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Sadly the scan showed I had lost the baby, there was no heartbeat.

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Early miscarriage

#misCOURAGE story Ella

I was so excited to find out I was pregnant with my first child, we had been trying, the pregnancy was planned and dare I say it we hadn't had much trouble conceiving.

We forward planned and saw my 12 week scan would be the week before Christmas. So we started planning a wonderful surprise for the family, cards from the baby to be with scan images and lots of excitement that Christmas would be wonderful.

Week after slow week progressed and the Saturday before my scan on the Monday I started bleeding. I went to A&E and waited nervously to see a Obstetrician. They were positive and believed it to be minor. They would expedite my scan for tomorrow if I wanted.I was happy to wait until the planned time.
Sadly the scan showed I had lost the baby, there was no heartbeat.

We were obviously devastated, 5 days before Christmas when all our plans had been finalised. My husband had to call everyone and deliver tragic news. I didn't want to leave home not knowing when the final bleed might take place. I eventually had to go to hospital as nothing happened for over a week.

I have gone on to have 2 beautiful, healthy children who are now 4 and 2, but with both I told people as soon as I saw them, I felt I would have so much more support as they were more prepared. It was such a lonely time and in hindsight it probably didn't have to be.

 
 

 

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