Who should come to my antenatal appointments?

It is completely up to you who comes with you to your antenatal appointments.

You can take your partner, your mum, your sister, your friend, a social worker or anyone else who you feel will support you. Or you can go on your own if you prefer.

The booking appointment, which is the first appointment is the longest. The rest will be around 10-15 minutes long, if you are having an uncomplicated pregnancy.

If you decide to bring someone with you, the midwife may ask to see you on your own at least once in case there is anything you want to tell her that you don’t want to say in front of the other person.

You can also bring someone to your ultrasound scan appointments.

If you already have a child, you can bring them in too. 

Read more about your schedule of appointments here

Read more about antenatal care

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    Your questions, answered by midwives

    This section gives you the answers to some of the questions most frequently asked during pregnancy. Compiled by the Tommy's team of midwives and you.

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    How will I get time off work for all the appointments?

    As a pregnant employee you have legal rights, and this includes paid time off for antenatal appointments or antenatal and parenting classes.

  • Pregnant woman being checked by doctor.

    Will I have an internal exam during appointments?

    No, it’s unlikely you will have an internal examination (inside your vagina) until you go into labour unless there is any concern that needs to be investigated.

  • A happy mother with her newborn baby.

    Making your birth plan

    At some stage during pregnancy, it’s good to think about where you'd like to give birth, who will be your birth partner and what you would prefer to happen during labour and delivery.

  • Couple talking to nurse.

    Vaccinations in pregnancy

    You will be offered a whooping cough and flu vaccination during pregnancy to keep your baby safe during pregnancy and for a short while after they are born

  • A group of happy pregnant women attending an antenatal class.

    Antenatal classes - preparing you for the birth

    Antenatal classes (sometimes called parentcraft classes) give you a chance to learn about what happens during labour and birth.

  • Pregnant woman having an ultrasound scan.

    Ultrasound scans

    An ultrasound scan is a way of looking at your baby in the womb. Scans can check the date your baby is due, tell whether you're having more than one baby and pick up on some possible problems.

  • Profile of pregnant woman draw in white chalk on black board.

    Screening and diagnostic tests

    Screening tests will let you know whether your baby has a high risk of a particular condition, such as Down's syndrome. Diagnostic tests will let you know whether they have it.

  • Woman having her blood pressure checked by nurse.

    What tests will I have during pregnancy?

    You will be offered tests and checks in pregnancy to keep an eye on your health and your baby's. You will also be given information to help you decide whether you want to have them.

  • Doctor and pregnant patient.

    Your antenatal 'notes'

    Your pregnancy notes is a book that you hold in which the midwife and other health professionals keep record of your medical history and events during your pregnancy.

  • Couple at antenatal appointment.

    Your antenatal appointment schedule

    You will have regular antenatal or 'pregnancy appointments' during your pregnancy to check on progress.


National Institute for Health and Care Excellence, Antenatal care: routine care for healthy pregnant women, clinical guideline 62, London NICE, 2008

General Medical Council, Confidentiality guidance: sharing information with a patient’s partner, carers, relatives or friends, London GMC, 2014. Also available at:  http://www.gmc-uk.org/guidance/ethical_guidance/confidentiality_64_66_sharing_information.asp (accessed 27 May 2014)

Macdonald S, Magill-Cuerden J, Mayes midwifery, Edinburgh Bailliere Tindall Elsevier, 2012

General Medical Council, Intimate examinations and chaperones, London GMC, 2013. Also availabe at: http://www.gmc-uk.org/guidance/ethical_guidance/21168.asp (accessed 27 May 2014)

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