Story by Daisy,
My husband and I had our first son while we were still in high school but we beat every off and are so happy and have another son, too (19 and 13 y/o boys).
In March my identical twin sister had a stillbirth. I felt her pain but never ever thought I would experience something similar. She is now 7 months pregnant with a healthy boy.
I found out about this surprise blessing a few days before Christmas and was NOT expecting that positive! And just like that our world changed.
I had never in my life felt more happy, more blessed.
We made a life time of plans. At 9 weeks I started bleeding. Went in for ultrasound after several attempts to get a Dr appointment and nobody seemed too concerned.
But ultrasound confirmed “no fetal cardiac activity seen” and baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks 3 days.
My body has been violently getting rid of my baby for two days.
The physical pain is unreal, but my mind is worse. At this moment, physically, I feel much better than earlier.
But I can’t understand.
I’m 37 and only have one ovary and I’m afraid this was our last chance though I am desperate to try again.
My heart was opened to its only desire. I loved this baby. Always will. I am so afraid I did something wrong. It all feels like a dream.
From the day I found out until this nightmare.
I wish so badly I could change it. And I feel so volatile I don’t know what to do so I’m writing here.
“I felt an overwhelming rush of sadness: sadness for the loss of my first grandchild and sadness that my own baby was going through so much pain.”
Anne from North Wales reflects on how she supported her daughter who had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks.
Danielle and her husband Paul experienced a missed miscarriage before their first daughter Eva, 5, was born. They had 3 more heartbreaking losses before self-referring to Tommy’s National Centre for Miscarriage Research at Birmingham Women’s Hospital. Danielle gave birth to baby Louie in July 2019.
”If I can help just one person get through this awful experience, then it is worth it. I want people to know that they are not alone.”
After 9 miscarriages and a termination for medical reasons, Ellie decided to take part in a medical research trial. Soon after, her first rainbow baby, Aidan, was born. Two years later, Ellie and her husband Mike decided that it was time to try again. They sadly lost two more babies to miscarriage. Ellie tried again and fell pregnant for the 14th time. She gave birth to her second rainbow baby, Sam, in 2019.
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