Trying again after a miscarriage

You might be eager to try again, or not quite ready to think about the future – here are some things to consider when planning your next pregnancy.

Your doctor will be able to advise you about any medical reasons to wait for a while, otherwise it’s up to you when you want to start trying again. Some couples feel they need some time to prepare themselves emotionally and physically for a new pregnancy. You may need to allow yourself time to grieve for your lost baby before you think about the future.

Other couples feel trying again will help them come to terms with what has happened.

It is an individual choice and one you need to make as a couple.

When will I be physically ready?

Your doctor may suggest you wait until you have a normal period before you start trying again. The reason is your first menstrual period may be shorter or longer than normal, which could make it difficult to date the next pregnancy and cause you some unnecessary anxiety..

In some instances - such as molar or ectopic pregnancy, if you have an infection, or a late miscarriage - you should talk to your GP before you start trying again, who may advise you to wait.

If you’re being investigated for recurrent miscarriage, it’s a good idea to have all the facts to hand. Women with certain health problems may be prescribed medication to increase their chance of a healthy pregnancy.

When will my body go back to normal?

Your doctor will advise you to wait until your bleeding stops before you have sex again. This is to avoid infections

Some women also find it takes time for their hormones to adjust, so their menstrual cycle is disrupted for a little while. Even if your periods are irregular, if you do not feel ready to cope with the possibility of another pregnancy straight away, you should use contraception.

 “My periods took about six months to return to normal after a missed miscarriage. I wonder whether it was partly due to the anxiety and distress I was feeling. It made trying again difficult because I never knew when to expect my period – and of course, when it did appear, I was devastated I wasn’t pregnant. Looking back, maybe we should have waited until my body was back to normal before trying again but we couldn’t bear to wait any longer. I ended up having an internal scan to check everything was OK – I was so worried that there was something wrong with me. The scan was fine and that month I got a positive pregnancy test and went on to have a beautiful baby boy.”

When will I ‘feel’ ready to try again?

It’s impossible to say when you will feel ready again – this is something you and your partner will need to talk over. It’s such an individual choice.

Some people dread the thought of getting pregnant again and having to cope with the worry it might bring. Other couples see a new pregnancy as the best way for them to heal. Trying again can become part of your recovery.

Everyone is different. There is no right or wrong.

How long will it take to get pregnant again?

There is no simple answer. Some people get pregnant immediately after a miscarriage. Other couples take a bit longer. Try not to worry if you’ve conceived quickly in the past and it’s taking longer this time – it may just be your hormones and body need time to readjust.

Will I miscarry again?

No-one can answer this but we can give you some positive statistics. If you have experienced a miscarriage, or two miscarriages, or even three miscarriages, it is still most likely that you will go on to have a healthy pregnancy next time.

The risk of another loss is around 20 percent after one previous miscarriage, 28 percent after two previous miscarriages, and 35 percent after three previous miscarriages.

If you find statistics comforting, the Miscarriage Association’s leaflet “Thinking about another pregnancy” includes a detailed table of statistics for the percentage risk of another pregnancy loss if you have had a miscarriage, ectopic or molar pregnancy.

Pregnancy after a miscarriage

If you decide the time is right to try again, take a look at our section on preparing your body for pregnancy. It can help you feel more in control if you prepare yourself physically for a baby.                        

Many women struggle with anxiety in the next pregnancy. This is a completely natural reaction to what has happened. Your GP may be able to refer you for counselling or Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) in pregnancy, which can help you manage this anxiety or mild depressions. Don’t delay seeing your GP as there may be a waiting list.

Alternatively, you can find a private therapist near you here.

You might want to request an early scan to see how your pregnancy is progressing. Although this doesn’t guarantee anything, it can make the first trimester more manageable.

Try to break down the first trimester into days – or, even sections – so instead of thinking, ‘How am I going to get through the next 8 weeks?’ concentrate on just getting through that morning. Take one day at a time.

Be kind to yourself. It’s totally understandable if you’re not enjoying trying again, or if you are overwhelmed with sadness, anxiety or denial during your next pregnancy. Talk to your GP or midwife, if you feel you need some help managing these feelings.

Don’t feel that you have to keep your next pregnancy secret, talking to your friends or family, might really help. You can also join BabyCentre's supportive pregnancy after miscarriage group to chat to other women in the same situation.

Our midwives are at the end of the phone if you need to get advice or information on trying again after a miscarriage. Call 0800 0147 800.

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Sources

  1. The Miscarriage Association, Trying again: http://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/support/trying-again/ [accessed 28 February 2016].
  2. The Miscarriage Association, ‘Thinking about another pregnancy’ http://www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/wp/wp-content/leaflets/Thinking-about-another-pregnancy.pdf
  3. Regan L, Braude PR and Trembath PL 1989 Influence of past reproductive performance on risk of spontaneous abortion BMJ 299, 541-5
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    Please note that these comments are monitored but not answered by Tommy’s. Please call your GP or maternity unit if you have concerns about your health or your baby’s health.
    • By Emily (not verified) on 15 Oct 2019 - 16:48

      Can i still be pregnat after missed misscarrage? 18 weeks.. Am now one month since misscarrage . But am not pregnat something wrongvwuth me .

    • By tatia (not verified) on 22 Sep 2019 - 17:52

      I had a miscarriage and I received one normal period I have been sextually active I did a pregnancy text and there was a really faint line does this mean am pregnant

    • By Sachi (not verified) on 17 Sep 2019 - 09:34

      Hi I lost my baby this August.I want another baby soon. My period s normal.










    • By Ashanti (not verified) on 2 Sep 2019 - 15:09

      It is possible that u can get pregnant after 2weeks

    • By Rahwa (not verified) on 20 Aug 2019 - 00:57

      Hi I hade miscarriage befor two month and after one month of bleeding stop...and my period is caming ....at middle cycle I had sex with my hasband. ..this is befor two weeks. ..I wait my next period this week or pregnancy results. ..but I do.t feel pragnat. ..I want to be pregnant ...did I will be and I am 34 years old...

    • By Destiny (not verified) on 9 Aug 2019 - 23:42

      I started miscarrying 2 days ago . No heartbeat detected (went to Er). I would have been 9 weeks today. I haven’t had any cramps or bad bleeding . Just a little bit of bleeding. My husband and I want to have another baby ASAP . I don’t have anymore symptoms of pregnancy & my stomache went Down it’s not hard anymore. If we try to conceive again when I’m done bleeding what are the chances of a healthy pregnancy ? We currently have a 2 year old and miscarried in 2015 as well

    • By Nelly (not verified) on 23 Jul 2019 - 07:03

      hi I had a miscarriage I was 36 weeks on 24 April 2019,I feel like I can't wait I need to try again,what are the consequence

    • By Gloria L Barboz... (not verified) on 28 Jul 2019 - 15:27

      I had misscarrage 18 weeks I want to pergant again I scare I have misscarrage again

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 30 Jul 2019 - 17:10

      Dear Gloria,
      I'm very sorry to hear that you lost your baby at 18 weeks and I'm not surprised that you are feeling scared about something going wrong in a future pregnancy.
      There are various reasons why a late miscarriage can happen.
      https://www.tommys.org/pregnancy-information/pregnancy-complications/baby-loss/miscarriage/types-miscarriage/late-miscarriage
      Please get in contact with us at [email protected] to discuss your individual situation.
      Warmest wishes
      Anna-Tommy's Midwife

    • By Lyia (not verified) on 15 Jul 2019 - 16:09

      It been 5months I wanna try again

    • By Karen Tweedie (not verified) on 9 Jul 2019 - 10:01

      Hi

    • By annonymous (not verified) on 27 May 2019 - 11:49

      i got miscarriage in march 2019 and got nurstrate injection and i missed my second shot on the 15 may 2019 ..i want to fall pregnant again we've been sexually active with my husband this may could i be pregant i have not seen any menses yet.

    • By Marcy Guevarra (not verified) on 17 May 2019 - 00:56

      I was miscarried last March, and trying to get pregnant again this month of May,but it was negative. Is there any problem with me?

    • By Suezy (not verified) on 26 Apr 2019 - 15:16

      Hi there. My husband and I have been trying for only 3 months. The first two months nothing and the 3rd month I had a miscarriage at 5 weeks and 1 day. Emotionally I feel teary to try again but I'm not sure if I will ovulate this month? It's been nearly two weeks since the miscarriage/chemical pregnancy. I don't want to wait, what are our chances of conceiving after the miscarriage? I am 28

    • By Fortune (not verified) on 20 Mar 2019 - 23:14

      I feel try again grcy after what happened

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 21 Mar 2019 - 17:11

      Hi - Thank you for your message.
      Your doctor will be able to advise you about any medical reasons to wait for a while, otherwise it’s up to you when you want to start trying again. Some couples feel they need some time to prepare themselves emotionally and physically for a new pregnancy. You may need to allow yourself time to grieve for your lost baby before you think about the future.

      Other couples feel trying again will help them come to terms with what has happened.

      It is an individual choice and one you need to make as a couple.

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