We will never give up the fight!

I still have hope that I will get to love and cherish a second child. I don't want to give up. I have to show my son we tried our best.

Heartbreaking stories. Devastating stories. The miscarriage story needs to change. That's why we've created Tommy's book of #misCOURAGE. Read this story now and help spread the word that miscarriage can no longer be ignored. Help us change the story to save babies' lives.


by Debra Cowgill

May 2016

I met my husband when I was 18 years old. I knew from the day we met that he was someone I wanted to spend the rest of my life with. I soon discovered we even shared the same birthday! At the age of 20, I fell pregnant. It was not planned, but we were over the moon.

From that day, I have always longed for the day I became a mum. Unfortunately, I miscarried and went on to miscarry a further 2 times. All the grief and heartache got to both of us. We split up and I moved out of our home. A week later, I got that positive test.

Not sure what to do, I kept it to myself for the next month. We were still in contact with each other and after a month I told him the news I was keeping from him. He was over the moon and feel this really did bring us back together. After a long and worrying 9 months, our gift of a child was given to us. Our son was born on our birthday. Best present ever.

A year passed and we decided to try again. From that day, here we still are after 7 years and 15 miscarriages, still trying for that 2nd child. My son knows he is blessed and that lucky one that was given to us. But deep down, we all long for that 2nd gift, that sibling for my son.

He sees people walking down the street with 2 or 3 children and says to me there very lucky to have those children mummy. I'm now 31 and still have hope I will get to love and cherish a second child. I don't want to give up. I have to show my son we tried our best.

My son is my world, and because what we have been through, I know for sure it has made him the loving caring child that he is today.

I will fight for this as long as I can. But hopefully one day that fight will stop, and I will hand my son that gift of a sibling just like when I was given the gift of him.

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  • By Debra cowgill (not verified) on 15 Oct 2018 - 11:34

    After 19 miscarriages I now have my baby, born 2nd May 2018. My 2nd miracle ❤️

  • By Midwife @Tommys on 15 Oct 2018 - 11:54

    Dear Debra,
    That really is fantastic news. Congratulations to your whole family. Your story will be inspiring to many of our readers and your update today what we have all hoped for. With best wishes for the future from all at Tommy's.

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