Coping with emotions after a c-section

Learn about the emotions you may experience after your c-section and how to cope with them, including depression and PTSD if it was an emergency c-section. Find out where you can get support.

Women have told us that giving birth, even if it goes as smoothly as it can, is something that takes time to process mentally. Having a caesarean section (c-section), in particular, can cause lots of emotions that you may not feel prepared for. Talking about it can help. For example, you can talk to your midwife, health visitor, friends, family or parent groups.

If you had an emergency c-section or if there were complications, you can talk to your doctor or midwife about your experience. If you don’t feel ready, you can ask to speak to someone after you have left hospital.

Most maternity units have a ‘birth reflections’ or ‘birth after thoughts’ service, where you can go through your maternity notes and talk about what happened. You can ask your midwife or GP to refer you to this service, or you can ask to be referred for counselling.   

‘I had a difficult and long labour, which resulted in an emergency c-section. It wasn’t until a year later that I wanted help to understand what had happened.’

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Where can I get support?

Your midwife will visit you the day after you get home. Ask them how often they will visit and who you should contact if you need help in between visits. Your health visitor will also visit you at home at least once. After this visit, you will usually see the health visitor in a clinic at key points in your baby’s development.

Each time you see your midwife or health visitor, they should ask you how you are coping and what help you have at home. Being honest about how you’re feeling will help them to support you.

Many women feel tearful, anxious or sad after having a baby. This is called ‘baby blues’ and should not last longer than two weeks. Tell your midwife, health visitor or GP if you feel this way for more than a couple of weeks after your c-section. They can refer you to a counselling or support service, which can help you cope with your feelings. It doesn’t matter how long ago you had your baby – it’s never too late to ask for support.

Read more about recovering from a c-section at home

What else can help?

There are some things you can try yourself, such as:

  • having lots of skin-to-skin contact with your baby – there is evidence that this can help women feel happier about the birth
  • meeting other parents and babies – your midwife or health visitor can tell you about baby groups and breastfeeding support groups in your area
  • speaking to one of Tommy’s midwives.

Body image

Pregnancy and childbirth change the way your body looks and feels. After a c-section, your wound will heal and leave a scar.

The scar will be 10-20cm long and will be at the top of your pubic area. Over time, the scar will fade to a thin line and your pubic hair may cover it. Some women find that the skin above the scar sticks out slightly.

It is natural to feel sad or upset about the changes to your body. Talking to other women who have had c-sections can help to reassure you you’re not alone and may help you come to terms with these changes. You may want to join a mother and baby group or an online support group.

Common feelings

Many women feel happy with their decision to have a c-section. But others may feel guilty or disappointed about not giving birth vaginally. Some women feel under pressure to give birth vaginally and find it difficult to deal with people’s comments about having a c-section.

If you had a general anaesthetic, you may feel that you missed out on experiencing the birth.

If the birth didn’t go the way you expected, you may feel that you weren’t in control of what was happening or that you didn’t ‘do it right’.  Maybe you feel that you have let your baby down.

Although it can be difficult to ignore these feelings, they will fade with time. It can be hard to ignore comments from other people. But they haven’t been through your experience – only you know what was best for you and your baby. Talking to other parents who have had c-sections can be helpful and may even give you some ideas for how to respond to unhelpful comments.

‘To start with, I found that I was justifying my decision to have a c-section, even though it was needed for health reasons. I have since come to terms with the fact I made the right decision for me and my babies and that is all that matters.’



Postnatal depression affects more than one in ten women in the first year after giving birth. There is limited evidence that having a c-section may increase this risk.

If you had depression during your pregnancy, you may have a higher risk of postnatal depression. There is some suggestion that breastfeeding might help reduce the risk of postnatal depression in women who had depression during pregnancy, and who feel positive about breastfeeding.

It is natural to feel sad or tearful after having a baby. This is caused by changes in hormone levels and is called ‘baby blues’. But if you continue to have negative feelings, or if you get new symptoms after the first two weeks, talk to your health visitor or GP. Symptoms of postnatal depression may include:

  • low mood
  • not getting pleasure from activities you usually enjoy
  • lack of confidence in yourself
  • blaming yourself or having strong feelings of guilt
  • not being able to concentrate on anything
  • not sleeping or eating properly
  • thinking about harming yourself or your baby.

If you are diagnosed with depression after having your baby, your doctor may offer you counselling or psychological therapy, such as cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT). If you have had depression in the past, or if other therapies aren’t helping, your doctor may give you medicines, such as anti-depressants. If you are breastfeeding, you will only be offered medicines if the benefits are greater than the risks to your baby.

Most women with postnatal depression recover after three to six months.

Post-traumatic stress after a c-section

Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a type of anxiety that affects some people after a traumatic event. It affects up to 7 in 100 women after giving birth.

Having an emergency c-section increases your risk of getting PTSD. You may also be more at risk if you found the birth frightening or if you didn’t get the right support during and after the birth.

Many women have negative feelings after giving birth, but if you have the following symptoms for more than a month, you may have PTSD:

  • Flashbacks or dreams about traumatic parts of the birth.
  • Avoiding situations that remind you of your experience, such as going back to the hospital where you gave birth or having conversations about birth.
  • Feeling irritable or anxious.
  • Struggling with daily life, such as work or social situations.

If your doctor diagnoses you with PTSD, they should offer you psychological therapy. Some women find it helpful to ask for a referral to the maternity unit, to talk about the birth.

‘I had a difficult first birth and developed postnatal depression afterwards. Before I had my second baby by c-section, I was referred to a specialist midwife who went through my first birth with me and diagnosed PTSD. I was reviewed by the mental health team and supported completely. It was a very difficult time for me but having the support from the right people helped me greatly.’



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    • By Jaide (not verified) on 8 May 2019 - 20:57

      Hi, i was just looking for some advice i guess. basically when i had my daughter i had to be induced, when labour started coming on strong i had 2 nurses with 2 different opinions i guess, between them they kept coming in and changing the dosage im guessing it is on the drip, one nurse would put it up then the other would put it back down everytime they came in, labour went on and got harder n harder, i ended up having constant contractions, no gap, no 30 seconds inbetween nothing just constant, this went on for hours and hours, the midwives wouldn't do anything because i wasn't dilating past 9 cms and the surgeon or someone wasn't available at the time and this went on for 2 more hours after being told if i don't dilate I'll need a c-section. finally they sent me down for emergency c-section as i wasnt dilating to 10cm. It was the most horrific thing i have even been through in my life as a first time mum. anyway my daughter is now 5 years old and i still get really upset everytime i think of giving birth, sometimes i cry myself to sleep because something has set me off thinking about it. I also cannot watch anything on tv or in a film to do with giving birth because i literally sob, even if its a comedy film as soon as someone goes into labour or into hospital i can't help but sob. having a baby has obviously changed my hormones and made me more emotional than before getting pregnant but i was just wondering if still being like this about my birthing experience 5 years on is normal or if its something i should speak to someone about? I've only had one child so don't really know what's classed as normal.
      thanks for any advice in advance

    • By Mc (not verified) on 6 May 2019 - 22:49

      I have had 3 traumatic abdominal surgeries 2 were emergency c sections one was pregnancy loss. I feel like nobody really relates or talks about it and like nobody around me cares. I think I have ptsd but I don’t think it’s taken seriously by my doctor. I’ve tried councilling also. I still have recurring thoughts and have had dreams about surgeries. Mostly remember it being chaos, feeling alone and in pain and the recovery was terrible. I have difficulty talking about it or thinking about it. I don’t trust doctors anymore. I am not sure where to go for help anymore, we always planned on 3 children but I don’t think I can have another surgery

    • By Alex (not verified) on 5 May 2019 - 21:31

      I was induced at 41 weeks pregnant. It started off badly after around 6 hours my little girls heart rate dropped and my waters were broken in a dramatic and rather traumatic way. I didn’t get taken for an emergency section until 26 hours of labour, my baby’s heart rate was up and down the whole time. I ended up with an epidural due to the time it was taking for myself to get into establish Labour I eventually did progress to 9 cm however my baby’s heart rate dropped lower than what they deemed acceptable and I ended up with an emergency c section under G.A . I feel Myself and my partner missed our daughters first moments, which leave me with a lot of guilt. I also worry about who held my baby in the hour it took me to come round from GA . I would like to say the care I received was amazing everyone from domestic staff to student midwifes to the reg looking after me and the anaesthetist were amazing they knew how scared I was in that emergency situation and they made me feel at ease.

    • By Krissy (not verified) on 2 Feb 2019 - 02:39

      Its 1year 3 months since i had my handsome little one an up to this day im having difficulty emotionally mentally an physically. I can remember that extremely cold room an that spinal tap . I felt all the pulling an thugging. The pain afterwards hmmm up to this day i get really bad back pains an from the cut also. After i had my son i started to feel like im going mad he would be asleep in his playpen an i would feel like im squeezing him or he falling out my hands an i will rush to put him down only to realize its my pillow im holding. Sometimes i feel like i dont want to be around him . I feel alone hurt by this an i dont see myself as being beautiful or attractive anymore . I dont feel like im myself.

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 14 Feb 2019 - 14:45

      Hi Krissy, Thank you for your comment.

      It sounds like you may be suffering from post traumatic stress disorder ( PTSD) after the birth of your baby. You can recall intricate details of your experience and this is effecting your physical and mental wellbeing. This can happen after childbirth, so please don't think that you are on your own, this can happen to any woman at any time. The important thing is that you have spoken out and you have realised that you need some help. This help is available to you. Even though it has been over a year, this trauma can stayed with you and you need to work through it with talking therapies and possible medication if the GP feels this is needed. We would suggest that you speak to your GP as soon as possible so that you can start having support straight away. Speak to your partner or a family member/friend you can trust about how you are feeling, having someone to talk to about it can make all the difference and you will be reassured that you have that support, because you don't have the manage this on your own. Thankyou for opening up about how you are feeling, it is the first step and this can be treated and you will fell better. Hope this helps, Take care, Tommy's Midwives x

    • By Dorothy (not verified) on 7 Jan 2019 - 20:56

      More than 37 years after my son's birth, I hate everything about my cesarian--the feeling of him being pulled from my body, the cold temperature of the operating room, not being able to touch or hold him when he was born, being left in a bright room for 5 1/2 hours with no way to call for help and no one checking on me after he was born while I was shaking so hard and was so cold I couldn't sleep, excruciating pain beginning 8 hours after surgery because pain medication was withheld since the baby was "sleepy," not being able to hold or pick up my baby for five days because of the pain. It took weeks for my situation to improve once we got home--it was tremendously painful to lift him out of low cradle we had in order to care for him and there was nowhere else for him to sleep, and I was on my own since my husband had to go back to work the day after I left the hospital. Today I still hate my scar and can't stand to have my husband see or touch it. The cesarian has done terrible damage to our marriage: I haven't felt emotionally connected to my husband since our son was born and physical intimacy is never pleasurable. I have been in therapy four times, currently for three years, and am now on my 9th medication for depression. I can't stop thinking about our son's birth and I relive the experience multiple times a day. Even the subsequent vaginal births of our two daughters never did anything to relieve the distress of the cesarian. After all these years and countless hours of cognitive therapy, prayer, and years of medication that have left me with permanent side effects, at the age of 62 I am trying to accept that I will never recover from the cesarian.

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 8 Jan 2019 - 14:13

      Dear Dorothy
      Thank you so much for your message and sharing your thoughts with us. The impact of a traumatic birth is far reaching and as you have highlighted can have long term effects on all involved. If you haven't already, the Birth Trauma Association may be of help to you.

    • By Olesha (not verified) on 17 Jan 2019 - 07:29

      I completely feel your pain , I had a 72 hour labour followed by an emergency c section. It completely destroyed me .. I was freezing cold and shaking as you where ... traumatized by having my arms bound to the table

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 17 Jan 2019 - 09:41

      Dear Olesha - So sorry to hear you had such a traumatic birth experience. If you would like to discuss this in more detail, please feel free to contact us on our pregnancy information line (Mon-Fri, 9-5) 08000147800 or email us at [email protected]

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 30 Aug 2018 - 16:25

      Hi, Thank you for your comment.
      It can be possible to have a vaginal birth after a C-section but you would need to discuss this with your midwife and the obstetricians at the hospital, they will discuss the benefits and the risks and then you can make an inform decision. If you are pregnant at the moment then you should start to discuss this with your midwife or Dr so that you are fully aware of what the risks are but you should feel supported in your decision and the Drs will advice you on what is the safest option for you and your baby. Hope this helps, Take Care, Tommy's Midwives x

    • By Anonymous (not verified) on 30 Aug 2018 - 15:20


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