Story of #miscourage by Fiona,
We found out we were expecting again in March 2017 and we couldn't of been happier.
We made our first appointment with the midwife and got our 12 week scan, we were so excited and couldn't wait to see baby and for our 2 year old son to become a big brother. We went for our 20 week scan and they told us they couldn't complete the scan because of the way baby was lying so booked a scan the following week.
So in we went again to be told there was something looking "not quite right" and they would like to get a doctor to double check.
We sat anxiously waiting for the doctor to arrive, we were taken back into the room and she re- scanned and confirmed there was a problem with baby's heart. She moved us through to a family room and went to get things to show us to explain the problem, then we were given the news that baby's heart hadn't developed properly and the next step was to go to Glasgow to see specialists and have more tests carried out.
It seemed to take a lifetime for the appointment to come around but during this time the community midwives were amazing and then the day arrived to travel down.
We went in to the room to be scanned once more and then we're told there was nothing that could be done. There was major problems with both sides of the heart and as long as he was living off the placenta he would be fine but the minute he was born he would not survive.
We went to hospital on 19/07/2017 at 23+6 and after a 10 hour labour I gave birth to our sleeping angel Ben.
It has been an emotional roller coaster since and battling with thoughts and feelings but if there's one thing I've learned from it all its to not battle it alone and speaking does help and even though people may be reluctant to take you on or bring it up, once you are speaking they will slowly understand and no one should have to suffer in silence
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