My husband Sean and I live in Kenilworth with our little boy Jack and Sean’s son Nathan. I was absolutely delighted when I found out I was pregnant with a sibling for the boys in 2016. We were even more thrilled when we discovered we were expecting twins. It felt like the right time for us. We left our first scan feeling like the luckiest people in the world.
No words can describe the heartbreak
At 25 weeks pregnant, I went into labour. I was really poorly at the time and had flu-like symptoms. It was such a shock for us.
Our beautiful little girls arrived in December 2016. They both passed away the following day. There’s nothing quite like the pain and heartbreak we endured. We weren’t given a reason for the loss of our girls. It was the most horrific time. It was like living in a nightmare and tore our lives apart.
Trying to conceive after loss
I became pregnant again in 2017 but had a miscarriage at 8 weeks. We had another miscarriage in January 2018.
We were absolutely devastated and didn’t know if we could continue.
Tommy’s gave us hope
As we’d experienced 3 losses, we were referred to Professor Siobhan Quenby’s recurrent miscarriage clinic at Tommy’s National Centre for Miscarriage Research. Professor Quenby took her time to learn about what we’d been through and promised to help us if we fell pregnant again.
In June 2018, I became pregnant. It was such a terrifying time for both of us, particularly because I bled throughout the first trimester. The Tommy’s team were so supportive, and I was prescribed progesterone and a low dose of aspirin.
The staff at Tommy’s National Centre for Miscarriage Research at Coventry were there for us at our time of need. No question seemed too small.
Preparing for a new arrival
When you’ve been through baby loss, it’s hard to believe you’ll ever get a baby at the end of a pregnancy. When we got to 32 weeks, we finally allowed ourselves to start preparing. Until then, we hadn’t dared to dream.
Our beautiful little girl, Livvie, was born in March 2019. She’s amazing. She’s brought so much joy to our lives.
Thank you, Tommy’s
It makes me feel emotional to think about the journey we’ve been on really. To put it frankly, our daughter wouldn’t be here if it wasn’t for Tommy’s. We were starting to accept the fact we’d never bring another baby home. We were so close to giving up.
Without Tommy’s, families like us would be left with gaping holes in their hearts. Their work is truly life changing.
Exercise has been key in maintaining my mental health during some very tough times. In some ways, running has been my path to recovery. My plan was to run the London Landmarks Half Marathon as a member of Team Tommy’s in March 2020. Sadly, due to coronavirus, the event didn’t go ahead. However, I was excited when I found out that I could still do something to say thank you for Tommy’s. Earlier this year, I took part on the Local Landmarks Challenge. Running a half marathon locally was quite a challenge but my son cycled with me and, together, we raised £1800. I’m so happy I’ve been able to give something back to Tommy’s – it’s an honour to help in any way I can.
Many people do not believe that 22-week babies can survive, but our baby is proof that if they are given a chance they can survive and thrive
In this story, Chrissie and Jonny reflect on the loss of their son and how he supported them in the birth of their healthy and happy baby girl Evie, who was born at just 22 weeks and 2 days.
Claire, from Leamington Spa experienced recurrent miscarriage before her daughter Mollie was born. In 2017, Claire had another miscarriage and decided to take part in the SIMPLANT trial at Tommy’s National Centre for Miscarriage Research. Mollie’s little brother, Dexter, was born in July 2018.
Leanne and Kieran experienced a heart-breaking missed miscarriage before the arrival of their first daughter, Rosa. Sadly, they went on to experience another miscarriage before getting referred to Tommy’s National Centre for Miscarriage Research at Birmingham Women’s Hospital. During Leanne’s next pregnancy, she was supported by the team at our recurrent miscarriage clinic. Their second healthy baby, Pearl, was born in October 2019.
Beth and Sean from Lancaster have experienced 9 losses in total. After her first living baby was born in 2017, Beth was diagnosed with Chronic Histiocytic Intervillositis (CHI), a rare condition that causes placental failure. With support from Professor Alex Heazell at Tommy’s Rainbow Clinic, Beth’s second living baby was born prematurely at 35 weeks in March 2020, during the height of the pandemic.