It was so hard to come to terms with the loss. We had started planning a future with our two babies in it

Some people think social media and the internet isn't the place to share all of this, but I am because I don't want my baby (how ever young it was) to not to be recognised or to be forgotten.

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May 2016

by Natasha Venn

We thought baby number 2 was on the way, happy and healthy. Instead at 11 1/2 weeks pregnant, we were told that our baby had died, and had stopped growing around 7 weeks.

A few days before the 7th week, we had a scan and could see our babies heart beat!! We were both totally gutted and found it hard to come to terms with such a loss as we had started planning a future with our two babies in it. On the following Saturday, I was in agony, losing lots a lot of blood until I passed out at home. The ambulance came and rushed me away.

Morphine was given and I nearly had to have a blood transfusion, but they managed to stop the intensive bleeding after I fainted again at hospital. I stayed over night and passed my baby, but ended up having to have a small operation to get rid of a blood clot that was causing problems.

The worst part of staying over night was having my bed facing the scanning room where I had been told my baby had no heart beat

I was also sleeping next to someone who was as far along in her pregnancy as I had been, except she had a healthy baby inside developing as expected.

Now I'm home, I've had time to reflect and rest.

Some people think social media and the internet isn't the place to share all of this, but I am because I don't want my baby (how ever young it was) to not to be recognised or to be forgotten. I want to thank my amazing boyfriend Mark for being there for me day and night since we found out, supporting me, being with me every step off the way. He still is.

For my friends and family who I have been speaking too. It has helped me so, so much and I am so thankful. We are coming out the other side now, still a bit sore but in a brighter place.

I'm not looking for sympathy, but I just want to share our story so we can move forward with our life now.

We will never forget you little one x

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