Some parents find the strain of coping after premature birth so overwhelming that they find it difficult to cope with day-to-day life. If this happens, it’s important that you talk to a health professional as soon as possible, as there are treatments available that can really help.
When anxiety gets out of hand
Anxiety is a sense of worry or agitation. It is normal to experience anxiety in stressful situations, and each person has a different ‘normal’ level of anxiety. However, if your anxiety levels become much higher than you are used to, or if anxiety is affecting your daily life, you may benefit from professional support. Anxiety may also accompany depression or another condition.
Symptoms of anxiety include:
- feeling shaky, sweaty or tense
- having a pounding heart or palpitations
- panic attacks or a fear of heart attack or collapse
- difficulty with breathing
- a feeling of loss of control or impending doom.
Feeling anxious is normal after premature birth
Heightened anxiety is common among new parents – and very understandable when you consider the extreme change, high levels of stress and lack of sleep – particularly if your baby is unwell.
Simple steps to reduce anxiety
Not all anxiety needs treatment, and once you recognise that you are particularly anxious, some simple lifestyle changes may help, such as:
- reducing caffeine
- getting enough sleep
- taking more time out for yourself.
When you need to seek help after premature birth
If you feel that you are much more anxious than usual, or that your anxiety is having a big impact on your daily life, do go to your GP, as it may be easily treatable.
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When your baby is born prematurely it can be extremely stressful, especially if she is unwell. Every parent copes differently, but many find it helpful to talk about their feelings.
The arrival of your premature baby will have a huge impact, not only on you, but on those who are close to you.
Finding out that your premature baby is likely to have a long-term health problem or disability is extremely difficult and you will need time to work through your emotions.
Staying emotionally strong for your premature baby is all about looking after yourself as well as them.
Giving birth to a premature baby is emotionally traumatic as well as physically. Sometimes it leads to depression.
The best thing you can do for your baby is to look after yourself. That way, you will be better equipped to handle the challenges that face you and your family.
ℹLast reviewed on April 1st, 2017. Next review date April 1st, 2020.