i have had 6 miscarriages in the last 3 years .
By Midwife @Tommys on 17 Oct 2018 - 16:29
You can call us on the midwife team on 0800 0147800, Mon to Fri, 9 am to 5pm. I am sorry to hear that you have been through such a lot.
I hope to hear from you very soon
By Francesca (not verified) on 8 Nov 2018 - 22:37
I am so sorry for your loss. I understand what you are going through. I found out on the 4th October this year my baby’s heart had stopped beating. I also had a miscarriage in January. I have been trying for sometime and also have no children. The past month has been really difficult.
It is positive that you have 10 follicles. Fingers crossed for you. You deserve a happy outcome
By Misti Happney (not verified) on 10 Sep 2019 - 17:02
I had three miscarriages from age 40 to 42. My doctor kept saying keep trying til you get it right. I had my daughter at 43. My doctor’s mom had him at 41 and his sister at 48. Anything is possible. I wish you all the best.
By Angie (not verified) on 9 Sep 2018 - 14:55
I have had two miscarriages this year , one at just under 10 weeks in April & one at 7.5 weeks in August . I have now been referred to the recurrent miscarriage clinic , one of my local centres accepts women over 35 who have had two consecutive miscarriages, but the waiting is agonizing . As a nurse I know how slowly the NHS works with referrals . I'm concerned I'm likely to get pregnant again in the interim (we have managed to get pregnant first attempt both times)& then be back in no mans land as I won't have started any testing & the same thing will just repeat itself.
I don't feel like I have months to waste waiting for testing as I'm now 40. I've been considering going private for investigations but it's so expensive..plus I don't want to have unnecessary expensive testing undertaken.
Just feel stuck :-(
By Midwife @Tommys on 12 Sep 2018 - 12:32
Thank you for your message. I'm sorry to hear about your 2 miscarriages and can only imagine what you are feeling. It must be so frustrating not knowing when you are going to be seen by the clinic. You may be able to contact them to try and find out when your appointment is likely to be scheduled.
You may be aware that Tommy's funds Miscarriage research-there are 3 recurrent miscarriage clinics in the Midlands and London that you may wish to access-you will need a GP referral.
I have attached a link with more information for you-however they generally only accept referrals if you have had more than 3 miscarriages unless you live in the Coventry area-
Please do not hesitate to contact us on Tommy's PregnancyLine 0800 0147 800 or email [email protected] for more information and support
By Rosie (not verified) on 2 Oct 2018 - 00:14
I had 3 miscarriages in a row and was then referred to have some tests run. In the interim I did fall pregnant and I was upset as I was certain it would end the same way and I would have to wait even longer to be referred. My daughter is now two. I know it’s hard to be positive but I wish I hadn’t had that initial sadness over falling pregnant as I feel guilty about it now. Also on the recommendation of a friend who has had 6 miscarriages I began to take Baby aspirin when I fell pregnant. I’ll never know if that did help or it was a coincidence but may be worth speaking about with your midwife if you do fall pregnant again. Good luck and I hope you get your beautiful baby soon x
By Kay (not verified) on 21 Aug 2018 - 18:25
How likely is extreme stress to cause early and late miscarriages/preterm labour?
One example, my daughter was born at 21w3day exactly one week after an extremely stressful event.
Another, saw a heartbeat at 6w3d but the following week scan, it had stopped the very same day at 6w3d that another very stressful event cropped up.
By Midwife @Tommys on 22 Aug 2018 - 11:37
There is no proven direct/obvious correlation between stressful events and miscarriage. But i can understand why you are concerned that these events occurred and its natural to want to find answers.
If you are considering trying to conceive again and want to talk any of this through in detail, please feel free to call us on 0800 0147800. We are here Mon to Fri 9 am to 5pm.
Please take care and perhaps we will hear from you soon.
All the best
By Dee (not verified) on 31 Jul 2018 - 04:37
I have 2 sons 15 23 I have had 2 ectopic pregnancies...1 still birth.... and 15 misscarriges... my friends think I'm crazy they are all spaced out in my life .... I get pregnant easy but my body just gets 9 /12 wks and gives up ... I got told I had endometriosis.... but still got pregnant put on asprin hormones but still lost my pregnancies its hart breaking.... now 41 goin for full historecomy... as I'm just hurt by all the loss no1 can help or tell me let's try this had 2 laparoscopy and said endo ... but I am lucky I have 2 boys but with my partner and would love a child... can any1 offer help or doctors or somthing.... it's just hart breaking... @[email protected] wish all of u luck x
By Midwife @Tommys on 31 Jul 2018 - 16:08
I am sorry to hear all that you have been through. I know that none of it would have been easy!
I think that it might be best if you call us on the helpline for a chat when it suits you (we are here Mon to Fri 9am to 5pm)on 0800 0147800. Then we can chat through your concerns and experiences and try to find a way to help you. In addition to our helpline, you can email us directly (and privately rather than here on a public page ) our email is [email protected]
I look forward to hearing from you.
By Latarha (not verified) on 5 May 2019 - 15:39
Honey how do you still have faith, I haven’t any try 6. Back to back with the man I want to marry
By Gw (not verified) on 10 Apr 2018 - 02:03
I am 37 years old and after reading all your stories do not feel alone on this journey any longer.
My husband and I have had 4 misscarriage and a failed PGD round. Innitially after 3 recurrent misscarriages we confirmed that my husband had a balanced translocation, reason why we were reffered to the PGD programme, however i did not respond as expected to the treatment and did not produce as many eggs as expected, so it was not suscessful.
A month later we were about to give up and a failed pregnant again and suffered a misscarriage, an other devastating experience.
The rare part is, we get pregnant very easily... but I am starting to think that there is something else apart from the translocation of my husband, we had the exams they do at st Marys... and i was prescribed aspirin and heparin... but i dont get to really use them before i suffer the misscarriage.
I was told to continue trying naturally that I would have more options than pgd this way, that a woman's body was resilient... but I wonder... is there is something else we havent looked at, I could almost swear I am pregnant right now, and frankly I am more scared than excited.
My last experience, i tested positive twice after 2 wks late... started bleeding and heavy pain, went to ER to be told my blood and urine test was negative... I felt embarassed, i felt irrelevant and stupid, the doctor made me feel like i made the whole thing up and that I was going crazy... that was the worst part of it, i know my body and everything was different about that period i cant explain how my hcg tested possitive 3 days before (twice) and then 1...
i know, and i felt it was a misscarriage, an early one, but it was a misscarriage, it was different in every sense to my normal period.
My husband and I dont know what else to do... or what other tests to make, the tissues have never been tested as I always misscarriage naturally.
I feel each time i lose a bit of my soul
Thank you for the space
By Midwife @Tommys on 10 Apr 2018 - 16:38
I am so sorry to hear about all you and your Husband have gone through, that is incredibly difficult. I really hope that you have both had plenty of support and counselling offered to you if you felt that this would be good for you.
Since you are under the specialist team at St Mary's, they would certainly be the ones best placed to make any decisions about your care, in terms of trying other medication or treatment options. Your obstetric/gynecology consultant would be more than happy to discuss if there are any more options for you.
Also ,please know that you can call us on the pregnancyline mon to fri 9 am to 5pm on 0800 0147800 if you wish to have a friendly chat, but we don't have the specialty knowledge like the consultant does to be able to discuss further testing options as it's a little outside of our remit. But we are always happy to help in any way that we can!
Thank you so much for sharing your story too!
All the best
By Holly Burnley (not verified) on 3 Apr 2018 - 06:52
I'm not too sure I'm in the right place but I'm 26 so is my partner ! We've been trying to conceive for 5 years we've been through 2 rounds of ivf one of which resulted in a missed miscarriage at 6 weeks one day the other just didn't work at all. Then by some miracle I managed to conceive on my own but I've miscarried naturally at 6 weeks 5 days. I'm stuck as to what to do next don't really feel like I have anyone to ask. If we pay for ivf again I feel like it would get me no further as we are just going round in circles plus the emotional stress this causes is beginning to be too much. Thankyou holly
By Midwife @Tommys on 6 Apr 2018 - 10:27
I am sorry to hear what such a challenging and difficult time you are going through. We are more than happy to support you best we can, please feel free to email us [email protected], or give us a call on 0800 0147 800. We are available Monday to Friday 9-5pm, and can talk through what you are going through at the moment and support you in your decisions moving forward. Best wishes, Tommy's midwives x
By MJ (not verified) on 29 Mar 2018 - 19:12
I have just had a "chemical pregnancy", with a week of positive darkening tests, followed by fainter ones and a delayed period. Previous to this I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks, these are my only two "pregnancies". I just wondered, do I count the chemical as a miscarriage? As I know once/if I get to three miscarriages I can be referred.
By Midwife @Tommys on 3 Apr 2018 - 10:56
Thanks for getting in touch. I am sorry to hear what you have been through. If you need to chat, you can call us on the pregnacyline on 0800 0147800 or email us on [email protected]
Yes, your chemical pregnancy will count as a pregnancy loss. If you need any further support, please do get in touch!
By Emma (not verified) on 12 Mar 2018 - 21:05
Hi there. I have just suffered my 5th consecutive miscarriage in just under 2 years. I am 37 years old and myself and my husband have no children of our own or with other people.
My NHS testing came back without showing any cause of our losses. They have all happened between 5 and 9 weeks. I am starting to believe it may be due to NK cells or another type of immune response. Feeling like I don't know what is next as I realise your chances of a successful pregnancy decrease drastically after 5 miscarriages. Trying to remain positive but wondering at which point to decide enough is enough....
By Midwife @Tommys on 15 Mar 2018 - 12:00
Hi Emma, Thank you for your comment.
We are so sorry to hear about all your losses, we cannot begin to imagine how you must be feeling at this time. If you could email the Tommy's midwives directly, then we can give you further information about our recurrent miscarriage clinics around the UK, you fit the criteria for a referral and if you are willing to travel then we can give you the information about speaking to your GP about a referral if you think this would be an option for you? please email on [email protected]
It is good to remain positive as we can help you get a referral for the next step of your journey. Looking forward to hearing from you, best wishes, Tommy's Midwives x