Tommy's charity fundraising story 2021
We got pregnant in 2017 and were thrilled. I started bleeding and so rang the Early Pregnancy Unit (EPU) who were fantastic and got us straight in for a scan.
This is where we heard the devastating words: "I'm sorry, but we can't find your baby's heartbeat".
Our baby had grown to 6 weeks before passing away. We were heartbroken and it was even harder as we hadn't told our family about being pregnant, so we then had to tell them that we had been pregnant but were no longer.
We then conceived again in October 2017 and we held off doing a test until after my birthday as I was so scared. But the test came back positive and we were over the moon yet very anxious that something would go wrong again.
We told our families early this time so that we had a good support network around us. I now encourage friends and family not to wait to tell their family, as they are invaluable whatever the outcome of a pregnancy.
This pregnancy was not without its problems; I had to go into the EPU a few times during the pregnancy due to reduced movements but these always came back OK which was reassuring.
I was in labour for 60 hours but we finally got our beautiful boy Sebastian in June 2018. He is an amazing, bright, fun loving boy who makes our lives totally fulfilled.
He loves his Water Babies swimming lessons and gets very excited at the start of the lessons. The teachers have all been fantastic and he is thriving because of their input.
We managed to conceive again in June 2020 but again I started bleeding after 10 weeks. I ended up being taken to hospital in an ambulance, where I found out on my own that we had lost this baby too. I had to have surgical management – and because of the ongoing pandemic I had to go through this on my own whilst my husband took care of Sebby at home.
Tommy's Baby Loss Support webpage has been a great support to me and I can’t thank them enough for helping me through one of the most difficult times of our lives.
We are hoping that we are lucky enough to have another rainbow baby, but Sebby is our perfect rainbow!
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