Tommy's guest blog, 22/02/2017, by Abigail
In January 2013 I started seeing someone new and then I found out in May 2013 that I was pregnant. Everything was going well and then I went for the first scan on 22nd July 2013.
I was told during the scan in a really nasty way that there was no heartbeat, the sonographer’s exact words were "There's no heartbeat, the baby's dead".
I had to go to another hospital for another scan that day and they confirmed that the baby had not survived and that it was a molar pregnancy. The baby had passed away three weeks previously.
The hospital confirmed that I would have to have the missed miscarriage managed and that I would have to have tests every two weeks to make sure that the molar pregnancy hadn't turned cancerous.
I went in to the hospital a week later to have the missed miscarriage medically managed and that didn't work so after another week I had to go back to the hospital to have a D & C.
It was a lot to go through in a short amount of time and ultimately led to myself and my ex- partner splitting up.
I have now been with my fiancée for two and a half years and have a wonderful eight month old son.
It is difficult to go through something like that but you always get your rainbow in the end.
We wanted to help babies who aren't as healthy as Lara by raising as much money as we can.
80 percent of my pregnancies have ended in death and I felt like they were telling me those babies didn't matter.
I phoned Tommy's and I cannot remember the midwife's name who I spoke to but she was utterly, utterly amazing. Incredible.
I am extremely grateful that we had a second positive outcome, and our beautiful family was complete