We want to be there for every parent who sadly experiences baby loss.
Dads and partners have told us they feel helpless and powerless when their baby dies, and believe their grief is often overlooked. We also know that 1 in 12 of them experience long-term post traumatic stress after losing their baby.
“Walking away from him, leaving my son on his own, still haunts me to this day. Having to juggle looking after my wife and seeing Theo with ringing all our friends and family to tell them they will never get to meet Theo. Each phone call was very tough for me to do. People always asked how Kate was, and rightly so, but only a handful of people ever asked me. We can’t forget the father or partner, because we both have had our future dreams taken away from us. We grieve too.”
– Rob, dad to Theo who lived for 44 beautiful hours
No parent should be left feeling powerless and vulnerable, not knowing how to cope or where to turn to for help.
38% of new dads worry about their mental health. The experience of dads and partners throughout the pregnancy journey is so important. Becoming a new parent can be a tough experience, so it’s essential that the mental health and wellbeing of all parents is spoken about and supported.
There needs to be more resources and support for dads and partners, especially for those who have previously experienced baby loss. We know that they often feel a need to be strong for the mother or person carrying the baby. But we must remember that dads and partners get perinatal and postnatal depression too.
We want to be there. We want to develop a hub for dads and partners to provide specialist support.
We need dads and partners to know they don’t have to face anything alone. But we need your help to do this.
Rob is an engineer and lives in Northampton with his wife Kate and their daughter Elsie. In this blog, he reflects on coping with the death of son Theo and how this loss has changed him.
In this blog James opens up about how losing 4 babies has impacted his mental health. James shares his coping strategies and what worked for him to get through the grief - and hopes to open up conversations with other men and partners who are going through the same pain in silence.
Craig, 36, lives in North Wales with his fiancée Kerry and her 6-year-old son Jacob. His job as a radio presenter and station director was difficult after the loss of their baby boy Ellis, having to entertain listeners while battling grief, but he’s now using his talent for public speaking to break the silence on miscarriage by sharing their family’s story.