There was nothing anyone could say to comfort me.

I'm sat here typing this for the first baby I lost at 10 weeks in June 2014

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April 2016

I don't think anyone quite understands how it feels unless you have gone through something so devastating yourself, and even then it affects everybody differently.

I started bleeding quite early on at about 7 weeks. The weeks that followed felt like I was in a numb state of limbo - waiting for growth scans, and constantly checking on my bleeding.

I just wanted each day to be over, so I could start the next.

I remember the day I actually miscarried I honestly thought I would never be happy again, and after that 'super-human' feeling of making and carrying a baby, I felt like a failure in some way. I felt completely empty.

People used to say things to me that they thought would help, but there was nothing anyone could say to comfort me.

Only a few people knew that I had lost a baby, and it was heartbreaking to think that the most awful thing had happened to me, but no one knew anything of it in the slightest.

I now have an 8 month old daughter and currently 7 weeks pregnant. I love my daughter more than anything in the world, she's our absolute everything, but it still doesn't take away the pain of losing our first baby.

People also don't understand how worrying it is being pregnant after suffering a miscarriage. My heart goes out to all of those who have gone through a similar situation.


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