What if I'm really not coping?

If you are feeling continually anxious, low or miserable, for more than two weeks, or you have feelings that you just can’t cope with, speak to your midwife or doctor as soon as possible.

Woman looking anxious.

Take a trusted family member or friend with you if that would be helpful. 

At least one in ten women find that their emotional health suffers in pregnancy or after the birth of their baby. It is not uncommon, and your healthcare team won’t judge or criticise you for having these feelings.

They will ask you questions to work out whether you need extra support or treatment. It is important to be honest with them if you had any mental health problem before pregnancy, so that they can make sure you have the right care and support.   

If you have practical problems that you are worried about, such as housing, money worries, relationship concerns, it’s worth mentioning them to your midwife or doctor. They may know of local or national organisations that can help you sort things out.

If you have been diagnosed with a mental health condition, the National Institute of Health and Care Excellence (NICE) has published a list of questions for you to put to your healthcare provider to help you find out more. If you don’t get the answers you need, don’t be afraid to ask another member of your care team for assistance.

Find national organisations on our further help and support page

Other resources


  1. NHS Choices [accessed 6/5/2015] Clinical depression (review date 19/08/2016http://www.nhs.uk/Conditions/Depression/Pages/Introduction.aspx
  2. NICE (2014) Antenatal and postnatal mental health: clinical and service management guidance, clinical guideline 192, National Institute for Health and Care Excellence.  London, P 4: Available at: http://www.nice.org.uk/guidance/cg192
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Last reviewed on February 1st, 2015. Next review date February 1st, 2018.

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