Social services will never take a baby into care just because the mother has a mental health problem. This would only happen if you and the baby’s dad can’t look after the baby safely (because of your mental health problem or for any other reason).
Mental health problems can usually be successfully managed through medication and/or psychological therapies. That’s why it’s really important to tell your midwife or doctor about your history of mental health problems, so they can sort out any treatment you may need if you become unwell again.
Some women worry that if they seek help for symptoms of mental illness, people may think they can’t care for their baby. But the opposite is true - seeking help and having treatment means you are doing the best for your baby, and this is good parenting.
Some mums expect, or perhaps feel pressured, to feel excited and happy throughout their pregnancy. But unfortunately this isn't always the case.
We all dream of floating serenely through pregnancy, channelling a sense of calm for the growing baby inside us. But, often, the reality is somewhat different. Try our practical tips to help you relax in pregnancy.
Stress in pregnancy is not unusual. Here are some ideas for how you can relax and look after your emotional wellbeing when you’re pregnant.
If you need help and support with your emotional health, there are a number of different options.
Pregnancy and having a baby can be an exciting and demanding time for women. If you have an existing or past mental health condition it brings extra challenges and you are at higher risk of relapse during this time than at others.
Myths and facts about mental health
ℹLast reviewed on February 1st, 2015. Next review date February 1st, 2018.
By anon (not verified) on 1 Apr 2018 - 18:50
I've tried to look for help. I've begged and gone round and round in circles with the NHS for years. I thought they would help when I got pregnant, but they didn't. Now I have my child, I'm scared to ask for help 'cos they'll take her away. I feel like I'd be better off dead, because at least then my baby would be able to stay with my partner. While I'm alive, I'm just a curse. It's too risky, I should just take myself out of the situation to make sure she stays safe.
By Midwife @Tommys on 5 Apr 2018 - 14:02
Thank you for your comment. I'm very sorry and also concerned to hear that you are feeling this way. Please continue to ask for help-this can be through your GP or you can self refer to mental health services where you live if this is what you need to help you. If you are very scared about the way you are feeling and think you are going to harm yourself please go to your nearest A&E as you can be seen urgently by the emergency mental health team who can assess and treat you.
Please do not feel scared to ask for help because you think your child may be taken away-Mental health and social services are both there to support and help you with the way you are feeling.
I hope you have family and friends you can talk to about the way you are feeling
I have attached some links that you may find helpful-
Please do not hesitate to contact Tommy's PregnancyLIne
0800 0147 800 if you would like to talk to a midwife