The first miscarriage was not too hard to accept. It happened the day after I found out I was pregnant and I had a bleed. I knew that I wasn't that far gone, about 2 weeks.
The second miscarriage was hard. They told me at an early scan that I had a bleed just outside the sac and they would scan me two weeks later as they couldn't find a heartbeat. I was still upbeat and three scans later they found a heartbeat.
At the start of 7 weeks I was smiling from ear to ear. Then over the next week I began bleeding more and I knew there was something wrong.
I called my midwife and she told me to go to our local A&E, so I did. They told me it was nothing and that you can bleed in pregnancy.
They didn't offer me a scan and although I told them that I had a bleed outside the sac they didn't seem to worry. I booked an early pregnancy scan through my midwife on the Monday.
That day became a blur, I had lost the baby. I carried the baby inside me for another two weeks which is the norm to see if my body would reject it.
When it didn't I was booked in for a D&C a week later.
I was carrying this baby for 3 weeks, why didn't the hospital book me in straight away they knew that there was no heartbeat?
This May I had another miscarriage, I went to a different hospital and it was dealt with straight away. I have had to move on with my life.
They need to look into more support for families and not leave it so long before they deal with the situations.
They also need to look into why miscarriages happen. We are now under the care of the same hospital and having another shot at becoming parents.
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