On the 12th October, 2016 the lives of Steven Chidgey and his partner Nicole were changed forever when their beautiful baby girl Avery was born sleeping.
Like so many parents, together Steven and Nicole endured the heartache of saying goodbye to their daughter. Nicole has chosen to blog regularly about loss and her journey through anniversaries, due dates and the many emotions that accompany stillbirth, letting other mothers out there know they are not alone.
Steven has chosen to dedicate this year to making Avery's purpose one that will not only help break the taboo that surrounds the subject of stillbirths, but also support research organisations and make a difference to those who are affected by stillbirth.
As part of these events Steven, and his personal training colleague James Barratt, are preparing to push a car the length of a marathon. This incredible challenge, in association with BMW, Total Fitness, Pro-Fit and Bang & Olufsen, will take place on Saturday the 15th of July, as Steven and James push the car for 60m at a time.
The aim is to finish the marathon within 12 hours, during an open day at Total Fitness Wilmslow which will be complete with family activities and a fundraising raffle.
By donating the funds raised by the event to Tommy’s, Steven hopes to help people who are going through the same experience.
‘We just want to do as much as we can to make Avery’s life mean something and make a big difference to anyone who’s unfortunately gone through the same heartache and experienced such a loss.’
Despite stillbirth remaining a little-discussed topic, around 1 in every 200 births ends in a stillbirth in the UK, resulting in over 3,500 losses every year.
‘Stillbirth is not something that we knew about. A lot of people hear about miscarriages but not stillborn babies, so we were totally shocked when it happened to us.’
The funds which Steven raises will go towards the four Tommy’s research centres across the country such as our Rainbow Clinic in Manchester, where our research and care has helped to reduce stillbirth by 34% between 2010 and 2016.
We wish Steven the best of luck in the challenge, and we hope to see conversation about stillbirth continue to increase.
You can find Steven’s fundraising page here.
If you’ve experienced the heartache of loss, our midwives are here to support you. You can access our free pregnancy line at 0800 014 7800 from Monday to Friday 9-5, or email [email protected].
Made with love, for love, from love, of love. I have lost 3 now.
A poem in dedication to my experience.
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