"We both find it so hard that our baby wasn't acknowledged as a living person."

Today would have been Kelly and her partner's due date but instead they are sharing their heart-breaking story of miscarriage after IVF.

Heartbreaking stories. Devastating stories. The miscarriage story needs to change. That's why we've created Tommy's book of #misCOURAGE. Read this story now and help spread the word that miscarriage can no longer be ignored. Help us change the story to save babies' lives.


Tommy's guest blog, 04/08/2016, by Kelly

We lost our precious baby in January.

After our first IVF attempt we had been blessed. Next week, Tuesday the 9th of August would have been our due date. It's a date that took over our lives and  we couldn't wait.

Now in the run up to it, it's a date we are saddened by, a date that even when thinking about I am overwhelmed with total heartbreak.

My husband and I will not let this date go unnoticed; it's our baby's birthday and we will celebrate it by releasing balloons with a note from each of us to our angel.

We both find it so hard that we feel our baby isn't acknowledged as a living person, our baby was a person with a beating heart that we saw. Just because our baby was only 8 weeks old doesn't make him or her any less a person than you or I.

Our baby was here. Our baby did exist.

We have since had 2 failed cycles, operations, endless medication and injections. We will start the process again in a few months as this week we found out that our 3rd cycle failed with the last of our frozen embryos.

After finding out our cycle failed we both had mixed feelings anger and sadness.  Fighting the IVF battle is so difficult and hard for people who haven't been there to understand the true measure of what you are going though.

We will continue to fight for as long as we have the strength to to have our rainbow.

Thank you so much Tommy's for making baby loss something we can talk about. All lives matter even if they were only here for a little while ❤️

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