I have recently suffered from my second miscarriage in less than a year. I am left devastated, heartbroken and so is my husband. We are both extremely angry by the lack of support available in hospitals and the system that is currently in place. We've felt like a number, a percentage, rather than human beings. I am a woman eager to be a mother, my partner eager to be a father. I'm eager to be a 'normal' woman like so many women around me. We've been left feeling numb with the cold reality that we have to wait for a third miscarriage before investigation takes place. I'm left wondering if I have the courage to try again even though I'm repeatedly told 'it'll be fine, it's common for two, it won't happen again, what's meant to be will be.' I'm sure these words are said with the best intentions but they have no comfort in them, no sympathy. I don't want to be a statistic, I just want to be a mum. I have so much love to give and just want the chance to do so.
I know I'm not alone and I am aware I'm 'lucky' because I've gotten over the first hurdle of conceiving and the second of implantation but I don't feel very lucky right now.
Yes I can conceive but no it's not been easy. It's taken years and a lot of tears to be in the position to 'catch' but still no happy ending. Therefore, I'm left wondering what is worse, not being able to conceive or being able to, doing so but never meeting your baby?
I am so grateful for your charity and your campaign to challenge the taboo around miscarriage. It is time to break the silence. I am not ashamed to speak out, in fact I want to. I want to talk, it's part of my road to recovery. It frustrates me that women and their families are left feeling like they can't open up and tell their story.
This frustration has led me to try and make a change, to try and help others. I'm lucky that I'm surrounded by many people who love and care for me, but there are so many women that aren't as lucky and have to suffer and conquer this horrendous situation alone. This is why I've decided to be proactive and organise an Autumn/Winter's ball in aid of your charity. I want to raise awareness but more importantly vital funds to help further your research. I'm writing to you for some support in doing so. Any advise, guidelines you can offer will be gratefully received.
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