Story by Caitlin,
I was told January 6, 2019 I was having a miscarriage at 12 weeks.
When I had my first ultrasound in the ER done, they said there was swelling in the uterus that signifies a pregnancy but there was no gestation sac. And if “there was anything” in my uterus it was measuring about 2 weeks.
I have been through this process about 40+ days now. Every other day, I get horrible pains and pass blood clots.
There is no sign of a fetus in this aftermath.
I am very confused, no one has said blighted ovum and no one has told me anything about my miscarriage except that I need to watch for signs of major blood loss.
This would’ve been my second child, and my doctor doesn’t seem to care very much about me.
He told my ER doctor there was “no reason for him to come in”. I’ve done countless hours of research to only come up empty handed. They said it was natural but it’s hard for me to grieve unless I completely understand the situation.
The ER told me that it was most likely due to too many/too little chromosomes and that the process would be done naturally. My “doctor” told me to make an appointment the next day but then told me when I called there was no reason for me to come in.
Without any blood tests being done at all. I was not properly prepared for this in any way and my mental state has shut down to a point where I feel little to no pain to what has happened to my child because I cannot comprehend what is happening to my body.
I want to grieve like a mother who just lost their child but I have no medical background to it.
I’ve been passing blood clots every other day for at least a week now and I really just want someone to tell me what is going on. My husband is trying so hard to take care of me but I am afraid to even go to the grocery store because of my unpredictable bleeding habits.
I have no idea what labour pain even feels like because I had a scheduled c section with my son almost 3 years ago due to an unsuccessful forced turn.
I am scared to even be alone in my own house with my son.
No one will answer any questions I have without pointing out the obvious facts of my miscarriage.
After 22 days of horrible pain, it stopped. Now it’s only bleeding.
The bleeding has stopped and started. My doctor still won’t see me. He’s ordered no ultrasounds. I’m on my own.
Seeing my family doctor the 25th of February.
I never found out the reason for my miscarriage. Without an explanation, you start to blame yourself
In this piece, one of our supporters shares the traumatic experience of her miscarriage. She speaks of the physical and emotional pain it caused, and how difficult it is to grapple with the feelings of guilt, grief, and future uncertainty.
After giving birth to her son Noah in 2012, Faye and her husband Dean had 3 miscarriages. In 2015, Faye took part in the PRISM trial led by researchers at Tommy’s National Centre for Miscarriage Research. Her daughter Leila was born in 2016.
I was a broken mess and I felt like my grief was wrong because it wasn’t a real baby, like I was being dramatic, over-the-top.
Toni and her husband Matt had a miscarriage in 2015 which left Toni with PTSD. The couple live in Leicester with daughters Phoebe and Willow. This is Toni's story.
Roslyn and Paul from South Ayrshire in Scotland had an early miscarriage before getting pregnant with their first daughter Ava who is now 4 years old. They went on to lose another 3 babies before getting a referral to Tommy’s National Centre for Miscarriage Research at University Hospital in Coventry. Their second daughter, Ciara, was born in April 2019 and is now 7 months old.
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