Whatever your baby’s condition, you may experience feelings such as:
- fear for your baby’s well-being
- worry about how you’re going to cope
- anger and a sense of injustice or unfairness
- grief for the loss of the future you had imagined
- anxiety about misunderstanding, stigma or bullying
- stress at the number of appointments, and assessments and the amount of paperwork you will have to deal with.
Staying positive about your child’s future
With some conditions, the extent of the problem only becomes apparent as the baby develops over the years, which can lead to a great deal of uncertainty about what the future may hold.
Some parents find themselves constantly comparing their disabled baby with other ‘normal’ babies. It can help to keep in mind that a baby who has a disability in one area may be extremely adept in many others, and with the right support may have just as many opportunities as her peers.
Discovering your coping mechanism
If you are told that your baby has a long-term condition, the initial shock may leave you feeling very distressed or numb. With time, many parents find ways to adjust to their situation and channel their hurt into determination to protect their baby and fight for her needs to be met. Each person finds their own way of adjusting – for example, by:
- joining a support group
- finding a positive role model
- having counselling
- sharing the load with health professionals or friends.
We’ve compiled a list of sources of support for you.