2010, 11th September. It was my birthday and I was looking forward to a holiday in Ibiza. I was pregnant.
We were so happy that we were going to have a baby. We had a due date of 11/5/11 and even had picked a few names. I had no clue where to start and as a bit nervous about changing nappies and feeding and making sure I was the best mummy.
Friday night, we were excited and had a suitcase packed ready to go on holiday. We had an early night. I kept having pulling pains all through the day and kept seeking advice from colleagues who had had children. ’Don’t worry it’s just your womb expanding coz baby is growing', they said.
However that night the pain got worse and I knew something wasn’t quite right. The pain was getting worse and I just had to go to hospital. I remember that day like it was yesterday - excruciating pain. But I still didn’t think our baby was in danger, I thought it was my gall bladder! Probably denial…
As they did tests and put me on the stretcher, we were told that I needed to go to surgery asap as the pain was caused by the rupture of my fallopian tube where our baby was growing instead of growing in the womb.
Our baby was no more.
After surgery I was heartbroken and didn’t know why it happened…I was even more upset that I didn’t know what an ectopic pregnancy was…
That no one ever mentioned the risks of an early pregnancy and what might happened…I was angry and upset. I lost our baby and my fallopian tube.
It was the worst day of my life and a very difficult few months!
I was heartbroken not just for me but also for my husband as we were so excited and had been looking forward to the future with our new addition to the family ….
On 30/5/2012, we were blessed with our rainbow baby but we always remember our first born angel every 11th of May
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