Secret miscarriage

I went for a scan and I was 9 weeks 5 days. But they couldn't get all the measurements they needed. So I went for a scan at 14 weeks to be told the baby didn't have a heartbeat.

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Finding out I was pregnant with baby number 6 was a bit of a shock. But my hubby and I couldn't wait. We decided not to tell anyone till we found out the sex. Then have a big surprise.

Went for a scan and i was 9 weeks 5 days. But they couldn't get all the measurements they needed. So I went for a scan at 14 weeks to be told the baby didn't have a heartbeat. The hospital then put myself, my husband and our 1 year old in a small office at the end of a corridor. It looked like it hadn't been used in 5 years. We spent an hour in this room listening to people in the room opposite hearing their babies heartbeats.

After an hour someone came in and said she would be back in 2 mins. 20 min later a different care worker came in, told us she was busy with a woman who thought she was in labour and wasn't. She then went on to tell us that we had 3 choices. After half an hour a she went to find us some information. Then she went back to sort a bed for the other lady, 40 mins past.

When she came back she sorted an appointment for a few days later. When we came back to the appointment we told her we would like to go with the surgical procedure, to then be told because I was in second trimester I couldn't have surgical. Then after messing around with that they made me an appointment to be started off.

In the end I found a clinic that would do the surgical. Well I was waiting for my appointment the miscarriage happened natural. I never went to the hospital. 3 times I have had to tell my doctor I lost the baby because they kept stopping my prescription because they had it down i was still pregnant. So it was hard dealing with the miscarriage without any support as we hadn't told anyone. And wrong advise from the hospital. It's been 8 month's since.




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