The notion of a parent having to bury their child seems very unjust

It is with mixed emotions that we would like to announce the still-birth of our beloved son, Aditya Jeeger Dodhia.

November 2016

Jeeger Dodhia

It is with mixed emotions that we would like to announce the still-birth of our beloved son, Aditya Jeeger Dodhia.

Aditya was born at St Georges hospital but was sadly unable to stay with us for as long as we had hoped.

An extremely brave little boy of whom we are incredibly proud. He had a difficult few months but I know that he is in a far better place now, at peace and no longer suffering.

Adi, as we like to call him, was always respectful and gentle; he looked after his mum just as much as she looked after him; a healthy pregnancy and a relatively smooth delivery.

There is a very painful feeling of emptiness mixed with the comfort of knowing that Adi is in a better place.

Our family deeply believes in the Jain religion, where the key principal is the independence of the body and soul; we firmly believe that Adi's soul has long departed in its journey for eternal bliss.

What happened to Adi has a 0.4% incidence - we are deeply saddened that we became this 4 of 1,000 but unfortunately somebody has to - we would not wish it on anyone.

Our comfort is that being the amazingly brave and beautiful boy that he was - Adi was not fazed, he fought; he fought as much as he could.

The notion of a parent having to bury their child seems very unjust.

For weeks, we were looking at prams and car seats; never did we expect this to turn into caskets and funeral directors. I had envisaged activities like playing badminton together, going to football matches, teaching him how to drive, how to shave, irritating his mum and travelling the world with him.

The biggest source of comfort is that Adi managed to stay safe throughout his short life, he was with his mum from beginning to end, somebody that will always love him unconditionally and did everything possible to give him the best chance.

Adi has certainly left his mark on us as parents and our extended family. Despite not being able to feed him or clothe him, Adi has turned me into a father.

He has instilled a new type of responsibility and maturity. We are grateful for having been given the happiness and feeling that comes with pregnancy and the idea that you are about to welcome your child, your son into the world.

Aditya means "Sun" in Sanskrit. People with the name "Aditya" are expected to have a deep inner desire to inspire others in a higher cause, and to share their own strongly held views on spiritual matters.

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