The 9th of October marks Baby Loss Awareness week and as such, today we wanted to highlight some of the voices of those who have lived experience with baby loss, who are coming together this week to break the silence. We asked each of our supporters one question:
What was the importance for you about being able to share your story?
Find out their answers...
Kate, of @mrskmeaks
'The ability to write the words my mouth struggled to say, offered the voice I so desperately needed and the hope that I could make others feel less alone. Infertility and baby loss can leave you feeling like a failure, but through the strength of others I found inspiration and hope. There is no right way to feel after experiencing loss, no right way to cope or the right things to say.
You grieve the loss of a dream, that picture of your unborn child you so desperately want to hold in your arms. The pain and aching needs a place. My place was MrsMeaks and my blog has given me so much more than I could have ever hoped. I hold onto the thought that maybe it has helped others too'.
Robb, of 4theo
'In the days after Theo's death I remember looking for fathers that had been through a similar tragedy online and I really struggled to find anyone to chat to, I wanted to hear from others that were going through it.
Because of not really finding any other dads to talk to, I have become passionate about sharing the fathers view as well as supporting other fathers and hearing about their experiences of loss. I think its so important for other dads to know they are not alone, as I know at the time it feels like you are and you are probably trying to stay strong for your partner'.
Rob is an active part of the baby loss community, encouraging men to break the silence around baby loss, helping countless men feel less alone. You can read Rob's full story here, or follow his journey on his blog.
Hannah, of Couture Craft
'Every life that exists is important, no matter how long or short. Bertie Bee Baldrey was our excitedly expected second child, a superhero’s sidekick little brother to Teddy a son to us.
Our family would be complete. The pregnancy was similar to my first, three months of hyperemesis made it gruelling but I survived. I didn’t Upon sharing ours news, we soon realised just how many others had also sadly experience baby loss, it was utterly devastating. Many people commented that we were brave for sharing our news, I don’t think either of us felt particularly brave.
I was just a mummy who wanted to share that our babies existed, only if it were for a short time.care, we wanted him so much'.
Danielle, of Danielle Reeder Photography
'When we got home that evening I said to my husband that I would still like to announce the pregnancy. Even though we wouldn’t be bringing our girls home, they had already had such an impact on our lives and changed us forever. I knew then that things would never truly be the same again, I wouldn’t truly be the same again either.
Upon sharing ours news, we soon realised just how many others had also sadly experience baby loss, it was utterly devastating. Many people commented that we were brave for sharing our news, I don’t think either of us felt particularly brave. I was just a mummy who wanted to share that our babies existed, only if it were for a short time'.
Danielle recently begun a beautiful series called the Baby Loss Portrait Project, which allows parents to share their stories in their own words, celebrating and remembering their babies, whilst hopefully offering some comfort to those who find themselves in a similar situation. You can read Danielle's full story here.
Baby Loss Awareness Week 2018
Join us in #BreakingTheSilence this #BLAW2018 in memory of all babies lost during pregnancy or after birth. You are not alone. Learn more about what Tommy's is doing this Baby Loss Awareness Week.
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