I'm four months pregnant and struggling with stress at work. What can I do?
Talk to your line manager about this. Be realistic about what your priorities are and learn to say no at work if you're being asked to do too much. Make sure you take regular breaks and cut down on household chores when you're at home.
Take time out from your anxieties to relax by practising deep breathing exercises, stretching or yoga. Reading a book, having a nap or going for a walk will all help to lower your stress levels. Also, stick to a healthy diet and try to avoid comfort eating.
Your partner may also be feeling anxious and worried about becoming a parent, so try talking together calmly about the issues you have. You can also see your doctor to discuss whether treatment would help.
Is my bump big enough?
During the third trimester your bump will begin to appear. For a while it will look like you have just put on weight, but in the late second trimester it will become rounder and strangers will begin to be able to tell that you are pregnant.
Your bump is measured by your midwife at appointments from 25 weeks (if it’s your first baby) to tell if your baby is growing at a normal rate. They measure from your pelvic bone to the top of your bump. The top of your womb is called the fundus and this measurement is called the fundal height. The measurement should be around the same as the number of weeks pregnant you are (give or take 2cm). So if you are 25 weeks, the measurement should be 23-27cm. it also depends on what is normal for you though. The overall pattern is more important than the isolated measurements and you may be given a personalised growth chart.
If your bump is measuring bigger or smaller than expected your midwife will refer you for a scan and review at the maternity unit.
All the things that made me feel pregnant have stopped and it's making me anxious
In the second trimester many of your pregnancy symptoms will often disappear or reduce. Your breasts may not feel so tender, nausea or sickness will often stop and the deep tiredness of the first trimester usually goes away, leaving you with more energy than you had before. For some people however, the symptoms of pregnancy, even if they are unpleasant are a reassuring reminder that you are pregnant, and the loss of physical pregnancy feelings brings some worries.
Try instead to enjoy this time, you are not too far away from the third trimester when you will get slower and your bump grows to a size that makes sleeping uncomfortable. Continue being active and eating well, spend time with loved ones, and above all, enjoy your sleep, as it will soon be in short supply
My pelvis has started hurting
Pelvic pain in pregnancy could be a sign of Symphysis Pubis Dysfunction (SPD/PGP), which often starts in the middle of pregnancy. It can cause pain or discomfort that can range from manageable to serious. It is thought to be caused by the hormone relaxin, which loosens the joints in pregnancy to allow your womb to stretch for your growing baby. When you have SPD your joints loosen too much and your pelvis goes out of line.
I don't smoke but my partner does. Should I tell him not to smoke in the house?
Other people’s smoke is a health hazard for you and your baby, before and after the birth. Because of this, it’s important to be very firm about insisting that your partner doesn’t smoke in the house or anywhere around you.
Explain that women who breathe in secondhand smoke are at risk of having a low birth-weight baby. Secondhand smoke also puts your baby at greater risk of birth defects and stillbirth.
Keeping your home free from smoke is important after the birth, to protect your baby from chest infections, cot death, glue ear and asthma. Do everything you can to make sure your new baby is not exposed to smoke. If your partner is finding it hard to quit, suggest they use nicotine gum or patches instead when they’re at home.
Find out more about the risks of smoking in pregnancy.
Is it safe to use complementary remedies during pregnancy?
Not all alternative or complementary remedies are safe for you to take now you’re pregnant. There is less information about these types of treatment than there is about conventional medicine in terms of how safe they are and how they work in pregnancy.
If you do decide to go ahead, always go to a qualified practitioner who is registered with their relevant organisation, as they will be trained to advise you on what's best to use during your pregnancy. You can find a qualified practitioner in your area through the Institute for Complementary and Natural Medicine (ICNM).
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The second trimester is the middle three months of your pregnancy. This is a time when lots of women tell the world they’re pregnant and begin to feel like the pregnancy is more ‘real’.
Folic acid (vitamin B9) is very important for a baby’s health and development. You don’t need to take folic acid after 12 weeks of pregnancy.
Even if you start getting antenatal care later in pregnancy most of the tests that check your own health can be started whenever you begin. Some of the tests on the baby however are time dependent.
An ultrasound scan is a way of looking at your baby in the womb. Scans can check the date your baby is due, tell whether you're having more than one baby and pick up on some possible problems.
Your baby weighs about 1kg now and is roughly the size of an aubergine.
Your baby’s about the size of a cauliflower now.
If you could see your baby, you might notice their eyelids open. They’ll soon be blinking.
Your baby can respond to light, touch and sound now. You might even notice them jumping or kicking in response to a loud noise.
Your baby is now about the size of a corn on the cob.
Your baby is about 30cm now and roughly the size of a large mango.
Your baby now weighs around one pound. From around now, they start to weigh more than the placenta. They’re about the size of a bag of sugar.
Wow - you're halfway there! Your baby is growing hair and starting to look much more like the baby you’ll meet at the end of your pregnancy.
ℹLast reviewed on June 28th, 2018. Next review date June 28th, 2018.
By therd (not verified) on 30 Dec 2019 - 13:53
Hi! I'm 4 months pregnant and I'm so worried about my baby. I haven't been to prenatal check ups yet because I just knew about it and what makes me worried is that I used to have gastritis so I took some medications not knowing I am pregnant. I wasn't eating well too because of it. Will my baby be okay?
By Anne Meyer (not verified) on 11 Dec 2019 - 03:59
Hi. This is my third pregnancy and I'm 20 weeks in. My first pregnancy ended at 28 weeks with a still birth and my second was born at 29 weeks and in the NICU for months. I keep feeling like this one isn't going to make it but I don't want to keep thinking that. I'm not sure if baby is okay but I don't know if anything is actually wrong.
By Eli (not verified) on 5 Nov 2019 - 23:15
Am 19wks pregnant with fibroids which gave me severe pains from the 15th yo 17th week. Now am having another kind of pain in my abdomen and waist it is causing me not to stand straight or even lie down. Please what could be the possible cause.
By Midwife @Tommys on 6 Nov 2019 - 12:57
Any abdominal pain, at any gestation of pregnancy, needs to be investigated. So please go to your maternity unit for review as soon as you can. Take care, Tommy's Midwife
By Anonymous (not verified) on 22 Sep 2019 - 10:10
Hi I’m 22 weeks pregnant everything’s going good but it feels like baby has dropped as his kicks have moved towards my bladder more like I feel it just above my vagina any explanation?
By Cherie (not verified) on 9 Jul 2019 - 13:29
I’m 14 weeks pregnant with twins had severe stomach pains and feel unusual in myself don’t know what to do?
By Donna (not verified) on 3 Jun 2019 - 12:19
Hi I’m 15 weeks pregnant for the past 12 hours I have started getting small brown discharge. It’s like early period discharge should I be worried
By Phethani (not verified) on 20 May 2019 - 19:16
Hi i'm 16 weeks pregnant .I'm worried because i can't feel any movement.is there anything wrong
By Aisha (not verified) on 26 Apr 2019 - 04:36
Hi, am in my 18weeks but suddenly started feeling an ache in the left side of my stomach stretches to my left armpit and arm that I couldn't lift the hand sometimes. Mostly I feel the pain when I'm standing. Though it reduces after eating but come up again after sometimes. Please what causes it and hope my baby and I are safe thanks.
By Mary (not verified) on 10 Nov 2018 - 08:13
Hi I'm 21 weeks and over the last 36 hours strong movement has stopped. Sometimes I think I'm feeling something, but it's what I'd describe as muffled (almost like wind) and has only happened once or twice. Earlier in the week, I'd notice on average 10-12 strong sessions a day. It's really worrying me.
By Midwife @Tommys on 13 Nov 2018 - 12:20
Hi - Please contact the maternity triage at the hospital you are booked to have your baby at urgently.
By Charlotte (not verified) on 22 Apr 2018 - 13:04
Hi, I'm suffering with cramping pain and when it comes I can't stand up properly and then I have to rush to the toilet, it's happend twice now but I do suffer with IBS. thanks.
By Midwife @Tommys on 23 Apr 2018 - 15:24
Hi Charlotte, This is certainly a symptom of IBS but if you are concerned that it may be linked to your pregnancy please talk to your doctor for reassurance.
By Atlanta (not verified) on 3 Apr 2018 - 12:47
Hi I'm 26 weeks pregnant and my urine is bright orange
By Midwife @Tommys on 5 Apr 2018 - 16:40
Thank you for your comment. There could be several explanations as to why your urine is bright orange-have you changed your diet recently or started any new medication as both of these may affect the colour of your urine.
Another cause may be dehydration -urine may appear orange in colour if its is more concentrated because you are not drinking enough.
I would advised that you discuss this with your midwife or GP-they will want to dip stick the urine and possibly send the specimen for further tests if there is a possibility of infection or other concerns such as too much protein in the urine.
You should contact your midwife or maternity unit urgently if you think there may be bleeding or other serious symptoms such as the waters breaking, labour pain, abdominal pain or any other concerns.
Please do not hesitate to contact Tommy's PregnancyLine on
0800 0147 800 if you want to speak to our midwives. Alternatively you can email us on [email protected]
By Midwife @Tommys on 3 Jan 2018 - 12:44
Any abdominal pain, at any gestation of pregnancy should be reviewed by a midwife and obstetric doctor at your local hospital. If you haven't already done so, please do take yourself in to be reviewed to put your mind at ease.
Please take good care of yourself- Sophie, Tommy's Midwife
By Annie smith (not verified) on 27 Dec 2017 - 04:24
Hi I’m 14 weeks and when I sit down part of my belly hard but when I sand up it hard there no blood or anything I just need to make sure it ok