Story by Daisy,
My husband and I had our first son while we were still in high school but we beat every off and are so happy and have another son, too (19 and 13 y/o boys).
In March my identical twin sister had a stillbirth. I felt her pain but never ever thought I would experience something similar. She is now 7 months pregnant with a healthy boy.
I found out about this surprise blessing a few days before Christmas and was NOT expecting that positive! And just like that our world changed.
I had never in my life felt more happy, more blessed.
We made a life time of plans. At 9 weeks I started bleeding. Went in for ultrasound after several attempts to get a Dr appointment and nobody seemed too concerned.
But ultrasound confirmed “no fetal cardiac activity seen” and baby had stopped growing at 8 weeks 3 days.
My body has been violently getting rid of my baby for two days.
The physical pain is unreal, but my mind is worse. At this moment, physically, I feel much better than earlier.
But I can’t understand.
I’m 37 and only have one ovary and I’m afraid this was our last chance though I am desperate to try again.
My heart was opened to its only desire. I loved this baby. Always will. I am so afraid I did something wrong. It all feels like a dream.
From the day I found out until this nightmare.
I wish so badly I could change it. And I feel so volatile I don’t know what to do so I’m writing here.
I never found out the reason for my miscarriage. Without an explanation, you start to blame yourself
In this piece, one of our supporters shares the traumatic experience of her miscarriage. She speaks of the physical and emotional pain it caused, and how difficult it is to grapple with the feelings of guilt, grief, and future uncertainty.
After giving birth to her son Noah in 2012, Faye and her husband Dean had 3 miscarriages. In 2015, Faye took part in the PRISM trial led by researchers at Tommy’s National Centre for Miscarriage Research. Her daughter Leila was born in 2016.
I was a broken mess and I felt like my grief was wrong because it wasn’t a real baby, like I was being dramatic, over-the-top.
Toni and her husband Matt had a miscarriage in 2015 which left Toni with PTSD. The couple live in Leicester with daughters Phoebe and Willow. This is Toni's story.
Roslyn and Paul from South Ayrshire in Scotland had an early miscarriage before getting pregnant with their first daughter Ava who is now 4 years old. They went on to lose another 3 babies before getting a referral to Tommy’s National Centre for Miscarriage Research at University Hospital in Coventry. Their second daughter, Ciara, was born in April 2019 and is now 7 months old.
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