Getting more support

If you need support, please don't suffer alone. We have details of organisations who can help.

If you are concerned about your health, or are struggling to cope after losing a baby, please talk to your doctor, who will be able to tell you more about how to access support locally or get a referral. 

You can talk to a Tommy’s midwife free of charge from 9-5 Monday to Friday on: 0800 0147 800 or email [email protected]. Our midwives are also trained in bereavement support.

You can complete a self-referral via the IAPT website.

If you are looking for support following IVF then you should ask your IVF clinic as most have counselling services attached to them.

You may also find these organisations useful:

Saying Goodbye

Saying Goodbye events are the first set of national commemorative services for people who have suffered a loss at any stage of pregnancy, at birth or in infancy – whether recently or in the past. The services will provide a time and a place to acknowledge your loss and a chance to say goodbye to your baby with other families. Saying Goodbye also offer international support to parents at whatever stage they have lost a child, and will signpost you to other national, regional and local support groups.

Here is a full list of Saying Goodbye's 2016 remembrance services:

16th July – 5.00pm – Tewkesbury Abbey, Gloucestershire

30th July – 12.30pm – Canterbury Cathedral

3rd September – 1.30pm – Exeter Cathedral

24th September – 11.00am – Glasgow Cathedral

28th September – 7.30pm – St Andrew’s Cathedral, Inverness

2nd October – 3.00pm – Sunderland Minster

16th October – 4.00pm – Bradford Cathedral

13th November – 6.30pm – Ely Cathedral

18th November – 7.15pm – Llandaff Cathedral, Cardiff

20th November – 7.00pm – Malmesbury Abbey, Wiltshire

27th November – 3.30pm – Westminster Central Hall, London

Find out more.


Address: Saying Goodbye Services, C/O CCEM, PO Box 12285, Tamworth, B77 9AG
Telephone: 08707 449 701 
E-mail: [email protected]
Website: www.sayinggoodbye .org
Twitter: @SayinggoodbyeUK

The Miscarriage Association

The Miscarriage Association was founded in 1982 by a group of people who had experienced miscarriage and continues to offer support and information to anyone affected by the loss of a baby in pregnancy, to raise awareness and to promote good practice in medical care.
Helpline: 01924 200799 (Open Monday to Friday 9am to 4pm).
Address: c/o Clayton Hospital, Northgate Wakefield, West Yorkshire WF1 3JS.
Email: [email protected]

Stillbirth and Neonatal Death Society (SANDS)

SANDS is an organisation which can offer you support when your baby dies during pregnancy or after birth. At SANDS there are people who understand what it's like because many of them have been through this experience themselves. SANDS offer support and information when you need it. 
Helpline: 020 7436 5881 (Open Monday to Friday, 9.30am to 5.30pm.)
Email: [email protected]

Working families

A national organisation that advises on benefits and employment rights.
Tel: 020 7253 7243
Email: [email protected]


A national counselling organisation for couples. Relate offer face to face, telephone and online counselling.
Helpline: 0300 100 1234 (Open Monday to Friday 9.30am to 4pm.)
Email: Via website address below

The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy

Many women find counselling can help them to recover from a miscarriage and cope with the anxiety it often brings. The BACP can help you access the right therapist for you.
Customer Services: 01455 883300 Monday-Friday, from 9.00am until 5pm
Email: [email protected]
Find a therapist:

The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust

A charity that offers information and advice to women who have experienced an ectopic pregnancy. As well as a helpline, you can also access discussion forums.
Helpline: 020 7733 2653
Email: [email protected]


Read more on miscarriage support


Last reviewed on August 1st, 2016. Next review date August 1st, 2019.

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