If you are concerned about your health, or are struggling to cope after losing a baby, please talk to your doctor, who will be able to tell you more about how to access support locally or get a referral.
You can talk to a Tommy’s midwife free of charge from 9-5 Monday to Friday on: 0800 0147 800 or email [email protected]. Our midwives are also trained in bereavement support.
You can complete a self-referral via the IAPT.
If you are looking for support following IVF then you should ask your IVF clinic as most have counselling services attached to them.
You may also find these organisations useful:
Saying Goodbye events are the first set of national commemorative services for people who have suffered a loss at any stage of pregnancy, at birth or in infancy – whether recently or in the past. The services will provide a time and a place to acknowledge your loss and a chance to say goodbye to your baby with other families. Saying Goodbye also offer international support to parents at whatever stage they have lost a child, and will signpost you to other national, regional and local support groups.
A national counselling organisation for couples. Relate offer face to face, telephone and online counselling.
Helpline: 0300 100 1234 (Open Monday to Friday 9.30am to 4pm.)
Email: Via website address below
The British Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy
Many women find counselling can help them to recover from a miscarriage and cope with the anxiety it often brings. The BACP can help you access the right therapist for you.
Customer Services: 01455 883300 Monday-Friday, from 9.00am until 5pm
Email: [email protected]
Find a therapist: http://www.itsgoodtotalk.org.uk/
The Ectopic Pregnancy Trust
A charity that offers information and advice to women who have experienced an ectopic pregnancy. As well as a helpline, you can also access discussion forums.
Helpline: 020 7733 2653
Email: [email protected]
You and your partner may react to a miscarriage very differently. Everyone has their own way of grieving and it may help to accept and respect those differences.
You might be eager to try again, or not quite ready to think about the future. Here are some things to consider if you’re planning your next pregnancy.
Knowing what to say to people after they have lost a baby can be difficult. Here are a few ideas, based on what people have told us about their experience of miscarriage.
You may want to find a special way of remembering your baby and marking your loss after a miscarriage.
A miscarriage can have an emotional impact on everyone in the family.
Most people will be supportive or try to say something comforting when someone has a miscarriage. This can be helpful, but sometimes people unintentionally say the wrong thing.
There is no right or wrong way to feel about pregnancy loss. If you’re struggling with your feelings, it’s important to ask for help.
You (and your partner, if you have one) will have lot of different feelings and emotions after a miscarriage. You are entitled to all these, no matter when you lost your baby.
Miscarriage Association, Men and Miscarriage http://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/wp/wp-content/leaflets/Men-and-Miscarriage.pdf
ℹLast reviewed on August 1st, 2016. Next review date August 1st, 2019.