Tommy’s story, 22/02/2017
Talking about stillbirth can often be very, very difficult. If you are finding talking about your experience difficult or even impossible, you can use more than words to break the silence around baby loss; other routes include art, poetry and music, to name but a few.
Hollie Heard’s baby cousin Thomas was born sleeping at 41 weeks on the 5th of May 2007.
Nearly ten year later, Hollie is a budding singer/songwriter and has written a beautiful song about the little cousin she never got to meet called Angel in the Sky.
Hollie told us that she often locks her emotions away and that by writing this song, about something so close to her heart, helped her express the feelings she had found hard to discuss.
Baby loss can affect the entire family and we think it is wonderful to see Hollie expressing the loss felt by the wider circle of relatives and friends.
When Hollie first performed the song at The Cramphorn theatre in Chelmsford, her family, including Thomas’ mother, were all there to watch and listen.
Hollie’s mother Cathy said,
‘It was so emotional. I am so proud of her, the fact that she has touched so many people with such beautiful lyrics. The response she has had so far has been amazing - men, women, young people and old people listening to her playing and getting emotional. We’re all so proud of her.’
A local midwife, Stacey Grant watched Hollie perform the song at Brentwood Theatre and said you could have ‘heard a pin drop in the theatre’ when Hollie performed Angel in the Sky.
‘The talent of someone so young to express the loss felt by too many families is truly incredible and so brave. It also highlights that stillbirth affects so many people, not just the parents who lose their baby.’
Hollie now has an eight year old cousin called Jack. Cathy told us that this song is another way for the family to keep Thomas’ memory alive.
To hear what Tommy's is doing to change the statistics around stillbirth and save families this heartbreak, take a look at our research into stillbirth.
Angel in the Sky is now available on iTunes with all proceeds going to Tommy's; you can get your copy here.
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