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    Comments

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 12 Oct 2016 - 12:37

      Thank you for your post. It is lovely news to hear that 'healthy baby 3' has arrived but the soul searching questions and what ifs still remain as you say.

    • By Anonymous (not verified) on 30 Jan 2017 - 22:36

      I have an inplanon in 2/9/2014 and m on haart now it's almost 2years 4mnths bt found out I'm pregnant n not ready yet couse my younger son is3years 8mnths now, I have been noticed that I don't go to my periods thought its the side iffect bt scared then on December last year stated hvng morning sickness n the breast tips so sore frequent urine then end DEC I report this incident bt thy said maybe side effect no test have been taken, again today repot this at the clinic no testing till I go to pharmacy for two preg test become positive n go back to the clinic to tell them then started do the test n got shocked,I won't be able to keep the bby so they have call the hospital for an abortion date its on Thursday the 2nd,I'm so scared couse I thought that m safe n m nt sure how far am I nw start having gugling tummy not know if it's a bby or if it's almost more then 12weeks what am I goin to do ....I really need help couse I don't want to have a babe,pls help me

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 31 Jan 2017 - 09:27

      Hello - so sorry to hear you are so worried, I would need a few more details from you in order to help with your question, please email midwife@tommys.org with your query so we can help answer your questions.

    • By Anonymous (not verified) on 12 Oct 2016 - 05:21

      I hate that I was made to feel it was early on its fine, no biggie,not an issue,get over it!!!!! My son was my strength even though he'll probably never know how much he helped! I wouldn't wish miscarriage on my worst enemy however early or late, I hope one day the investigations in to it progress as after mine I learned that my grandmother and mother had between them had 5 and one still born! Healthy baby 3 is now with us and I am now finished with pregnancies but there will always be questions, doubt, wonders and what ifs.

    • By Midwife @Tommys on 11 Oct 2016 - 11:31

      I am so sorry for your devastating loss... You must not feel bad and blame yourself. Can you arrange to have a chat with your Consultant to discuss what happened as this may answer some questions you may have and clarify what happened. Please call Tommy's Pregnancy Line on 0800 0147 800 where there is Midwife available to chat between 9am to 5pm every week day and we can hopefully answer some of your queries too..

    • By Anonymous (not verified) on 7 Oct 2016 - 17:37

      With cs l lost my baby weight 5.5. I felt bad and confuse. But God know better. He wil console me.

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