Alex Jones opened up about her personal experiences of baby loss to The Sunday Telegraph’s Stella magazine to help break the silence surrounding miscarriage.
Sadly, 1 in 4 pregnancies end in loss, with many families experiencing the heartbreak of miscarriage during their parenthood journey.
Alex shared thoughts and feelings about her search for answers after a scan at 14 weeks revealed she’d experienced a symptomless miscarriage: ‘You're thinking: 'Have I done something wrong? What did I do differently? Was it because we flew a long way? Was I too stressed? Was I putting too much pressure on myself?’
An hour after learning she’d lost her baby, Alex was back on television, despite her boss telling her she didn’t need to. ‘It’s a horrible feeling because it’s so empty’, she shared. ‘There’s nothing to say, it’s done. I just went straight on air an hour after I heard. I didn’t know what else to do.’
Alex’s story will resonate with many women. Tommy’s Midwife, Sophie King said: “Trying to carry on as normal is an understandable response. A natural human reaction is self-preservation, and if you’ve had a difficult thing happen to you, a common way for the body to act is with denial.”
Tommy’s refuses to believe that miscarriage is ‘just one of those things’ and is working tirelessly to fund research into the causes of baby loss and pregnancy complications. Our #TogetherForChange campaign is helping to break the taboo of silence around baby loss and encourage women and their families to seek support.
Jane Brewin, Tommy's CEO says: ‘Sadly 1 in 4 pregnancies in the UK end in loss. Many women will have experience of miscarriage, either personally or through their family and friends. At Tommy's we are keen to stress that there is no right way to respond to a miscarriage. And we must remember that not everyone miscarries at home or in hospital. No matter what stage of pregnancy it happens, losing a baby is heart-breaking. Women tell us that they are often consumed by feelings of isolation, and even guilt, asking 'why did this happen to me'.
‘Some women choose to share the news with loved ones immediately, others prefer to carry on with work or life and process the emotions later when they have the time and space. Whatever the circumstances, Tommy's message is: ‘Please don’t suffer in silence. Please do seek help; because you may very well need some help to be able to cope with this terrible situation.’
"Miscarriage is common and causes widespread devastation. At the Tommy's National Centre for Miscarriage Research, we are determined to make a difference. The scientists and the clinicians from the three universities and the four trusts constitute a world class team. We are committed to understand the causes of miscarriage and find ways to prevent it."
Professor Arri Coomarasamy, Director of Tommy’s National Centre for Miscarriage Research
Up to 1 in 4 women will experience a miscarriage in their lifetime. Many miscarriages are unreported and some go unnoticed as it happens so soon. Among women who know they are pregnant, it is estimated that 1 in 6 pregnancies end in miscarriage. Tommy’s conducts research to find out what puts women at risk of miscarriage in order to prevent it.
Read more about Tommy’s current miscarriage research.
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