This information is about your mental health after your baby is born. Find out more about how pregnancy can affect dads and partners.
Your mental health
Having a baby brings a lot of changes. You may be worried about lack of sleep, being a good parent, money problems or changes in your relationship. Some partners feel anxious or depressed during the pregnancy or after the birth.
Asking for help
It’s important to talk to someone if you feel like you’re not coping, or you often feel angry or stressed. You can talk to friends, family, your GP or health visitor. Your health visitor is there for you as well as your partner. They can support you with relationship and parenting problems.
“I put a lot of pressure on myself to be a good father and partner. It’s very easy to forget about myself and forget to take a few minutes to reflect and take stock and, if needs be, ask for help.”
If you need help straight away, call the Samaritans on 116 123.
Getting help for yourself will also mean you’re better able to support your partner and baby.
Postnatal depression in men and partners
It’s not just mums and birthing parents who get postnatal depression. Dads and non-birthing parents can get it too.
Signs of postnatal depression can include:
- often feeling irritable or angry
- finding it hard to concentrate
- feeling guilty or hopeless
- thinking that you’re not a good enough parent.
Speak to your GP if you’re feeling very stressed and finding it hard to cope.
PANDAS has social media channels for anyone affected by postnatal depression, including partners.
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD)
If the birth was difficult, you may have been worried about your partner’s and baby’s safety. This can lead to symptoms of PTSD.
Read more about recovering from a difficult birth. Although this information was written for mums and birthing parents, dads and non-birthing parents may find it helpful too.
More support and information
If there is anything you need to talk about, you can talk to a Tommy’s midwife free of charge from 9am–5pm, Monday to Friday on 0800 0147 800 or email them at [email protected]
Andys Man Club run UK-wide talking groups for men.
The DadPad is a guide for new dads, developed with the NHS.
Dadsnet is the biggest network of dads in the UK.
Dads Rock provides support to dads and families in Scotland.
Dope Black Dads is a digital safe space for fathers who wish to discuss their experiences of being black, a parent and masculinity in the modern world.
The Hub of Hope is the UK’s leading mental health support database. It brings local, national, peer, community, charity, private and NHS mental health support and services together in one place.