Harry Judd tells how IVF struggle affected relationship with Izzy

‘I lost her a little bit.’

Two black and white photos of Harry Judd. One with him bathing his eldest daughter and the other of him and Izzy with both of their children sat in a cafe.

Pregnancy blog, 10/10/2017

Izzy Judd has spoken openly about her IVF journey in her book, Dare to Dream.

And now Harry has revealed how their struggle to conceive affected his relationship with Izzy.

Speaking to The Sun’s Fabulous magazine, Harry says,

‘Izzy so desperately wanted to be a mother and so as soon as we realised there was a problem, it took over her life.’

‘The dynamic changed because all the focus was on getting pregnant and in a way I lost her a little bit. I lost that smiley, confident, beautiful wife.’

‘Our wedding had been the happiest day of our lives – cut to a year later and she’s in absolute despair. I remember after two years thinking: ‘God, we haven’t even had a kid and already I’m sick of this.’ It was constant but I felt I couldn’t get frustrated at her.’ 


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The couple’s daughter, Lola, was born in early 2016 after being conceived by IVF. They welcome their son, Kit, in summer 2017.

Writing on Instagram, Izzy said, ‘After having IVF to conceive Lola people used to say to me you’ll probably fall pregnant naturally next time.’ 

‘I wondered how it would ever be that simple after all the difficulties we have previously faced. I never believed we would be lucky enough, but whilst writing ‘Dare to Dream’ this little miracle happened. 

‘I want to give others hope that amazing things can happen.’

If you are struggling to cope with trying to conceive, talk to someone about what you’re going through.

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