Story by Caitlin,
I was told January 6, 2019 I was having a miscarriage at 12 weeks.
When I had my first ultrasound in the ER done, they said there was swelling in the uterus that signifies a pregnancy but there was no gestation sac. And if “there was anything” in my uterus it was measuring about 2 weeks.
I have been through this process about 40+ days now. Every other day, I get horrible pains and pass blood clots.
There is no sign of a fetus in this aftermath.
I am very confused, no one has said blighted ovum and no one has told me anything about my miscarriage except that I need to watch for signs of major blood loss.
This would’ve been my second child, and my doctor doesn’t seem to care very much about me.
He told my ER doctor there was “no reason for him to come in”. I’ve done countless hours of research to only come up empty handed. They said it was natural but it’s hard for me to grieve unless I completely understand the situation.
The ER told me that it was most likely due to too many/too little chromosomes and that the process would be done naturally. My “doctor” told me to make an appointment the next day but then told me when I called there was no reason for me to come in.
Without any blood tests being done at all. I was not properly prepared for this in any way and my mental state has shut down to a point where I feel little to no pain to what has happened to my child because I cannot comprehend what is happening to my body.
I want to grieve like a mother who just lost their child but I have no medical background to it.
I’ve been passing blood clots every other day for at least a week now and I really just want someone to tell me what is going on. My husband is trying so hard to take care of me but I am afraid to even go to the grocery store because of my unpredictable bleeding habits.
I have no idea what labour pain even feels like because I had a scheduled c section with my son almost 3 years ago due to an unsuccessful forced turn.
I am scared to even be alone in my own house with my son.
No one will answer any questions I have without pointing out the obvious facts of my miscarriage.
After 22 days of horrible pain, it stopped. Now it’s only bleeding.
The bleeding has stopped and started. My doctor still won’t see me. He’s ordered no ultrasounds. I’m on my own.
Seeing my family doctor the 25th of February.
“I felt an overwhelming rush of sadness: sadness for the loss of my first grandchild and sadness that my own baby was going through so much pain.”
Anne from North Wales reflects on how she supported her daughter who had a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks.
Danielle and her husband Paul experienced a missed miscarriage before their first daughter Eva, 5, was born. They had 3 more heartbreaking losses before self-referring to Tommy’s National Centre for Miscarriage Research at Birmingham Women’s Hospital. Danielle gave birth to baby Louie in July 2019.
”If I can help just one person get through this awful experience, then it is worth it. I want people to know that they are not alone.”
After 9 miscarriages and a termination for medical reasons, Ellie decided to take part in a medical research trial. Soon after, her first rainbow baby, Aidan, was born. Two years later, Ellie and her husband Mike decided that it was time to try again. They sadly lost two more babies to miscarriage. Ellie tried again and fell pregnant for the 14th time. She gave birth to her second rainbow baby, Sam, in 2019.
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