During the podcast episode she talks about the ‘12-week rule’ and stigma that surrounds it. This is the unwritten rule that parents shouldn't share the news of their pregnancy before 12 weeks, in case of complications or loss.
We know how difficult early pregnancy can be, especially if you’ve experienced loss. And, while we’re grateful to Kate for helping to break the taboos about when to tell friends and family, we also understand everyone’s feelings towards this will be different.
Tommy’s Midwifery Manager, Kate Marsh says:
“It can help to tell someone close to you that you’re pregnant early on, so you have a support network in place and don’t have to explain everything - but it’s a personal choice. Everyone is in a different situation, and it should be when the pregnant person feels ready to tell others.”
Here at Tommy's, we're continuing to help break the silence around baby loss and are always keen to hear your thoughts and feelings about the complexities of the pregnancy journey.
We recently reached out to our community to get their thoughts on the ‘12-week rule’. Over 80% said they would tell loved ones before 12 weeks.
73% also said sharing their pregnancy before 12 weeks helped as it gave them greater support, especially with the anxieties that often come with being pregnant after loss.
However, those who chose not to, said they felt added pressure and wouldn’t want to go back and tell people about complications or loss.
How do you feel about the ’12-week rule’? You can share your thoughts here.
