A Southborough couple's touching way to remember their stillborn baby daughter.

“We planned our whole life around her, and got everything ready. We already had two healthy boys, so we didn’t expect anything to go wrong.”

Windmills

Tommy's news, 29/06/2017

A Southborough couple are placing tiny windmills around Tunbridge Wells in memory of their stillborn daughter, Everly.

Following 38 weeks of pregnancy, Iris and Brent Constant faced the devastating news that Everly had passed away following concern about a decrease in foetal movements.

Despite rushing to the hospital, sadly there was nothing that could be done and Iris gave birth to Everly naturally on the 27th of May. Iris opened up about her feelings following Everly’s birth, describing the shock which comes from such a sudden turn of events.

“We planned our whole life around her, and got everything ready. We already had two healthy boys, so we didn’t expect anything to go wrong.”

For Iris, one of the most shocking pieces of information was how common stillbirth is.

“The midwife said it was one in every 16 babies – I had to check she didn’t say 60.”

Following this shocking discovery, Iris and Brent have decided to beat the stigma and raise awareness of stillbirth in their own imaginative way.

Brent came up with the idea of windmills to remember Everly, and the couple shared the idea on Facebook so their friends and family could do the same. As well as the project spreading all across Tunbridge Wells, windmills were spread as far away as Tenerife and Disneyland, an experience which Iris said was “very comforting”.

Iris explained how opening up about her stillbirth and talking about her struggle helped her to cope in the days and weeks that followed.

“The support we have had from the funeral ladies to the bereavement midwives, and friends and family is what have got me through it so far, even though this is just the beginning.”

We love this imaginative and subtle way to spread awareness for stillbirth whilst taking the time to remember and honour a lost baby.

If you’ve suffered the heartache of loss, our midwives are trained in bereavement support and are here for you, whatever stage you are at on your journey. You can email them at [email protected] or phone our free information line - 0800 0147 800 from 9 – 5, Monday - Friday.

Commemorating your loss in a visible and lasting way can be a great source of comfort for many parents. For more ideas on how you can remember your baby, you can find more information on commemorating your baby after stillbirth or miscarriage here.

You can read the original article at Kent Live. 

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