Our rainbow baby Noah

Water Babies swimmer Noah was born thanks to the care of the Tommy's Centre for National Miscarriage Research at Birmingham Women's Hospital

Noah & his mum in the pool

Tommy's guest blog, 15/05/2019, by Jess

Rainbow baby Noah who swims with Water Babies at Kingsley pool, Kettering with Kelly will be fundraising in the Tommy's Splashathon. Noah was born after mum Jess suffered a devastating 3 miscarriages and sought help from the Tommy's Centre for National Miscarriage Research at Birmingham Women's Hospital.

In the midst of her pain Jess shared her story for the Tommy's #miscourage campaign:

"November 2016, February 2017 and July 2017.

These dates will be forever significant for my husband and I. July 2017 was our 3rd miscarriage, it was different to the previous 2 as those both started with bleeding and cramps and I soon knew what was happening to me.

For the 3rd we went for our 12 weeks scan not quite believing we had gotten to this stage, so excited. We had bought a photo frame to put the scan picture into and planned our ‘Rainbow Baby’ announcement.

The midwife started the scan and looked at me and said ‘Are you sure about your dates?’ at this point the world stopped and I knew again what was happening.

Before the scan I had no bleeding, no cramps and still having pregnancy symptoms only to be told our baby had stopped growing at 9 weeks and there was no heartbeat. My heart was torn from me, my husband and I drove away and pulled into a car park to break the devastating news to our parents when we both broke down and sobbed into each other’s arms. We honestly had no idea and thought everything was fine.

I was booked in for an operation to have our baby removed 2 days later and spent 1 day in hospital which was the worst day of my life to date and since a day has not gone past when I have not cried.

A part of me feels angry with everything and everyone. Why me? It’s not fair, what have my husband and I done to deserve this? Will I ever be able to provide my husband with the child we both so dearly want?

We are both so lucky to have our friends and family around to support us through these times but I can’t help but feel so alone and unable to talk about what has happened without crying. I feel defeated and crushed by what has happened and feel useless as a woman to not be able to carry my child. I can’t help but think it will never happen for us but I know this thinking will get me nowhere and I must be strong for everyone around me.

So, from here we have looked forward and have been referred for testing which I am hoping will show something which can be ‘fixed’ but also hoping nothing is wrong.

It has helped me so much reading other stories so if mine just helps one person to get though what I can only describe as the most heart wrenching time of my life then that's good.

It has also helped to write down my feelings so thank you for reading."

After their 3rd miscarriage Jess and her husband were told they could now finally seek help. Jess found the Tommy's Centre for National Miscarriage Research at Birmingham Women's Hospital online:

"I went home with no idea of how I could access the help we needed and it was through an online search I found the Tommy's Centre for National Miscarriage Research at Birmingham Women's Hospital. I immediately went straight to my GP and asked for a referral.

We had a number of tests and all came back clear. They were so supportive during my 4th pregnancy with reassurance scans and someone to speak to as and when I needed.

It is now May 2019 and we have our perfect 9 month old rainbow baby Noah and we are so grateful to the Tommy's team. We're all very excited about being taking part in Splashathon and being able to fundraise for Tommy's with Water Babies."

Start your Splashathon fundraising here.

Find out about how to be referred to a Tommy's centre here.

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